• I was celebrating my 11th wedding anniversary when the doctor called.

    Asked by HearMeRoar on Friday, February 8, 2013

    I was celebrating my 11th wedding anniversary when the doctor called.

    Cancer is in the lymph nodes! Or at least the one they biopsied. I am so beyond scared that it will be everywhere.

    6 Answers from the Community

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    • Peroll's Avatar

      I understand your fear, Ihave had the same kind of fear, at least not in the middle of acelebration like yours. The timing of the call sucks. Fear is normal, so I won't tell you not to be afraid, it wouldn't work any how. The key is to not let the fear consume you and prevent you from functioning. You are in for the fight for your life and you have to be ready. Cancer can be beat, many here at WhatNext have done it and more are doing it every day. You need to take this as a call to battle and tell you Drs that you want nothing less than victory over the cancer whatever it takes. There will be time like today when you get down and feel scared, but there will also be more time where you can celebrate victory. You just need to be positive more often than you are negitive, We all expect to be hearing about how great your 25th and 50th wedding anniversaries were. Good luck.

      over 5 years ago
    • HearMeRoar's Avatar

      Peroll God Bless you for your kindness.

      over 5 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Of course you are scared. We all are when we first get our diagnosis. Once you speak with your oncology team and have a treatment plan in place, you will feel better, i know I did. Cancer can be beat. There are so many treatments available today, and more in the pipeline. Get a 2nd opinion if you like, I did. I trust my team but I feel a 2nd pair of eyes and someone with different experiences can only help us put together the best plan for me to beat this.

      over 5 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      I have had it in my lymph nodes three different times. Just because it's there doesn't necessarily mean that it's that much worse. Lot's of people here have been in your position before, and I'm sure they will chime in soon. Just try not to hyperventilate! What it means is, you just have to hit it a little harder, the docs will plan for it and you will come through the other side.

      Get tough! Get busy fighting!

      over 5 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      Wow, that was sucky timing. But it would have been sucky the day before or the day after or a month or 3 months........ You can't change anything at this point except your knowledge level. The one node they found could be the only one with cancer, it could be one of many. Only way to know is go forward and then plan the next step with better understanding of your situation. Think of it as problem solving with a goal of success, not predetermined failure. Go have a good cry, get it out of your system and then get busy doing something positive even if that is only the laundry.

      over 5 years ago
    • Nomadicme's Avatar

      Many women whose cancer has spread to the lymph nodes are celebrating 20 yrs plus being cancer free. Lymph node involvement will change your staging (making it higher stage than if the primary tumor alone was involved). Higher staging always means a higher probability of cancer recurring. It also means more aggressive treatment so you won't recur. I know it's hard not to be anxious, but try to face this with equanimity and hope. Apparently (and not explained by science), those that are more positive have better outcomes (it includes participating in support groups)
      To get you started, call the American cancer society and attend a Look Good Feel Better class. This class is for women, most of which have BC, and it teaches you how to draw on/build up eyebrows, among other makeup and skin care tips (for example, I was told to wash my bald head with the same mild wash that I used on my face (it makes sense, but I think I would have used shampoo out of habit). They also give you samples of cosmetics and other things. It's a great class, it will make you feel better and introduce you to the great women that are on the same path you are. Remember, you're not alone and there's no need to face this alone.
      You're fairly young, there's a community of young breast cancer patients, and that could be a better support network for you. All the best.

      over 5 years ago

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