• It felt good to be honest. Anyone else have to do this?

    Asked by NETsurvivor on Sunday, March 9, 2014

    It felt good to be honest. Anyone else have to do this?

    I had a friend who has been my friend for 40 years.

    She conveniently became busy when I went through all of my cancer stuff (still going through it) She reappeared today after now that I am 6 months post op. She lives an hour away. 1 visit and 2 phone calls in 6 months.

    She was 30 min from me and asked if I was going to be close to where she was taking a class. I told her no, she said that was too bad. I told her that it was a 3 hour bus ride for me to get to the other side of town she was visiting. Again it is a 30 min drive by car for her to come to me. She made the mistake of saying I miss you. I guess to make herself feel better.

    I blatantly told her that if she missed me, she would have put forth more of an effort to be there for me during my cancer. I then told her, that I was sorry if that sounded harsh, but it was the reality. I told her I loved her much and wished her well. I released it in love...

    16 Answers from the Community

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    • meyati's Avatar
      meyati

      You know, if I win the lottery and become rich, rich, I'll know who my friends are. That's one good thing about having cancer. Also, because we know who our real friends are, we are richer that way.

      almost 6 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I think some people Just Can't Deal with it.
      Better they stay away.....Love them just the same.

      almost 6 years ago
    • NETsurvivor's Avatar
      NETsurvivor

      Thank you for all of the great responses. It helps me to digest the pain that I feel in missing some of those friends. It is so kind of you all to share your stories of stained and lost relationships during your cancer journey. I was really starting to feel damaged, and like I had done something wrong, that my one Son and a friend of 40 years would be so insensitive. Your stories give me strength and help me to be grateful for those than ran in, when others were walking out.

      almost 6 years ago

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