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    I'm having a hard time driving! My mind is going in the wrong direction?

    Asked by Hay on Sunday, June 19, 2016

    I'm having a hard time driving! My mind is going in the wrong direction?

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    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Call your doctor and explain your feelings to him/her, as you put in your Experiences here. You might benefit from medication.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Sue_2015's Avatar
      Sue_2015

      What is happening when you drive, if I may ask, because you say you are having a hard time?

      almost 4 years ago
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      It may be part of chemo brain. It's hard not to drive, but you may just not be ready for it. Or it can be from pain meds or other things you are taking that effect your brain. Even dehydration can cause problems with your brain. Maybe don't drive for a week, and then try it again. And if it's too much, then call your doctor.

      almost 4 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Please DO NOT DRIVE. Does you medical center have help with transportation. My medical center had a voucher system where patients received free cab fare to and from appointments. Also get in touch with your local American Cancer Society for information about transportation to other places such as Grocery Shopping

      almost 4 years ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      In her "Experiences" section, she said she is confused and fighting with her daughter, which means she needs to call her doctor.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      Thank you all its helps to hear from you all. I'm not driving at this time, and my husband is off for two weeks. Oh where my port is in my chest half pulled apart, the other side has healed. So no chemo until it heals all the way. I hope I can get it together in my head that I have cancer and my hair fell out with one brushing! So one min I have long hair the next min I don't. I'm on meds for depression. To get back to my driving, I live in the country most of my life still do. Our town has grown so much too many people. Let's say I have take myself to chemo. I'm driving no big thing I'm 56 and been driving at 16 never had been stopped by police or anything. As I get close to this mad house that I have to drive in I feel stress, anger,sad, mad mad because I have to go. Then the tears come and I feel frozen. But I can't freeze I have to drive, and I make it. Oh let me tell you all that I've had heart surgery, two neck, female surgery,now both of the girls are going I hate the way they have to go but not sad about them as they were big when I was 13 heavy and I will be free. But my hair is another. I'm going to ask my doc. Thank you all

      almost 4 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB (Best Answer!)

      Hay your driving difficulties sound like a form of panic attack or maybe PTSD. Have you seen a counselor . My cancer diagnosis did trigger panic attacks for my daughter. She actually fainted on one occasion. I suffered terribly from panic attacks from another traumatic situation. I saw a counselor who was a certified medical hypnotist (that was about 13 years ago) I only have about 1 or 2 flashbacks a year from that event now) When I got cancer the first time, I was happy to learn that one of the counselors was a medical hypnotist. She helped us both. But again please
      Do Not Drive until you have resolved this matter.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      I'm not driving I thought the same as you said panic attack! And my daughter does not help me by running her mouth. I've been through so much and not just surgery but life changing things.. So now cancer! How much can a person take?

      almost 4 years ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      I agree it sounds like panic. I have a couple friends who take turns taking me when my husband can't. Don't know if that is an option but if it is I would recommend it. Sometimes it is just too much for me and my husband and having someone else like my sister or a good friend makes the time goes faster and I feel less panicked. Maybe even a support group in the area that offers rides. For now I can send ((hugs)) and best wishes. Sandi

      almost 4 years ago
    • Sharlie's Avatar
      Sharlie

      Wow, sounds like you've been through a lot! Even though I don't know all of the details, I'm sorry for your having been through so much and then having to deal with cancer and all that goes with it. When you read some of the stuff people have and are going through on this site, you'd be amazed and how much one person can take. I think when you are through these treatments and you can look back in hindsight, you'll be amazed at just how strong you were! That's what life has and continues to teach me. I did not have chemo and yet I had what I called 'chemo' brain. I was 68 when I had my bilateral mastectomy. I've had various surgeries over the years and the last major one was having both knees replaced at the same time 7 years ago (I seem to like to do things in pairs). But it took longer for my brain to recover from this surgery and at the time I did some reading about how it takes folks longer to recover as we get older. Then about a month after the surgery, I began taking Tamoxifen and that caused me more brain fog (along with other side effects) and I quit that after three months. To me, it seemed that the brain fog took about 10 months to pretty much clear up after all of that. So most definitely talk with your doctor about it and know that there is pretty much an answer out there for everything. And tell your daughter that you would her appreciating your privacy...or you'll resort to duct tape! Wishing you all the best.

