• I would like some tips on how deal with the return of the cancer

    Asked by BoiseB on Saturday, March 23, 2013

    I would like some tips on how deal with the return of the cancer

    I am fracing round 2. Is there anyone out there who has faced a second bout with cancer I wish to keep a positive outlook. One of the nagging feelings I have is that I have let my doctors down is this a normal feeling?

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Yes, there are lots of us her that went through 2 or even more bouts. I find it strange that you are concerned bout having let your doctors down. They work for you not the other way around. Would you think you had let you mechanic down if you were in a car wreck?

      over 5 years ago
    • Tracy's Avatar

      I had stage 4 cancer in high school, I was not expected to live past 18. I then had it return at age 46, everyone was saying that they had not seen someone who had had it 30 years before. I also have many other medical issues as a result of radical treatment. We are so much stronger than we know. Some times it is a case of taking it one day at a time and thinking of the things that made us happy. I have memories of fly fishing from a canoe on a lake that I picture when I need a positive boost during the low times. Find the happy times and hold on tight. You are very normal, cancer isn't. Tracy

      over 5 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Hi Boise B I have been through it 3 times. I had none of these feelings at the second time, the doctors said it had come back, I just said, Ok fine let's go, what do we do? We started another round of chemo.

      The third time, I had several different feelings. First, mad at everyone and everything. Then the Why Me? phase. I had a hard time dealing with this one. Then after I met with the doctors the first time, all those feeling went away and I was back to the "lets kick this thing's axx" mindset. I never once thought that I had done anything wrong, neither should you. It's just sucky luck.

      Keep your mind right, stay positive and go get em. You can do it again, this time might even be easier since you know what to expect this time.

      We are all here to help if we can with anything.

      over 5 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      I am currently being treated for stage IV kidney and Breast cancer, both have manifested as lesions on my liver. I was first diagnosed with stage 1 kidney cancer in Nov 1995 and stage IV in 2009 - and I was in shock!!! In 2010 a 1cm stage 1 TNBC tumor was found in my left breast, it was treated with a lumpectomy and radiation. At the end of April last year, my regularly scheduled 3 month abdominal scan indicated that my Kidney cancer was still stable, but I had a new lesion on my liver, the biopsy came back positive for TNBC.

      You have not let your doctors down!!! I know I was angry at the universe after each diagnosis. Cancer is a tricky devil, and the more we learn about it, more devious it becomes.
      You are in a state of shock, which is understandable.

      Hugs, healing vibes and prayers. We are here to support you.

      over 5 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar

      Hi BoiseB. I am sorry your cancer has returned. I had my ovarian cancer return. In 2009 it was caught early at a stage 1c with no evidence of spreading. I did the chemo recommendation and was under the impression it would not return. Three years later it returned. The doctor did seem really surprised. I kinda feel like the doctor let me down but I believe this disease is very sneaky and tricky. I was mad when it returned but at least I knew what to expect especially with the side effects. This time I went to a different doctor and did the treatments. When I got this the second time it really jolted me and my family. It is kind of impressive to say I'm a 2-time survivor. I now have good and bad emotional days. A good thing was, my second time around I discovered this site!! No matter how weak I was these people were easy to access and were available. Also there is kind of an attitude of - I did this once I can do it again. No fun though I know. Take good care.

      over 5 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      Its part of the big area of guilt that goes with cancer. Its so very normal and for most people its part of the cancer journey. Google search Common emotions tied to cancer. People fell guilty in letting many people in their life down when cancer returns or they can't win the battle. read my earlier post.

      I am so sorry you feel this way..your not alone. sometimes even Doctors cause this because they are only human and they feel bad and might let emotions come forward.

      Any way you look at it its no ones fault you have cancer,,not yours , not Gods no one but the unfortunate events of nature.

      over 5 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      I'm also sorry you are joining our club! I was diagnosed in 2003 with DCIS, was cancer-free for nine years (after doing EVERYTHING (lumpectomy, radiation & Tamoxifen) that was recommended to avoid a recurrence)--BUT--cancer came back. This time, IDC, mastectomy & chemo. Why does this happen to certain people? What are the odds? Who knows? But I guess it's better than being struck dead instantly by a thunder bolt--which is also unexplainable.

      over 5 years ago
    • rosepetal57's Avatar

      I have not had a second bout, but I know many who have, and have fear every day that I will. You could NEVER let your doctors down, first of all. Their job is to find the right treatment for YOU. Always look ahead... and know that you beat this the first time, so you will again. Your positive attitude will help you heal...I believe that. My motto is: Stay strong, stay positive, stay focused. :)

      over 5 years ago
    • Mac's Avatar

      I never had a second round. When I was five years out, my doctor had me in his office and explained that technically I was free. If I wanted to come back for a check up every year, feel free to do so. I said, Doc, don't take them personnally, but I hope I never see your XXX again! Do I ever worry or have that little bit of fear? If I have a sore throat, sometimes swallowing might be worse than others, but overall - no. If it happens, it happens, deal with it then. There's Greg down there who went round 3 and he's mean as ever!

