• I'm not sure quite how to take a statement from an acquaintance.

    Asked by BobsProstate on Wednesday, February 12, 2020

    I'm not sure quite how to take a statement from an acquaintance.

    A friend, distant, but still a friend saw me in a local store the other day and was asking me about my diagnosis. After my giving her a rundown about what has happened and what treatments I have had, surgery, etc. and my current status, she then says, "well, you know you brought this on yourself don't you"? I almost fell over. I asked what are you talking about? She said it was because I had not been to church enough recently. Now I'm not an atheist, devil worshiper, or anything like that. But, I'm not a holly rolling go to church 5 times a week either.

    After absorbing what she said all I could say was "really"? And I just walked off. Have you ever been attacked like this and accused like this?

    19 Answers from the Community

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    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Reminds me of my mother always telling me " Aha God punished you" As I have gotten older I have realized that that is one of the most unchristian statements one can make. She does not represent people of any faith. Your response was right on

      3 days ago
    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      For many of us religious/believer types, it is not punishment. It is testing. In my view, if I am created, the Creator has an absolute right to test me. Ford, Chevy, Honda and Toyota do as much.

      Boeing should have.

      3 days ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      @po18guy I share your beliefs. Since I have moved to a new city I have become active in our church. One of the church ministries is a cancer support group. Although we approach our cancers is spiritual, the group is open to everyone. I would say that no member of that group would say to anyone "You got cancer because you did not attend church enough" We don't even share this thought among ourselves. God does not give us cancer he permits it in our lives. It is also my "personal belief" that how we deal with cancer just might tip the scales toward our entrance to heaven.

      3 days ago

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