• Is it "normal" for me to keep thinking..."I was getting my port put in a year ago today? " I started chemo a year ago today" anniversary???

    Asked by Jodi on Wednesday, February 6, 2013

    Is it "normal" for me to keep thinking..."I was getting my port put in a year ago today? " I started chemo a year ago today" anniversary???

    I think it's weird that I am thinking about it like anniversary. It's weird, right? Not sure why I am obsessing about this.

    11 Answers from the Community

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Remembering and obsessing are two different things. I wish I could remember but with chemo brain I can't remember any of those dates.

      over 5 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Your not obsessing, everyone of us at least thinks about the anniversaries, we all have them, several. Date of Dx, date of last treatment, last dr's visit, all sorts of them. As Nancy said, I can't remember them, my wife does that for me. Most of us are proud of those dates, it means you achieved something great, you beat cancer! So don't worry about it, go have a cake and a party and shout it out.

      over 5 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I celebrate my cancerversaries. January 6, 2012 was my official diagnosis. February 3, 2012 was my mastectomy and reconstruction. April 20, 2012 I started chemo. August 17, 2012 I finished chemo. September 6, 2012 I got the results that my scans were clear. I celebrated 2 year after anniversaries already this year.

      over 5 years ago
    • SMT4's Avatar

      I think it is normal to have specific dates in your mind regarding this disease because there are so many ups and downs, it is like a relationship. A relationship where you do all the work and hope there are more positive productive days then not. When I was first diagnosed all I could think about was the date I was diagnosed March 4, 2011. Then my mind started to focus more on surgery dates, the radiation, the remission, and then reoccurrence dates. In some ways your life has very much changed because of these dates and these dates represent significant life events, just like a birthday, anniversary, death, or graduation would.

      over 5 years ago
    • Jodi's Avatar

      Thanks everyone.... I don't feel so weird for remembering these dates. SMT4... that makes a lot of sense. I am sooooo looking forward to the 5 year anniversary date (August will be one year since my clear PET scan so I have a long ways to go). The doctors say I am not officially considered a survivor until I hit 5 years. I know I should not dwell on that "date" and I need to think positive and celebrate every day I am living!!! I am thankful. Sure, I have my bad days but i am doing good and so thankful for so much. Again, I appreciate all of your responses.

      over 5 years ago
    • myb's Avatar

      I'm coming up on my 1st cancerversary (like that term Nancebeth!), February 14th for Colonoscopy where the gastroenterologist diagnosed me with cancer. Amazing what difference a year makes!

      over 5 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar

      Please don't feel weird. Or, at least, no weirder than anyone else in the same circumstance. We have all been told for so long, it had been repeated over and over ... 5 years, 5 years, 5 years.

      That is how long the doctors track us, with less and less frequency, as the magical time approaches

      That is how long a time, we are told, passes by until we are considered to have pretty well escapsed a relapse or reoccurance of the same cancer and the point at which the odds of metastasis go way down.

      So count all you want. Have a party, enjoy a cake with a candle, invite your friends, do something you've always wanted to do but did not have the nerve or resources.

      This is the first anniversary of the rest of your life!!

      Were it not for the medical fireman (doctors) who put out the fire (got rid of the cancer), the building (our bodies) would have completely burned down and our light been extinguished.

      This is your first year reprieve.

      Celebrate as best you are able.

      Blessings for many more anniversaries celebrated in good health.

      over 5 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar

      There is nothing at all wrong with remembering. I am the caregiver of my husband and I remember one date, July 15, the day he was diagnosed with cancer. I think that date is burned into my brain. My husband on the other hand can remember every date of every test/biopsy/surgery/starting and ending dates of chemo and radiaiton he's had in the past 8 years of cancer entering his personal space. He just remembers and does not obsess over it--like nancyjac said they are two different things.

      over 5 years ago
    • warrior3's Avatar

      Jodi, I don't find that weird at all! I definitely remember the anniversaries of lots of my cancer "chapters", especially the day of my last surgery. That is the day that my doctor told me I was on my way to being cured. It's been 7 years and I send him a card thanking him on that day for saving my life. These dates are very important to us and I find it helps to look at these big events as being in the past, gone but never forgotten. Each anniversary is a step toward the cure.

      over 5 years ago
    • IKickedIt's Avatar

      How ironic that you posted this question because just last week, I had my 2nd anniversary of my diagnosis and it hit me hard. I don't remember even noting it last year (or maybe like nancyjac, my chemo brain was too severe!), but when I realized what date it was, I really had a tough time all day. I was feeling survivor's guilt since someone had just lost her battle. I just began a very new, exciting job and I haven't yet shared anything with my new co-workers, so perhaps not being able to talk about it made it difficult. But it wasn't a great day.

      I did use it, however, to post a very poignant Facebook status pointing out the significance of the day and the importance of the screening and had I ignored the symptoms, I might not have been here now. I got tons of 'likes' and more importantly, I raised awareness and hopefully inspired people to not put off cancer screenings.

      over 5 years ago
    • SpunkyS's Avatar

      I don't advertise all the "a year ago statements with everyone, but I do I celebrate or at least remembered my anniversaries. Doing so helped me put the year in perspective. Sometimes I remember the dates and the people involved and pray in gratitude. Part of the experience is a little blurry, but that is ok too. Altogether it makes being a survivor that much sweeter.

      over 5 years ago

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