      over 5 years ago
    • LisaLathrop's Avatar

      I have (fortunately) not had my cancer return. However, look at the "bright" side....you surivived it ONCE, you can do it AGAIN! I recently met a man about 50 or so, and he is a 3 time LUNG cancer survivor....that is simply unheard of! Amazing! He is so positive and encouraging and living his life to the fullest each and every day. And NO you did not let your doctors down....unless of course you didn't take your meds, or didn't go with the options that they suggested. But....remember, everything happens for a reason and although you weren't considered "cured" the first time around....every day they are making advancements in treatments and finding new solutions and outcomes are improving. Keep the faith, pray and by all means, never, never, never, ever give up!

      over 5 years ago
    • wowwee's Avatar
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      ***For your information...

      from Johns Hopkins


      1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

      2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's lifetime.

      3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumors.

      4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

      5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

      6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

      7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

      8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

      9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.

      10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

      11. An effective way to battle cancer is to STARVE the cancer cells by not feeding it with foods it needs to multiple.

      What cancer cells feed on:

      a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Note: Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in colour. Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.

      b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soy milk, cancer cells will starved.

      c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.

      d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes t o nourish and enhance growth of healthy cells.

      To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).

      e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties. Water--best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

      12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines will become putrified and leads to more toxic buildup.

      13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

      14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

      15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor.

      Anger, unforgiving and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.

      16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.

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      over 5 years ago
    • wowwee's Avatar

      +Don't let it get the best part of you!

      +Know just how much you are loved.

      +Just take up your cross (cancer or whatever illness you are facing today) and look at the brighter side of Life daily.

      +Understand your purpose to live everyday. [Here is something to add to your list "things to do list"...listen to uplifting music & read lots of good books like THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE written by Rick Warren] It will change your life.

      *I am learning to thank God everyday that I have life...with have food to eat daily, running to bathe in or bottled water to drink often, fresh clothing to wear, a shelter to feel safe in, family & friends who care, and a beautiful world to discover getting to meet new people even just to be able to share a smile.

      That's how precious your life is! ;-)

      over 5 years ago
    • wowwee's Avatar

      +Don't let it get the best part of you!

      +Know just how much you are loved.

      +Take up your cross (cancer or whatever illness or problems you are facing today) and look at the brighter side of Life daily. It is a chance to learn how to give thanks for whatever circumstances good or bad...to make you become a stronger person.

      +Understand your purpose to live everyday. [Here is something to add to your list "things to do list"...listen to uplifting music & read lots of good books like THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE written by Rick Warren] It will change your life.

      *I am learning to thank God everyday that I have life...having good food to eat daily, running water to bathe in or bottled water to drink often, fresh clothing to wear, a shelter to feel safe in, family & friends who care, and a beautiful world to discover getting to meet new people even just to be able to share a smile or a hug.

      That's how precious your life is! ;-)

      over 5 years ago
    • Okiegirl's Avatar

      I'm on my second bout. Ive never felt I've let my Doctors down but I know how hard it is to hear that you have relapsed. I don't think about my limits or the leukemia. I think about my family and friends that helped me then and now. I struggle with depression but I dont want peoe feeling sorry for me. I try to stay positive and try not to let all the negativity surrounding the "C" word get to me.

      over 5 years ago
    • plumbermullins' Avatar

      After surgery to remove 95% of my esophagus over 17 years ago my gastroenterologist did let me know that there was a likelihood that the cancer could return in whats left or even in my colon. I get my checkups annually and live my live to the fullest, and do not dwell on maybes. You have the ability to decide your future and lead the way you did not fail anyone and above all do not fail yourself. Make your decisions for your reasons and within your ability's,look around there's always help somewhere and your experiences may help someone else. Good luck in your new adventure and win, godspeed.

      over 5 years ago
    • OakStoriesPty's Avatar

      I had a recurrence a year ago in feburary, and kept positive by setting a future milestone for myself - running a marathon in december (which I did, yeiii). I also got very involved in volunteering with a local Cancer fighting NGO and that kept my mind off my own troubles.

      Sta close to your friends and family, think happy thoughts, cry if you must but don't dwell on that. Focus on the future ahead and fight, fight, fight!

      Hugs from the Republic of Panama

      over 5 years ago
    • Cellkiller's Avatar

      I can't believe you didn't get responses to this question I too thought my esophageal cancer had
      disappeared . But it's back better than ever. When cancer knocked on your door you had no choice but to let him in. And usually he never leaves for good. Oh sure there are success stories
      but the ratio isn't favorable. That's life enjoy each day to the max don't waste what you have. keep fighting and maybe you can throw cancer out for good. Cellkiller

      about 5 years ago

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