• I have just been diagnosed with Prostate Cancer. This is a total surprise, how am I suppose to be feeling?

    Asked by toml on Monday, August 8, 2011

    I have just been diagnosed with Prostate Cancer. This is a total surprise, how am I suppose to be feeling?

    11 Answers from the Community

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    • abrub's Avatar

      In total shock. None of us truly believes we will get the big "C". I know my head spun for weeks, and even 4 years later, after multiple surgeries, chemos, complications, I am still in disbelief.

      You've just been hit with a life-altering (life-threatening) piece of information. It takes time to digest it. People commonly feel numb, out of control, panicked, calm, in dis-belief. As DaveWaz says, there is no right or wrong way to feel. Your mind and body have you on this one, and whatever you feel is right for you. However, don't hesitate to look for support, for a counselor to help sort out the myriad of feelings.

      almost 10 years ago
    • lovekitties' Avatar

      You ask how you should be feeling. Once past the shock, I hope you are feeling determined…determined to do whatever it takes to help you survive.

      Each person ‘grieves’ about a cancer diagnosis differently, but the thing we all must have in common is the need to survive in spite of the cancer.

      over 9 years ago
    • toml's Avatar

      Thank you all for helping me. I have had the surgery, It was on the 15th of Aug. Everything went fine. The surgen was able to do it in about 4 hours. He said there was very little blood loss, so working was easy. He said the removal of the nerves was a piece of cake. It's been 8 days now and I went to see him yesterday. He said the prostate had 15% cancer on the right side and it was well contained. He did find a strange tissue on the lower end of the colon, so he took it. It came back as just tissue, no cancer. Right now I feel like I could go hiking with no problem. I had the cathitor tube removed yesterday, so I am having an issue with my bladder, but he said that should stop in a few days. the 6 holes that they put in for the tools are healing well. I can even sleep on my stomach. I had a problem with coughing the first 4 days, but now there is no pain at all.
      The doctor told me I can do anything I want as long as I don't lift anything for a while. Tomorrow I go do to have the things on my head checked out. I am sure it is skin cancer. I hope that goes as good. Thanks again, Tom

      over 9 years ago
    • PhillieG's Avatar

      I think others gave great answered. I have to agree that there's no "way" to feel about it. I guess one thing is feel lucky that you caught it and were able to have it treated. Lovekitties gave a great response too, beat the cancer, don't let it beat you. Be thankful for each day and stop to smell the roses (and have a cup of coffee too)

      over 9 years ago
    • Renavych's Avatar

      Like you just joined a HUGE universal club with very high dues.

      over 9 years ago
    • dennis' Avatar

      I've been through this twice now. The first time at first time was devastating to me at first, but after a lot of soul searching and thinking about what life was all about, my attitude changed and I knew I had to fight to get my life back. It has been six years now and it has been a fabulous time. In August I found out the cancer had come back, I was a little numb for a few weeks but only down a little this time. I guess I've grown a lot since I was first diagnosed six years ago. I've decided that I have the cancer, I'm going to deal with it and make each day count and make it the best day that I can. I look for any and all things positive that I can find each day, look for ways that I can help others, I am grateful for all of the little things that make life good, and basically enjoy living. I am doing a clinical trial now to deal with the re-occuring prostrate cancer where I am receiving both hormone therapy and radiation and I am receiving so many blessings that I cannot count them. I actually feel that I am heathier now than when I started treatment and have a very positive outlook for the future no matter what happens. I think one of the keys to overcome the bad effects of this disease is to maintain a positive attitude, find the best treatment, and enjoy life as best that you can.

      Good Luck

      over 9 years ago
    • Fredfred's Avatar

      I recommend that you find a prostate cancer support group near you.
      You will find people there that have been down the road.
      It will give you a chance to hear their stories and help you understand the decisions you will soon have to make.
      The first one will be rather to watch and wait, or to address it now.
      Then you will need to decide on treatment options and doctors.
      Fortunately, prostate cancer is one of the more survival cancers.
      At least that is what I have heard from a lot of different doctors and people.
      I wish you luck and offer to help you with questions.

      over 8 years ago
    • BruceInErwin's Avatar

      As someone who what just diagnosed with Anal Cancer, I went through a few days of extreme depression. I allowed myself to cry when I needed to and to feel what ever feelings arose. I am very blessed to have a GREAT support system. My family, friends, co-workers and my faith got me through it. There is no right or wrong way to feel when hearing you have cancer. What ever you are feeling at the moment is the way it should be at that time.

      over 8 years ago
    • Ofie's Avatar

      The first clue I had was that I became jaundiced. I had pancreatic, so don't know about Prostate, but with my illness, I had the surgery. Hated the hospital ICU, came home and did not experience much of any pain, so I felt slowed down a lot, but started feeling pretty good very soon, until I started Chemo. Nasty stuff, but I toughed it out for a year....now I am in remission for breas, pancreatic and lung cancers. Everyone deals with this in different ways. I know people who have chemo on the weekend and go to work on Monday. How? Sounds impossible to me. Some people go thru chemo and continue their exercise regime. How? Again, I can't imagine. I do wish that I had had some kind of exercise, besides a little walking, so that I might have stayed toned up a bit. Anyway, God bless.

      over 8 years ago
    • notwillie's Avatar

      Glad to see you here but sorry for the reason! You feel how you feel. Each day it will likely change as you go through the five stages of grief. Meanwhile there is hope and a great group here to offer support. My husband was dx a year ago with stage IV metastatic adenocarcinoma. A year later the shock has worn off and we are still hoping to have as much time as possible together. We make the most of each day and let tomorrow's cares take care of themselves. Hoping the best for you!!

      over 8 years ago
    • garcialatigo's Avatar

      recently diagnosed (dec 26 2012) with prostate cancer stage IIB gleason score (3+3=6) , psa 4.5 of 12 biopsy samples 6 positive. sad and mad most of the time. afraid of side effects of syrgery which is schedule for march 18. but wishing for the best. promise you that my prayers will include your recovery.

      about 8 years ago

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