• Just a curiosity, where were you and what were you doing when you got the news that yes, you have cancer?

    Asked by CancerChicky on Friday, December 14, 2018

    Just a curiosity, where were you and what were you doing when you got the news that yes, you have cancer?

    I was at work, on the floor with probably 50 other people when I took the call, I lost it. People didn't know what was wrong with me, some were asking who died? Looking back, I should have went outside the floor and took it privately.

    How about you, did you make a scene or were you alone? I don't know which would be worse.

    18 Answers from the Community

    18 answers
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I was on the way to lunch with my husband. I didn't make a scene. I shed a few tears, dried my face and went into the restaurant to eat. I remember glancing around the restaurant and wondering what stories the other patrons could tell if they were asked...

      After lunch, my husband took me back to work. I cried a few more tears when i told my friend with whom i worked...

      3 months ago
    • Gumpus61's Avatar
      Gumpus61

      Wow.........Just prior to my firing a whole Hospital a CT Scan Technician responded to a Question from my wife. She asked...."Does the machine target the mass near my appendix".....he responded "You have Cancer all over the place". First time we heard the word.
      Needless to say we had walked into an emergency room with abdominal pain the day before, there were looks and whispers. But nobody said the word. After verifying she was in no danger we walked out and started the process at a great Hospital. Got the straight stuff in my GP's office about 10 days later. Primary Peritoneal Cancer.

      3 months ago
    • lh25's Avatar
      lh25

      I was in the doctor's office for my 2 week follow-up after surgery. I knew I'd be getting the pathologists report that day, but was feeling great and was sure it would be good news. It was the first appointment my husband or mom hadn't gone with me. The oncologist walked in and said "oh, you are by yourself today" and I knew it was bad news. She had a nurse get the friend who had driven me to the appointment, he called his wife to tell her, I texted my husband and told him to get to the hospital. Then I texted a handful of people and asked them to tell others.

      We did a CT that day to see if it had spread, on the way home after that I got a call to return to the hospital because the scan showed blood clots in my lungs. In an odd way, that was not bad because it gave me something to think about for a bit other then my cancer diagnosis.

      3 months ago
    • Russ' Avatar
      Russ

      I too was at work, and took the call. After which I just sat down in my chair and stared out the window. I then called my wife and told her the news. She just said to me, "why don't you come home." I called my boss, and he asked me if I wanted to come over to his office before I went home. I did and when I got there...I began to cry. He told me to take as much time as I needed and not to worry about your job. I went home!!! My best to all of you...Russ

      3 months ago
    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      Always being the odd one out, I expected cancer and so was prepared for cancer. This is because 60% of my dad's side (including dad) expired to cancer. When I found a tumor, my immediate thought was, "So, 'this' is it." Not in the sense of this is the end, but rather this is how the cancer has manifested itself. There are not all that many things that I know, but I knew I had cancer. Went to a new internal physician and was given anxiety meds (I still have them 10 years later). When it occurred to me that I was diagnosing myself and that doctor had no clue, I ran for my life. A local oncologist and pathologist also saw no cancer. It was like an episode from the Twilight Zone: "But, you all don't understand! I have cancer!" "Yes, we know you feel like that, lots of people do, but just relax, you don't have cancer..." I had to run for my life again!

      An absolutely providential series of events then unfolded, the result of which is my continuing presence on plant earth at this late date. More detail at this link, for those who are truly bored. It is 3+ years out of date, but you can get the gist of it all. https://www.whatnext.com/blog/posts/confronting-a-hopeless-future-head-on-a-true-example-of-hope/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=[po18guy]

      3 months ago
    • andreacha's Avatar
      andreacha

      I was at home alone. 2 hours later I was in the hospital.

      3 months ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      I'd gone to a breast surgeon because I had a breast lump and was directed to see a breast surgeon after my mammo and sonogram. This was the second mammo and sono I took after my longtime radiologist assured me the lump was nothing. Anyway, the breast surgeon took a needle biopsy right then. I went to work, and three hours later I got the call telling me "It looks suspicious." I did lose it. My coworkers comforted me as much as possible.

      3 months ago
    • Sasukesuma's Avatar
      Sasukesuma

      I was in the ER. My primary physician sent me after a diagnosis of diverticulitis. After my Ctscan the ER doctor came in to my room and blurts out, Well, you don’t have diverticulitis but you do have cancer and it has matatsicised. Then he turned around and left. I don’t know if there is a good way to deliver that news. But maybe a little better than that. My reaction was to call my best friend who was spending the summer across the country and tell her. I’m in the hospital and you’re not here. I was actually joking about it. I didn’t expect this but it didn’t freak me out even though my husband died of cancer 4 years earlier.
      By the way my friend was on a plane the next day.