      almost 4 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Hay I have a thought perhaps your daughter is going through some trauma due to your diagnosis. If you had had a good relationship before your diagnosis she might be reacting to the stress of your diagnosis. As I said my daughter developed panic attacks and uncontrollable crying. My son already had PTSD from Iraq so having to be my caretaker during the second cancer has been extremely hard on him.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      My daughter is a very good girl will woman. She's very hyper and at this time I need someone that's not! I'll live in the country and she lives in the city I am from Columbus Georgia about an hour to Atlanta Georgia. She does a lot of volunteer work and wants me to help her, we did programs here that would feed the helpless in sick . So I don't think she would be the answer to help me through. She homeschools my grandson, she has a lot on her plate. And if we spend time together Long enough will probably start Berkeley. She makes me nuts. LOL I do love her very much as she is my only child. I'm only child and my mother passed a year ago around Christmas. So had so much has happened over the past year! Yes I know having panic attacks and I will bring it up to my acc has happened over the past year! Yes I know having panic attacks and I will talk to my doctor.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Sharlie's Avatar
      Sharlie

      Sending you peaceful thoughts Hay. My only child (a daughter) lives about 20 minutes from me and we seldom see one another, unless she's dropping off or picking up my only grandchild, a granddaughter who will be nine in a few months. She is busy as well as most parents are these days with many after-school activities. I love my daughter to death, we have worked together a few times over the years and lived together off and on...but she drives me crazy at times, as I probably do her. All of my other family is long gone, so I can relate. But I know you've got this. Somewhere in the deep inner resources of your being, it's going to work out.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      Has anybody here had trouble with port healing? Half is closed and the other opened up and having trouble healing.went to the doctor that put it in, he said no chemo until it heals! I'm stage III breast cancer so what I'm a supposed to do let it keep growing into the nodes more?

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      Sharlie I am with you sister!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      As women I find that we are stronger when it comes to pain. But then there comes a time when we can't control it. It controls us!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Sharlie's Avatar
      Sharlie

      I've heard that on average cancer has generally been growing in our bodies for 5-8 years before it is even detected. With that in mind, don't worry about the weeks you will have to wait for your port to heal to begin the chemo again. Even if it grows a little, I don't think it will really affect the outcome in the long term. In many cases, it's the stress that will kill us. To a certain degree, any illness has some control over us, what we can eat, what activities we can do, etc., but you the ultimate control over how you deal with it. You can take charge, be your own best advocate, learn much about everything you're going through and be best darn self-advocate the world has ever seen!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      Yes you're right! I've been sick all my life I'm tired of pain, Having to rest when I don't want to and the list goes on and on. At this time I am doing my best to get to the point that I cannot worry about the surgery of the girls going. I don't even have it to learn about everything whether it be cancer heart disease high blood pressure. I done as told by my doctors and I know that that we we hold our life in our own hands. Most of the time only way. Good night all

      almost 4 years ago
    • Donnabakins' Avatar
      Donnabakins

      I had the same experience during chemotherapy and chose to quit driving. I felt like cars were coming at me from everywhere and I hyper reacted. I had a friend ride with me to confirm my observations. He agreed I didn't need to drive.

      It wasn't long after I completed chemo that I felt safe on the road again. Let the friends and family who want to do things for you become your chauffeur.

      Good luck dear!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Hay's Avatar
      Hay

      Well you're not alone and I'm not driving! I felt the same way Donnabakins it's hard for people to understand, my husband could not but he said if I said was, help I will get.

      almost 4 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I am so glad you are not driving. My PCP said that I had to pass a driving test before I should drive after treatment. Unfortunately the combination of chemo and radiation damaged my eyes so they are uncorrectable to driving standards, I also developed unrelated neurologic issues.
      I will keep you on my prayer list.

      almost 4 years ago

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