• Is the support group I am in the right one?

    Asked by Karen on Saturday, October 22, 2011

    Is the support group I am in the right one?

    The support group for women only is mainly made up of women who are now cancer free from breast cancer. I have attented twice, and they are all wonderful, but as a newly diagnosised patient I am still wrestling with all of the emotions and daily trails. I just feel so over loaded with everything. How do I make it better for myself?

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    • abrub's Avatar

      You need a support group of people with better understanding of what you are going through. As another woman whose cancer is not breast cancer, I felt isolated in those women's groups - not part of the "pink sisterhood." Heck, in a social/sports club I'm a member of, where there are a good number of cancer survivors, I find I fit in with the men survivors - they've had colorectal cancers, and similar treatments. (Mine is appendix cancer.) I'm not part of the "cancer sisterhood" there either.

      Do you have a Gilda's Club near you? They have general support groups with people with different cancers.

      Also, use support forums like this to find more like-minded people.

      over 9 years ago
    • Indyeastside's Avatar

      You are doing the right thing asking questions and asking for help. I'm reading between the lines a bit, think you might try to be more assertive and actually tell the group your thoughts. In a direct, specifiic and non-punishing manner and and ask "can anyone help guide me?"

      Ask you doctor for some guidance as well-may know a particular person that can help you-bet there is one or two here as well. Good luck-keep picking em up and putting them down.

      over 9 years ago
    • Molly72's Avatar

      Hi there Karen,
      You are lucky that you have found any kind of support group for cancer as the emphasis these days seems to be all on breast cancer..... walks & ribbons & tee shirts & events everywhere. Very little on the other kinds of cancer. Breast cancer is a terrible type of the disease, and it seems to be the prevailing type. Other types are on the back burner.
      I live out in the country & near a small town which has a great hospital that serves the surrounding areas. A cancer support group was started up and guess what? I'm the only member!
      My cancers are rare, & I didn't expect anyone to have the same type I have but I did expect other people to share with, as our hospital has an Oncology department. It's a real bummer having no one else to share with.
      I just found this online site, & hope that it will be active & responsive.
      I don't have any magic for you (or me) to conjure up a group, but I did want you to know that there are other out there.

      over 9 years ago
    • Merianne41's Avatar

      Karen, you can get support many ways. I have had cancer three different times and my support has been different. I was married the first time and we were in the military. I had loads of help. The second time I was working in a school and there were four other women who had had breast cancer or another kind so I had my own support group. This last time I have gone to a counselor one time a week so I don't dump all my fears on my family. If you can't afford that, there are some free services in your church or in your community that you live in.

      over 9 years ago
    • Madison's Avatar

      In St. Louis, we have a cancer support community that has mixed types of cancer patients, care-givers and they also have a pancreatic cancer group. You could also contact the Pancreatic cancer action network, they have support systems in place. http://pancan.org/
      Also, if you check with your local hospital cancer center or oncologist, they may have some other options too. Plus there is the american cancer society, which is how I found this website.
      Keep looking until you find what you need.
      good luck

      over 8 years ago

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