• I have stage lV nsclc. I have a great outlook on life, even though my prognosis is very bad .so I have a question to all of you.

    Asked by Leung on Sunday, May 5, 2013

    I have stage lV nsclc. I have a great outlook on life, even though my prognosis is very bad .so I have a question to all of you.

    On the days (and they're really not that many), sometimes I get really depresses. Most of the time I can talk myself out of it and change what I'm doing then I'm ok. However, sometimes that doesn't seam to work. Anyone have some quick tricks that work for them? I will talk to the doc if they get worse. I think right now I just need a few mre ideas to get my mind off of everything. I have a husband, 6 kids and 8 grandkids. I'm 57 and very active. I would rather not do anymore drugs if I don't have to! My family is wonderful about everything! Please help!

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    • Genjen's Avatar

      I get that way esp if I've been sick more than usual so I have 2 to 3 people that I can call anytime day or night to help me get thru the dark times, sometimes they let me XXX or I tell them to tell me what they did for that day so I can get my mind off of myself, it seems to work most of the time, also I try to do something that I really enjoy, walking, listening to music, making jewelry, doing crafts, rollerblading etc... Hope this gives you some ideas!

      over 4 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Hi Leung,

      sorry your having a hard time. It's not easy so don't think that there is something wrong with you in feeling this way. What I have always tried to do is keep my mind off of what I don't want, and on what I do want. Sounds simple I know, but it works for me. If you dwell on the sad and bad things about your life you will be in the dumps all the time. The power of a positive attitude is amazing.
      Try this, and others will have a few tips for you too. You may also find that coming to this site everyday and seeing how others deal with their cancer might inspire you.

      over 4 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      Know this...Today Dr's are really excited about the quick progress being made in Lung Cancer treatment. Its moving so very quickly. Faster than they ever would have thought just a few years ago. So if you can stay healthy and active you are on the cusp of treatments that will prolong life until we have a cure which most are saying in the next 5 to 10 years for lung cancer.
      Yesterday at my new Internal Medicine Dr. a Professor and University of Chicago she said she has several people in her practice that are several years out now with L C and doing fine. She thinks they will make it to the cure.
      Hold on and stay strong..

      Look at how the stats are all off.. Look at my recent posted article..went from 13% to at least 34% but I think more like 50% so the same for stage IV..The numbers are all way off.

      over 4 years ago
    • bbay65's Avatar

      Maybe look at pics of the grandkids. I find driving or cleaning w/ upbeat music that I know the words to helps. Good luck!

      over 4 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      Physical activity is wonderful for fixing mood in the short and long term. Are you able to get outside and go for a walk? This may be quick trick you're looking for.

      over 4 years ago
    • mistymaggie's Avatar

      I have the same outlook as you--I do not think about prognosis -- I have not even asked my Dr about it and he has not offered one--I have sclc and diagnosed and started treatment about 2 months ago--I keep busy with computers, house projects that I never found time for, new prpjects--movies, read, music, Wife, Grand Kids, Maggie my Dog :). Keep the good thoughts flowing and Thank God Every Day--good vibes from CAS <3

      over 4 years ago
    • Jray's Avatar

      I'm gonna go out on a limb here and be miss opposite. My husband is fighting stage IV nsclc. I spend so much energy keeping up with him and trying to be positive, but every now and then I get depressed. Personally I think a good cry can be cleansing. It seems to release all those emotions you've been stashing away and you can start out fresh. There's no shame in being depressed and no rule that says you have to be king or queen of happy land all the time. Every now and then let yourself feel, and then look into the night time sky and take in the wonder of the universe... I find that very calming.

      over 4 years ago
    • Buttercup's Avatar

      I don't know if this would be something you might be interested in but it has worked for me. I found myself sitting around crocheting or sewing but the cancer was always on my mind. I joined a volunteer group at BARCS. I love animals and thought it might be a good way of spending my time. I socialize cats that are up for adoption. It is very rewarding. I now have a dog named Bongo who I am fostering. He is a love and has gave me a reason to get up in the mornings. His training is coming along well and hopefully he will be adopted by a loving family. Volunteering has made me think of myself in a different light. I am more than lung cancer and I can make a difference for abused and unwanted animals. I have cut back on my depression meds and am feeling much better about myself. I don't think it makes any difference what type of volunteering you would be interested in. I am just glad I am still able to make a difference in this world before I move to the next.

      over 4 years ago
    • Journey's Avatar

      I am 68, have stage 2 or stage 4 nsclc (still not positive which, but treating like stage 4), non smoker, diagnosed almost 3 years ago, now in remission. I also have diabetes and take care of my 99 year old mother who depends on our help. When I get depressed, I fix myself a cup of my favorite tea: (Earl Grey, Lavender Green Tea, or Black Currant). I also enjoy looking at flowers which I bring into the house or enjoy seeing in my neighbors' gardens. With diabetes, I learned how much exercise helps with my blood glucose numbers, but it also helps with stress and depression --so I walk every day. I have always enjoyed knitting, so I am knitting and learning the new techniques that I always wanted to learn. I am back doing genealogy and looking for some of my ancestors back in the 1600s. (Genealogy makes history come alive, and I am glad that I live today rather than then.) When going through treatment, I kept thinking of all those people who helped me get through this -- so many wonderful, thoughtful, and loving people. I try to stay positive and think how lucky I am to enjoy each day. Hang in there and try to stay positive.

      over 4 years ago
    • shopaholic25's Avatar

      Hi! I'm usually in a good mood, but on occasion, I get angry or weepy. I am angry because I'm a nsclc stage 4 who never smoked. I took care of both of my parents (mom had alzheimers & she died young in 2003; dad had several heart issues & he died in 2011 with heart failure). I was diagnosed in 4/2012 and I don't think it was "fair" for me to get this "disease" after I spent so much time in my life to take care of my parents. I expected to enjoy my life (I am now 59) for many years. I was also stunned because my grandparents lived until 86 or 92 yrs old.

      It was determined that I had a gene mutation, so I am taking the Tarceva pill. I pray that Tarceva works forever. I stopped reading about stats because they are old & there are new clinical trials, etc.

      I finally went to a support group. I'm okay most of the time, but I do get bummed out sometimes. I'm mostly depressed when a cancer patient dies, whether I know he/she or not. There is a mortality group to help, but I haven't gone to that yet.

      I have changed my diet with assistance from www.beatcancer.org. They will provide info via phone (no cost) to help you improve your healthy cells. They might have info on using other than medicine. The woman who started this org lost her young hubby from cancer and it forced them to research food, etc. There are other suggestions from this org: Cancer loves sugar, so don't use it anymore; go gluten-free (www.elanaspantry.com has great recipes); no corn or corn products; no dairy (can use organic butter & eggs; unsweetened almond milk); nothing white (rice, wheat, sugar); no caffeine; no microwave. Regarding the sugar...I had a PET Scan and I had to drink something with glucose that lights up the cancer cells.

      There are some websites that were given to me from other cancer people several months ago:


      Please let me know you're doing!


      over 4 years ago

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