• Just preventative?

    Asked by GypsyJule on Saturday, March 16, 2013

    Just preventative?

    I stopped by the hospital to have my port flushed yesterday and talked briefly to one of the chemo nurses. At one point she said, "your chemo was just preventative, right?" It was odd to me that her tone made it sound so minimal. Things like that don't surprise me from people who don't know a lot about cancer, but was a surprise to hear it from someone who should know better. My answer? "Yes, to prevent death."

    Anyone have similar experience?

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    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      I haven't been asked that, but mine sort of was preventative. The majority of my cancer was in my uterus. My ovaries & tubes were completely clean. My cancer metastisized to my omentus. My surgeon removed my uterus, tubes, ovaries & omentum. My surgeon is convinced he got all the cancer. We did the chemo just in case there are any cancer cells hanging around. It's still insensitive to ask, as the nurse should have access to your treatment plan.


      over 4 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      Wow, that was out of line. She should have explained what she meant, or not put it that way. Was she trivializing your illness? Depends on tone of voice, eye contact, facial expression, etc. If so, I think I might have to talk to her employer, as cancer care nurses ought to be more sensitive to their patients than that. Sorry that happened to you!

      over 4 years ago
    • Tracy's Avatar

      I am not sure she was trying to make your treatment seem minimal, for them it is such a wonderful thing to have have patients that are (relatively speaking) doing well. I had a doctor treating me who only treated terminal patients, for him and his team that my visits really livened up the day. It really depends on how long a person has worked with cancer. Treatments have come so far that the very idea of chemo being preventative is truly amazing! Please take this as a positive that your cancer was caught early enough to allow it to be categorized this way (much preferable than the other). Tracy

      over 4 years ago
    • mjs24's Avatar

      They don't realize that even though we are the "lucky" ones to have preventative chemo it is still a very big deal! A friend of mine is undergoing chemo to kill the cancer and prolong her life. The word "JUST" was not appropriate. My step daughter thought it was "funny" don't you think?" that even though she is a life long smoker (and I am not) that I was the one who had cancer. I just blew it off to bad taste, no sense to make of bad manners :0) Take care. Mary Jo

      over 4 years ago
    • mjs24's Avatar

      Yes, the "just" was inappropriate. We are the "lucky" ones to have preventative chemo but it doesn't feel that way does it? A friend of mine had undergone chemo & radiation to kill her cancer, sadly she lost the battle so we know there is a difference. No sense to be made of bad manners. Take care, Mary Jo

      over 4 years ago
    • GypsyJule's Avatar

      Thanks all! Maybe I was being extra sensative that day. And Mary Jo, I agree, we are the "lucky" ones.

      over 4 years ago

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