• I have had cancer twice- I am right at 5 years post diagnosis. I am tired of hearing the word 'cancer' everywhere I go.

    Asked by Jackie on Saturday, October 8, 2011

    I have had cancer twice- I am right at 5 years post diagnosis. I am tired of hearing the word 'cancer' everywhere I go.

    While I understand the importance of awareness to raise funds for cancer research, sometimes I would just like to get through the day without hearing the word 'cancer' or seeing one of those ribbons. The constant reminders, while well-intentioned, sometimes feel like salt being added to open wounds. Any other survivors feel this way? And how about changing 'Breast Cancer Awareness Month' to 'Go Get Your Mammogram Month'??

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Sounds like you still have anger built up. I was that way when I was diagnosed for the 3rd time, after being clean for 20 years. I was mad at the world, it happened right at christmas time too. Everywhere I went there were people smiling all happy and no worries in the world. I was really po'd. That slowly changed and I evolved into a get even attitude. Now I am one of those people putting the word cancer out there everyday for people to see. The more awareness there is, the more funds will be raised for research, and someday you wont have to see the word cancer. You don't see the word "polio" everyday do you? It was cured years ago. Now it's cancer's turn to be cured so we don't have to see the word everyday.
      It will get better for you.

      about 5 years ago
    • MAGNUM1's Avatar

      I totally understand your feelings; I do feel the same way sometimes. But it is the constant public awareness, of cancer, that helps in the fundraising efforts. I have been battling cancer for over 7 years now. I have been in remission twice; not currently.
      I am hoping for a cure to be discovered, in time for me. I dislike hearing about and seeing daily reminders, referring to the dreaded "C" word. But if this is what it takes to lead to a cure, the world can bomb bard me, with everything phrase- symbol-that serves to keep cancer research-in the public's eye!! Research for a cure requires millions of dollars. I am a 61 year old GUY.
      But if it helped find a cure for breast cancer(for example)-- I would even wear PINK "boxer" shorts, to help the cause! Wouldn't be the prettiest sight, I can assure you......

      about 5 years ago
    • kimjx6's Avatar

      jackie, i totally get it. I'm in the same boat as you. As for raising awareness, i agree with that also..but what sucks is that it's always "breast cancer" that gets the publicity. I don't see anyone raising money to cure my kind of cancer. And it is exhausting. To be perfectly honest you know how i handled it? I stopped listening to the radio and stopped watching tv. Not kidding. I couldn't pick up a magazine. I listened to Lady Gaga every day for a year. Nothing else. I surrounded myself with messages that worked for me and i totally tuned out the rest. Every time i turned on the radio i'd hear an ad for cancer..in fact, I wrote one of them...and just when i thought i was "up" i was dragged back down. It's not healthy or helpful. Like i said, i agree with raising awareness and raising money but it's hard for people dealing with the disease. My advice is to do what i did. Surround yourself ONLY with messages that help YOU. Whatever those messages are. It will help keep you focused, help keep you balanced and help keep you positive. THAT's what's most important for you. Let other people worry about the other people. It's not being insensitive to other, it's doing what's best for you. And after all, that's really all that matters right now. In the future, worry about others. Now is your time.

      about 5 years ago
    • grams2jc's Avatar

      My breast cancer journey began last year in October, and not because of the publicity. I spent the month scared and worried and couldn't turn on the tv or pick up a paper or magazine and escape it. This year I feel like one of the "cool kids" and I didn't do anything good to deserve it, and I was never a cool kid; really must say I just don't get it. I am grateful for the good done by the bc organizations but know that they all have flaws. I would love to see ALL cancer eradicated, and have high hopes for all of the current research and the new treatments.
      Cancer sucks, ALL cancer sucks, and I am sure it is just a matter of time before the mainstream moves on to another cause and we don't have pink lightbulbs, trash bags, batteries, and wine bottles shoved in our faces each October.
      Hang in there guys, it's only 31 days.

      about 5 years ago
    • abrub's Avatar

      kimjx6 - I'm with you. Mine is Appendix cancer - one of the rare cancers. I, too, find the constant emphasis on breast cancer to the exclusion of other cancers a problem (and my mother is a breast cancer survivor.) Meanwhile, for my cancer, there are no research dollars, and we get treated with a "best guess" but without the research.

      about 5 years ago
    • lovekitties' Avatar

      I understand what you are saying. It seems I can't even pick up a novel these days without there being some reference to someone having/dying from cancer. I do believe that the awareness forces may have gone over the edge...after all how many pink things does one person want...and anyway I have/had colorectal cancer and our color is BLUE. I don't have an aversion to finding a cure for breast cancer....but sure would like them to find a cure for ALL cancers.

      about 5 years ago
    • mspinkladybug's Avatar

      I HATE OCTOBER i am sick of pink ! i know what you mean

      almost 5 years ago
    • Elizabeth's Avatar

      The day I found out I had Cancer I went to the grocery store to grab some pie (I like pie its my comfort food) and walked by the news paper stand to see Pink news papers. I then said to my sister "I know this is bad but I am tiered of seeing PINK what about the other Cancers?". Basically Awareness Ribbon's don't bother me because they are for a good cause but it would be great to see other Cancer Awareness Groups in the Spotlight.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Molly72's Avatar

      We are all in the same boat, but those who have breast cancer are in the biggest (pink) boat, those who have the common types of cancer are in a smaller boat, and then the rare types are in a dingy!
      I was just on a cruise vacation & on the ship they had a fund-raiser for breast cancer, & gave out shirts & prizes for those participating, or breast cancer survivors. Nothing for any other types of cancer. I was recuperating from angiosarcoma surgery, and felt left out.
      I don't really understand why all the emphasis is only on one type of cancer, we should all be equal to the American Cancer Society.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Staci1219's Avatar

      I know what ya'll are saying and that is why I am here... I am an advocate for the ACS and am trying my best to help out in getting the word out for all types of cancers. I am here to help ya'll fight, and also through ya'lls battle if ya'll just need someone to talk to...Take a look at my proflie and contact me if you would like. Send me a personal email if you would like also.

      almost 5 years ago
    • babylady317's Avatar

      I know what you mean, especially in October. However it makes me feel we are not alone. When my mother and my aunt had breast cancer years ago it was hushed up, not discussed. All the awareness makes me feel more empowered, more places to turn for support.

      almost 5 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      I think like anything else, we connect with what we know and what is on our own minds. There is a constant media bombardment of lots of things from breakfast cereals to starving children in Africa. We are just more aware of the cancer bombardment because we have a direct connection.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Staci1219's Avatar

      Hey guys this is Staci again, as I've said before I'm an advocate for the ACS and If there is anything I can do to help let me know...I have been following this post and I'm trying to work on something where we can get something going for awareness for other cancers out there. I have just moved to a new area and have a new person to work with so maybe we can get something going this time. Hang in there with me, don't get discouraged...if ya'll need anything feel free to follow me or click on the exchange email link, I don't mind.. thats what I'm here for.

      almost 5 years ago
    • vmoore1972's Avatar

      I totally agree my husband has been though the ringer surgery removal of his lung and had pnemonia and sepsis and from all the issues from surgery is a type 2 diabetic and going thru Chemothreapy and Radiation. We here so much about Breast Cancer so little about Lung Cancer "invisable cancer". But I agree we just want one night sit down and enjoy something on t.v. without cancer omg its crazy . Please if any one knows of anytime fundraisers for lung cancer near phoenix please let us know.

      almost 5 years ago

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