• Is it common to hear from none of your friends and family after learning of your cancer diagnosis?

    Asked by Susan254 on Monday, November 24, 2014

    Is it common to hear from none of your friends and family after learning of your cancer diagnosis?

    15 Answers from the Community

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    • Suzieq2u's Avatar
      Suzieq2u

      Unfortunately yes. Only the ones that can't handle it emotionally. I believe in karma. They will be given a life lesson at some point in their life and have to deal with it whether they like it or not. I pray for you to be surrounded by positive and loving people during this difficult time. We are all your family here and you can reach out to us anytime! ((Hugs)) and prayers my dear.

      about 5 years ago
    • MikeAnne's Avatar
      MikeAnne

      Yes, my husband was diagnosed in January 2012 and has had his kidney removed and multiple treatments. Recently after CT Scan we were notified that cancer had doubled in size in his lungs and the space where his kidney was removed had a spot. His best friend since high school was very supportive up until recently and he has just stopped calling. My husband, an only child, thought of him as his brother so Mike is very hurt by this turn of events. Other friends comment--"what now" like we are bothering them. This is difficult, but we have found people that we never thought of as terribly close who, like other have said, always call and check on us and have really helped us through this tough time. Now that Mike is going to UCSF on a "Clinical Trial" they have really been there. We have learned who are true friends and family and it is great to know who they are especially now. God Bless. This site has helped me a lot too!

      about 5 years ago
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      I agree with the others. Unfortunately, it is YES. Sometimes, people don't know what to say, so they just back off. And it's bad because that is when you truly need your friends and family. I have a neighbor who hasn't even waved to me since the diagnosis. Like I am contagious or something. But I did find people did care about me and my situation and brought us dinners, gifts, and other things during this time. It's just so weird when people back away from you because you have cancer. But remember, it's their problem, not yours. You have enough to deal with. So ignore them and embrace the people who are there for you.

      about 5 years ago

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