• I want to be the best support for my dear friend whom prostate cancer.......any suggestions would sincerely help. Thanks

    Asked by Kelly on Tuesday, March 6, 2012

    I want to be the best support for my dear friend whom prostate cancer.......any suggestions would sincerely help. Thanks

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      I have been on both sides, had cancer 3 times, and took care of Mom and Dad, who died within 10 months of each other, both from cancer. From the patient's point of view, mine anyway, I appreciated knowing people were concerned and wanted to help, I didn't want someone being overbearing and wanting to do everything for me. I was sick, not dead. So there is a fine line somewhere between and you will have to figure out where it is. Sorry, patients aren't always the easiest to read. Good luck in your venture, and thanks for looking out for someone who is fighting the fight.

      over 4 years ago
    • MichaelV's Avatar

      Prostate cancer can turn a man into a depressed state faster than anything I have ever seen. I have had a phrase I have used for many years, "Any day I get out of bed is a good day". It is hard to get to that point but it is what will save your friend from going down into that deep hole. If a man has surgery, radiation, drugs, chemo, etc. sooner or later his ability to have an erection will go away. I have several men who could just not get past that fact and have been told by several doctors that quite a few, faced with that side effect choose not to proceed with any therapy and die. Men don't like to talk about that problem but if you want to help, you have to get him to discuss it and accept it. From my personal experience, once you go on hormone therapy you can forget about your XXX(never liked that word since I was a kid, dick is the word!) and it is going to forget about you when it comes to sex and the cool thing is you(the man) will no longer be plagued by thoughts of sex. In many ways it can be a blessing. In my case, if I had know about hormone therapy back in my 20's I could have had a much more productive life!!!!! :-)
      There is a lot to be said about life. You have to find out what your friend feels life is. You may be quite surprised but accept what he says and then work with it so he keeps on talking and expressing his feelings.
      That is the best advice I can give you without more info. I hope there are more like you to help men who suffer from prostate cancer. Thank you from all men.

      over 4 years ago
    • TomLand's Avatar

      Caring Bridge is a great site where your friend, perhaps with your assistance if needed, can keep a daily journal and friends/family from anywhere can visit the site, read the journal and write in the guestbook. I have found it a most valuable service for myself. It is free but asks for donations. A Google search will find it easily.

      over 4 years ago
    • TomLand's Avatar

      Also, some great tips in the BLOG here. Just look at top right of page.

      over 4 years ago

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