• Is having Cancer what you thought it would be?

    Asked by grannys on Wednesday, November 21, 2012

    Is having Cancer what you thought it would be?

    I didn't know what to expect.

    11 Answers from the Community

    11 answers
    • Peroll's Avatar

      I suspect that most cancer patients are like me and we did not give what it would be like to have cancer any thought prior to our diagnosis. Thus we had no expextations about what it would be like. I know my first reaction was that I thought I would be dead in months, but 8 1/2 years later I am still here and still fighting. Evenafter the diagnosis I never thought I would be fighting it 8 years later. I also had no appriciation for the complexity of the treatments and the fight, how much you have to learn and how little the DRs really know about cancer and how to kill it permanently. So to answer the question No it is not what Ithought it would be because I didn't think about it and had no reference point from which to understnd it.

      almost 8 years ago
    • FreeBird's Avatar

      We learn something new every day. It has been full of surprises.

      almost 8 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      Before my diagnosis, I would look at cancer patients and feel bad for them thinking that all of them were terminal. In fact, a week or two before my diagnosis, I saw a lady in a chinese restaurant who was hiding her baldness with a scarf -- I remember wondering how she could sit there and be ordinary when she had cancer -- in a matter of weeks, I became that lady. I still think about her everytime I go to that restaurant. When I was diagnosed, I was positive that it was a death sentence -- that I would not be here this Christmas. However, once I had surgery and entered the battle, I found strength and hope -- and lots of special friends. Having cancer is definitely not what I thought it would be -- it is certainly a different world for me but I am still alive and appreciate each and every day.

      almost 8 years ago
    • SpunkyS's Avatar

      BC (before cancer) I thought I would never have chemo if I was diagnosed with Ca. And I thought if I ever need surgery you would need to hit me over the head and wheel me immediately into surgery. After being diagnosed I wanted to wait for surgery to get through Christmas which I thought would be my last one. And I decided on chemo.
      I thought this would be a bad experience. Even with the side effects I did have it was not as bad as I anticipated. I learned so much about myself and other people that this has turned out to be a positive experience. If God had taken me shopping to pick a blessing, Cancer is not one I would have chosen. But there have been so many good experiences that outweigh the negative that I am not sure I would trade it in. Wierd, yes. Like the song lyrics from Wicked

      "That people come into our lives for a reason
      Bringing something we must learn
      And we are led
      To those who help us most to grow
      If we let them
      And we help them in return
      Well, I don't know if I believe that's true
      But I know I'm who I am today
      Because I knew you..."

      almost 8 years ago
    • FreeBird's Avatar

      If it's not the one we ordered, can we return it?

      almost 8 years ago
    • Shoeless' Avatar

      No Granny, having cancer was not what I thought it would be. I thought it was going to kill me because that's what 3 different doctors told me. But I refused to lie down and take it - I fought and I won. Cancer free for 11 yrs now. It was no walk in the park, but it didn't beat me. And if it ever comes back, it won't kill me without one XXX of a fight.

      almost 8 years ago
    • po18guy's Avatar

      It has become far more of a blessing that I ever imagined. It has given me an appreciation for each day of life. As my wife said last February, "Every day is Valentine's day for us" and she was absolutely right. I give thanks each morning upon awakening, as there is never a guarantee that I will wake up. As odd as it sounds, looking back, I would do it again. Had I not received this diagnosis, my life would still be slipping through my fingers unnoticed. Now, I pay more attention. In truth, I am happy to be anywhere!

      almost 8 years ago
    • nobrand's Avatar

      It is nothing at all what I thought it would be-- I'll just leave it at that

      almost 8 years ago
    • packerbacker's Avatar

      27 years ago, I watched my brother suffer through chemotherapy and be sick for a week, the weight loss, the hair loss, the fatigue, the weakness. I took care of patients in the hospital who were near the end of their life. So, I was afraid when I was told I had cancer. But, my side effects haven't been terrible, so that was a relief. I also, as it has been mentioned, appreciate things and people more than I used to. And, I have met some interesting and wonderful people!

      So, for me, it as not what I expected - it has been better than expected compared to previous experiences. It sucks, but I plan on keeping up the fight! Best of luck to you on your journey!

      almost 8 years ago
    • IKickedIt's Avatar

      No, not at all and a year later, it still seems so surreal. Of course, like many people, I thought it was a death sentence. I also thought I'd be laying in bed the entire time. I worked, I continued to live and tried not to let the cancer control my life any more than it needed to.

      I also learned a lot about myself, my family, my friends, and the medical community. I certainly didn't enjoy the journey, but I realize that I'm a better person...a better wife, better mother, better daughter, better friend, better colleague, better caregiver, and above all, a more compassionate, appreciative person.

      almost 8 years ago
    • ranger1man's Avatar

      Not even close, I was diagnosed in Feb 1999 with bladder cancer and removal that April, before that I had no idea that bladder cancer was even an issue. Scared the XXX out of me. my mother had passed away 11 years prior of colon cancer at the age of 49, I was 39 when diagnosed, That was my first thoughts that I was going to beat my mothers age of death, April of 2013 will begin my 14th year since bladder along with prostate were removed, I manage with the day to day and night to night issues and having to use a cath to void isn't an issue any longer, the impotence affected me the worse of all the life changes associated with the neobladder install. So to answer your question, No it hasn't been what I expected, more a boat load more than my wildest dreams could have ever imagined, the ride hasn't been a fun one either... as I'm sure that's the case with everyone else. Chemo sucked.. plain as that.

      almost 8 years ago

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