      3 months ago
    • Bug's Avatar
      Bug

      I had a breast MRI one day and then took the next day off - don't remember why. Anyway, that morning my husband left town for a business trip and a few hours later I got the call. The doctor said it was a "tiny" cancer and I'd "be fine". On the one hand I was not surprised because two sisters had already been treated for DCIS. On the other hand it was a shocking call to receive. The nearest paper was a small Post-It notepad so I grabbed it and scribbled notes on several sheets as the doctor spoke.

      My husband was flying at the time of the call so I called one of my sisters. She lived three hours away but happened to be an hour and a half away on a work trip. She asked me if I wanted her to come over. I said No. Then I called her back and said Yes. She came over and spent the night. She had nothing - no toothbrush, no change of clothes, nothing. She left the next day and a friend stayed with me that night. My husband came home the following day.

      3 months ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      It was a Friday in August. I was on the freeway , my husband was driving and we were on our way to my daughter’s house to celebrate my granddaughter’s second birthday. I had taken a CT exam the day before. We were about 90 minutes into our journey when my cell phone rang. My doctors nurse told me the doctor would like to see me that afternoon. I explained where we were and why and she said I could wait the weekend and come in on Monday. My husband and I looked at each other,and I knew, right then, I knew it was cancer. At the next off ramp we turned the car around and headed for the doctor’s office. That is the day my former doctor told me I had cancer and proceeded to tell me he had a patient once with my type of cancer who lived almost two years . Never saw him again.

      3 months ago
    • beachbum5817's Avatar
      beachbum5817

      I found a lump 2 months after having a clean mammogram. A few weeks later, I had an appointment with a breast surgeon. I had a biopsy 2 days later and got the results on the following Tuesday. My husband was with me when I got the news. My breast surgeon is a no-nonsense type, and I appreciated that. After answering our questions, he took us to his patient navigator's office to get us started. The next day, I was having more testing done. I was glad to get everything moving and have a plan.

      3 months ago
    • myb's Avatar
      myb

      I just woke up from my colonoscopy at 50 when my gastroenterologist said, "You have cancer". I had no symptoms, and the later bloodwork showed nothing up, but the CT scan showed it too.

      3 months ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      I was at work. It was a week past surgery and no word on my pathology. So I was heading out to run a work errand and the person I was going with said to give her 10 minutes. So I decided to pick up the phone and call the doctors office to see if the results were in. They said the doctor was not available but they would at least see if the results were in. A minute later they said hold for the doctor. I knew right then. I went ahead and did the work errand. It was lunch for the principal and a bunch of our students. The person I was going with basically needed my car so I went and stayed in the car. She said she still needed my car for other errands and asked if she could drive me home and keep my car. I said okay, but she had to do some other things before she could leave to take me and was taking forever to leave and I was crying pretty hard at this point. So I sort of sat out in the open crying my eyes out waiting for her. One of the principals saw me and told her to take me home now and she would finish up whatever needed to be done. I really appreciated that. I just wanted to get home. Make calls and have a good cry with my dogs. Of course by the time I left to go home everyone I worked with knew.

      3 months ago
    • cards7up's Avatar
      cards7up

      From the doctor's office. No one should ever get a phone call about a cancer diagnosis. And no one who does your scan, should ever say anything about your scan because they're not even the ones that read the scans. I can't believe what many of you went through! Totally unprofessional behavior. Let's make sure it doesn't happen to others!

      3 months ago
    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      Hard to deduce from my answer above, but it was actually a relief to find out that it actually was cancer, in my case non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. Once unmasked, the enemy may then be opposed.

      3 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      For diagnoses 1 and 2 I was in the doctor's office when they told me. For #3, I was on a jobsite when the surgeon who did the biopsy called me.

      3 months ago
    • aracooper's Avatar
      aracooper

      I was home and I got a call from my doctor, he told me that I had cancer. He wanted to know if anyone was there with me and when I told him I was alone he said that he would stay on the phone with me until I was able to get someone over to my house to be with me. So with the doctor on my home phone, I used my cell phone to call my sister who was on her way over. While I waited for her to arrive my doctor explained to me that I had Lymphoma but he did not know the stage yet and that he would need to refer me to an oncologist fo further testing. This doctor remained on the phone with me for over 20 minutes until my sister walked in the door. He then insisted on speaking to my sister so he could explain to her what was happening too, just in case I was overwhelmed with emotions and had forgotten his instructions about appointments. Some people may criticize my doctor for telling me over the phone but I think it was just fine. There is no best way for a doctor to do this. Had his office called me and had me come into his office then I would have had to drive home by myself which may have been dangerous after hearing this type of news. My doctor handle this horrible situation in a very kind and compassionate manner. I am very grateful to him for that.

      3 months ago
    • Vaughnn's Avatar
      Vaughnn

      I was home sitting in my den watching TBN. The doctor called and told me 2 days after the biopsy.

      about 1 month ago

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