I had a similar experience. I arrived at the group to find I was the only one there except the facilitator. She said it was hard to keep a group going because they all die.... Just what ya want to hear! I didn't even try to find another group for about a year. When I did... It was about an hours drive away. There, I found no one that had the same disease that I have... No one's experience was remotely similar to mine. The facilitator looked about 22 yrs old and did not stop the folks from rambling on about non- relevant stuff. If you continue to search, you may find another group. The facilitator's skills are an important piece in this.... Maybe this has something to do with people not showing up??? I've found some of the Internet 'groups' to be better than the face to face folks!
There are live chat sites too. I've had several people who asked to exchange phone numbers and actually talk to each other! There are some great folks out there struggling with the often complicated issues that surround being diagnosed with cancer!
It can be difficult to not feel defeated... But maybe you can try repeating over and again... I'm NOT defeated yet! I don't know if you are a believer...even if you are not- this still remains true.... Something a friend sent me:
CANCER IS SO LIMITED
It cannot cripple love
It cannot shatter hope
It cannot corrode faith
It cannot destroy confidence
It cannot kill friendship
It cannot shut out memories
It cannot silence courage
It cannot invade the soul
It cannot destroy peace
It cannot quench the spirit
It cannot lesson the power of the resurrection
It cannot steal eternal life!
I've got this posted on my refrigerator where I see it each and every day! I also have the cards people have sent standing up where I see them each day! So- even if there seems to be no group that fits... It helps to have visual things placed about to consistently remind me of all the love and support of friends and family! Sometimes we really have to be intentional about not allowing ourselves to slip into the pit of despair...and when we do start feeling ourselves slip... have as many 'life-savers' available to grab ahold of as possible... its a long road... pace yourself!
Very best wishes and God's love!