• Just diagnosed yesterday

    Asked by sarasmash on Wednesday, June 3, 2015

    Just diagnosed yesterday

    I know I keep hearing take it one day at a time, but I am just curious. How everyone handled hearing that they do infact have cancer? And, I am not really sure where to look for advice or even to talk to someone who knows what I am going through. I feel like I am a bother to my family. Where did you turn when you needed support? Or even just someone to talk too?

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    • geekling's Avatar
      geekling

      Everybody has a different story and you can, likely take a little something from each one to use in your own ammo box.

      I spend 13 years trying to get a doctor to tell me why I had a growth and to please remove it. Nobody feels sorry for Clark Kent when Superman loses his powers and I was trim and fit and no doctor remove it. :( .. So I finally gained 65 pounds (long story), a surgeon volunteered to remove the growth, did not get it all, but I finally had a diagnosis.

      The treatments were less effective at routing the cancer back then so I spent 14 more months on my own trying out unconventional remedies. I was called and told new drugs were available which were 95% effective ..... so I went for it.

      It has been 13+ years since these storied events took place and I remain cancer free.

      I'm very sorry for the loss of your Mom but see no reason for you to follow her so soon.
      Do you?
      Have a talk with your family about your feelings. If your own family can't be bothered with you, you need a new family.
      Love goes round and round. Today's caretaker may be tomorrow's patient and vice versa.

      Best wishes.

      over 6 years ago
    • HeidiJo's Avatar
      HeidiJo

      Welcome to the What Next family! We are a great source for asking advice or just venting! I am definitely one who would rather be a caregiver than someone who receives it. But when I was diagnosed, my very first chemo nurse said to me "the hardest thing for you is going to be accepting help from others, I can tell" That made me realize that it would probably be better for all involved if I just sat back and accepted help from others. I think it made a big difference.

      over 6 years ago
    • Ellie59's Avatar
      Ellie59

      I know when I heard the word cancer I heard nothing else literally! Had I not had my spouse with me I would not even know everything the oncologist said.
      I think this normal. As to being a bother to your family. Would you not be there for them if one of them had cancer? Would you think it was a bother? I doubt it.

      Be honest with your family. Tell them how you feel and ask for what you need emotional.
      I go to a support group that has helped tremendously.
      Take excellent care of yourself
      The most important thing is your health!
      In Support
      Ellie

      over 6 years ago

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