• Just a vent

    Asked by Jalemans on Wednesday, August 27, 2014

    Just a vent

    Husband has a friend whose wife is going thru treatment for leukemia. Apparently, HER husband has never taken off work to be with her for any appointments or treatments. Apparently, she has zero side effects from her treatments & feels great. I should be happy for her (never met), but I wish the 2 of them would just go away. THEY are the reason my husband is acting like a jerk part of the time. They seem to think I am an adult & shouldn't expect my husband to miss work. They are the reason he thinks I am a lazy baby! Yesterday, I was really hoping my husband would come to my biopsy & hold my hand. He gave me a back-handed offer, "well I don't really have anything better to do so if you really want me to I could go with you... Otherwise I am going to visit my friend Dennis" (same friend).

    I am angry beyond belief about those two. They need to shut up & mind their own business! They don't know anything about me, my cancer, or my treatment!

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    • LuvinSis' Avatar
      LuvinSis

      And every patient is different in their needs. I'm the kind that doesn't want hubby or other people around. Hubby knows it and drives me when I'll be sedated or can't drive. . I don't like hospital visitors nor having hubby at appointments. But that's me, what you need is uniquely you. And in a marriage that's a partnership the spouse has to take into account what you need or want regardless if what anyone else has chosen in their journey.

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I am with you on not having someone with you at appointments and procedures. My son does drive me to appointments but we always figure out some errands for him to do while I am in the appointment then he picks me up when I am finished. But I do love his support around the house. He doesn't actually do things he just makes them easier for me to do. That is what I love.

      over 5 years ago
    • Judt1940's Avatar
      Judt1940

      I don't like hospital visitors either. My daughter drives for my trips into Nashville for chemo and oncology visits. Feel guilty taking her time but not sure I could handle the traffic now, at my age. Worries me that I'm losing my nerve. I try to do as much on my own as I can.

      over 5 years ago

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