• I'm devastated.

    Asked by JanetA on Friday, March 28, 2014

    I'm devastated.

    When do you stop feeling sorry for your self. It's gets worse every day. I can't stop crying. And I can't even look at my self in the mirror. Nobody understands. I can't talk to my family because they get too upset. I'm so mad.

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    • dhall's Avatar

      As with the rest of our community "I" agree you are experiencing very real and normal feelings for the situation thrust upon you, it can be allot to absorb all at once / suddenly! Being emotional as a result seems completely natural! My diagnosis came 10 days after being admitted for emergency surgery, which altered my life forever, every thing changed in less then 24 hours. For me the goal has been to salvage the best of what I have left! I hope that there is a lot of "Good" left for you and that "YOU" may have the opportunity to enjoy it to the most!

      about 8 years ago
    • kalindria's Avatar

      There's a lot of good advice here. I know I cried when I first got my diagnosis. It's normal. All our plans and hopes and expectations have just changed in an instant. That takes some adjusting. Give yourself time to grieve your changed status. Find someone you can talk to - family, friend, someone. Talking about this new journey will be helpful. Many hospitals/medical centers have cancer groups that get together and talk about exactly this kind of issue and many others. Check to see if your care providers have a group for you.

      Finally, my toughest battle is not trying to be strong for everyone else. I am learning to ask for help, to say when I don't feel well, to include family, friends and loved ones in my struggle. I am strong and I will come through this but I need their help and I will ask for that help.

      We're here for you too. Hugs!

      about 8 years ago
    • Whitey61's Avatar

      Diagnosis is tough on every one of us, but we accept it, what other choice do we have?, , What works for me is my spiritual beliefs , I stay as active as possible, I exercise 3 days a week, I chair a support group, I volunteer in the livestrong YMCA program as a program mentor for other cancer patients, I have a supportive family and friends network, and I never look back at what I've been thru..I live for the day and look to my future, , anytime I have a down moment, I just thank God for another day, I've lost family , co-workers and friends suddenly, we are all going to die eventually, make the most of the time we are blessed with and keep living...Don't let Cancer dictate your life....LIVESTRONG.

      about 5 years ago

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