• I've been fighting off some mental issues, I think it's depression, but I've never had this before

    Asked by aeasghMX on Sunday, September 1, 2019

    I've been fighting off some mental issues, I think it's depression, but I've never had this before

    I just feel sad, mad, scared I'm going to die from it, etc. I don't know if this is just a normal part of cancer or if I have full blown depression. I don't care for therapists I am wanting to know how do I pull myself out of this without going to councelors/therapists?

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    • Bengal's Avatar

      Yes,this is all normal. I too resisted going to a mental health councillor. I insisted I could deal with it on my own; the anxiety, depression, fear, etc.... Of course I had all these issues. I had been diagnosed with cancer and I'd been through the XXX of treatment but I refused to recognize this as a mental health issue. Fortunately, folks at my oncology unit kept bringing it up with me until I finally agreed to check into it just to shut them up! Best decision I've made. It doesn't really change anything; you still have to deal with all these thing but having someone to talk to, in confidence, is like having a pressure valve.

      11 months ago
    • Jay's Avatar

      As a survivor of four cancers, I can relate to what you’re going through. I think you should consider finding a therapist who works with people like us. It really helps to talk to someone who you can tell your darkest feelings to. I went through several therapists before I found the right one for me. I fought doing this, but I wish now I would have sought counseling sooner. It really helps to talk about what’s happening to you. Try meditation. It helps. Ultimately, it’s you that has to take charge and use your higher power to help you through this. It’s so normal to feel the way you do. Keep yourself busy! It really helps to help others as it helps one forget about what’s happening to ones self. Volunteer if you can handle it. Take care! Unfortunately, the world does not stop and give us a break. You can do this if you try. Baby steps.

      10 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar

      Many people experience these feelings after a cancer diagnosis. It's normal. I recommend talking to your oncologist - they can refer you to a counselor who has worked with other cancer patients.

      When I was diagnosed with systemic lupus about 25 years ago, I was at the peak of my career. I feel into a deep depression with anxiety and could barely function. My internist suggested a physiatrist - I hesitated - but he insisted. It was the best thing that I ever did. He prescribed an anti-depressant and I could literally feel the dark curtain of depression lifting. He also taught me coping mechanisms to help me deal with the uncertainty of a serious disease.

      About 15 years ago, I got into remission from the lupus.

      Five year ago, I was diagnosed with Stage IV rectal cancer. The coping skills that the physiatrist taught me so many years ago got me through my year of treatment and the years of follow-up. Give a counselor a try. There is no need to suffer.

      10 months ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar

      Reading all of the above it seems we all shared being hesitant to seek additional help when it came to our mental stability . I too thought nothing was wrong with me emotionally collapsing after hearing I had cancer and possibly two years to live . I was in a deep slump, “ who wouldn’t be?” I told myself. My gp at the time recommended a mild anti depressant. I refused at first , but then I relented . The difference in my attitude was very surprising. I became more determined, tears dried up and optimism returned. You have recognized you have a problem, I was in denial. Whatever choice you make in coping, therapist, support group, medication, or other it is important that you take care of your mental health so you are better able to handle the challenge that is cancer moving forward. Wishing you better days ahead mentally and physically.

      10 months ago
    • Lmorales' Avatar

      I too benefitted from seeing a therapist. During my treatment, I was too overwhelmed and sick to see someone (at least in my mind). After I finished treatment, I finally sought out someone who treated patient’s with breast cancer. She herself had had breast cancer. She always quietly asked questions or made statements that made me think. The biggest thing she did was remind me that I had been through a tremendous battle, and I needed to rest and take care of me - physically and mentally. I highly recommend going to someone. And today’s antidepressants help lift the darkness and as Lynne-I-am stated, they help you gain back the optimism that you need to feel better and/or continue the fight. It is a battle so arm yourself with the tools you need to fight well. I am also a woman of faith and my greatest power has come from a God who never left my side and held me in this weird bubble of peace (Philippians 4:6-7). I highly recommend spending some quiet time with Him as well. Be blessed!

      10 months ago
    • KB2013's Avatar

      My first thoughts are 1) this is a normal response to a cancer diagnosis and 2) first stop in search of relief would be a cancer support group.

      10 months ago

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