• just wondering if this is normal....

    Asked by little_fut on Tuesday, May 21, 2013

    just wondering if this is normal....

    At my dr appt after my chemo, My onc dr examined my privares with no one else in the room with us. As a matter of fact, he just had me pull down my pants and lift my leg up and he peeked...shouldn't there have been a nurse in there with me? Shouldnt I have been wearing a gown, on the exam table....just wondering. He wanted to see the blisrters I had after my last infusion. I told him they were gone but he said he wanted to see.....

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    • Mel's Avatar

      I don't know but seems odd to me! my Chemo doc won't even do my breast examine without calling a nurse into the room....

      over 3 years ago
    • HearMeRoar's Avatar


      over 3 years ago
    • Topazcat's Avatar

      My chemo doctor usually will check my chest, neck, armpits etc without the nurse. Actually there isn't much left to look at! He has never checked other areas, but so far there has not been a reason to. You might mention to him that you felt a bit uncomfortable about it. Maybe he will then be sure to have a nurse in there when he examines you. Good Luck!

      over 3 years ago
    • abrub's Avatar

      My gyn, who knows me well, always examines me without anyone else in the room. I'm okay with that. However, with a dr I didn't know as well - not so sure (tho yours did have a valid reason for checking.)

      Be assertive - the next time a dr asks you to expose something in a way that makes you uncomfortable, ask to have a nurse present. It's always your right.

      over 3 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar

      seems reasonable to want to see how those were healing up or if there was any evidence of remaining sores... i can see how that felt weird, to simply drop your pants and lift a leg. if you ever feel uncomfortable, i think a request a nurse to be present is totally and absolutely appropriate. your doc shouldn't bat an eye and simple say - yes... be right back.... probably, he was trying to be efficient?

      i can definitely say that i got a lot less shy about my body during chemo. pretty much anything they wanted to see i was cool with showing off. in fact, i would ask that they not leave the room so i could take off my shirt and put on their shirt... just wasted time... everyone's so different in this regard, you know?

      anyway, the bottom line, though, in my humble opinion, is that you are the one who should be able to specify your comfort level and your boundaries. what about asking the nurse, next time your there, for advice about whether / how you should bring it up or whether you should just request a nurse there in the future .... nurses are great in this regard, and they know these docs super well. so requesting advice might be a way for you to figure out the best approach to feeling as comfortable as possible.... they might even have great advice for how to phrase it....

      glad to hear, though, that those blisters healed up - that's good news!

      over 3 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      My DH had made almost all my onc visits over the past 7 years so generally I'm not in the room alone....my onc always has me wear a gown on top but on the bottom i"m fully dressed....he does check the lymph nodes in the groin but that is with me dress and him checking under my skirt with under clothes on....
      If you feel uncomfortable about this, I would bring it up to him and tell him in the future that he is to have some one in the room with him for all exams.....

      over 3 years ago
    • Nomadicme's Avatar

      Ok that's odd. The least he could have done is had you change into a gown. I'd be concerned if he dod it again.

      over 3 years ago
    • Nonnie917's Avatar

      Boy does that ever sound fishy to me. There should have been someone else in the room with you, yes a nurse. If he ever tries that again, you stand your ground and tell him, "Not without a nurse present." That is just wrong and I would have a little talk with the clinic surpervisor if I was in your shoes. I reported the radiologist that misread my mammogram and demanded an apology for his mistake. He pushed my mammo through like I was a piece of cattle. Totally missed a spot and when I found out from my surgeon I hit the roof. I don't stand by and let these doctor's do things that could jeopardize my health or do something that isn't right. You stand strong and do what you feel you have to do. Good luck.

      over 3 years ago
    • barbaraanne's Avatar

      I don't like the sound of that. Besides having a nurse in the room, they should have had you put a gown on...uncomfortable.

      over 3 years ago

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