• Meeting the Oncologist

    Asked by rosina88 on Saturday, April 25, 2015

    Meeting the Oncologist

    So we go to our first meeting with the oncologist. He was an hour and a half late, we were frightened and stressed, and he basically threw up his hands and said he didn't know where to start with all my husband's issues. Acted very impatient and irritated when I pulled out my notebook with questions, so I didn't bother. This is one of the top cancer centers in the country! We are feeling very discouraged now, especially since my husband had a tumor eruption through the skin that turned out to be more small bowel cancer. We planned on getting a second opinion with MD Anderson, but not sure we can wait that long, which leaves us with the first doctor. Yuck! Has anyone had a situation like this, where you might be stuck with an oncologist that you feel doesn't care? My husband is now going around saying "I'm screwed", which is the last thing we need to feel right now...

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    • rosina88's Avatar

      I understand what you are saying, BarbarainBham, and that is where we were yesterday. He's okay with going now, especially since I was able to find a good deal on the airfare! His previous concern was that our original plan involved driving to Texas, and that would have been 4 days on the road and missing out on meeting with the local oncologist who will be coordinating treatment with UCSF. Everything fell into place today, though, we are seeing the local doc before we go, and he seems content. We talked about the feeling we would have that we had missed something important by not going to MD Anderson, since the doctor we are meeting there has been doing some research and clinical trials into small bowel cancer treatment. It's a roll of the dice, that's for sure, but only three days out of our lives.

      about 5 years ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar

      Rosina88, sounds like everything's hunky dorey! Best wishes with his treatment.

      about 5 years ago
    • ivyJ's Avatar

      I guess we all have had bad situations. I go to the City Hospital clinic where I have waited up to 4 hours to seen. Two and one half hours are the usual. One day, after two hours waiting, I was number eight to be seen. I was skipped over; ignored, as they went to number nine and ten. I walked up to the lady calling names and complained. She asked me, "do you speak-a-Spanish?", I replied "no." She said, "Well we're only waiting on the Spanish speaker and you'll have to wait for an English Speaking doctor." Can you imagine??? I told them this was not the United States of Mexico, and I as an American Citizen resent being pushed aside for these immigrants. This is part of what's happening in the big cities. This makes me so anxious days before my visits because it has happened three times....now that a bad situation.

      almost 5 years ago

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