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    Asked by Sharon13 on Thursday, May 23, 2013


    I found out that I had cervical cancer on 5/8/13 and ever since then It's like i'm walking around in a fog and I don't know what to think or do and it's like ever since then I have been having all kind of medical things come up can somebody help. At times I feel like why me and so much more

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    • SueRae1's Avatar

      First hugs and healing vibes. Your reaction is normal, you are still in a state of shock and it takes time to integrate everything that you are going through. Speak with your team about questions and concerns, once you have a treatment plan in place, and things start moving forward, you will start to feel like you are more in control of what is going on. You may even want to get a 2nd opinion. Yes once you get your diagnoses it seems like every little medical issue crops up to taunt you.

      Best of luck and keep us posted on your progress.

      over 3 years ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      So glad you found us...this is a wonderful place to ask questions, get support and allow you to vent...you have just had a major, life-changing event take place and you need time to take it all in...the first few weeks are definitely the hardest, once you know what your plan is you can start to feel more in control...if possible, bring someone with you to your appointments as so much information is usually given that it never hurts to have an extra set of ears...write down your questions and do not leave the office until you can tick off each question as answered to your satisfaction...as SueRae mentioned, a second opinion is always a good idea, especially if there are decisions you do not feel comfortable making...I wish you good luck, keep in touch and God bless!

      over 3 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      When I was first diagnosed, my coping device was research. I got every book out of the library, haunted used bookstores, Barnes & Noble, and Amazon. We all handle crises in our own ways. I did the same thing when I lost a job. Have you faced a crisis in the past? Can you tweak that method to what you are dealing with now? And remember, we are here for you, rooting you on through your journey. Hugs!

      over 3 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      As I read your question I was nodding to myself, oh yeah, I remember feeling exactly like that for a while after my diagnosis. Processing all the emotions and information that are coming at you right now is extremely overwhelming. I recommend you get a notebook to write down things you learn at medical appointments and questions/concerns that come to you when you're not at the doctor's office. Things will get less stressful when you have a game plan for treatment. Find an outlet to vent your emotional responses which will be all over the place: family, friend, or professional counselor.

      Welcome to the site. You're in the right place. We've all felt very much like the way you're feeling now.

      over 3 years ago
    • carm's Avatar

      I am an oncology nurse that specializes in gyne cancers so the reaction you have is quite normal. If you have any questions, I am here to help. Cervical can be the most mentally challenging cancer, but I am sure you will rise to the occasion. Best of luck to you, Carm RN.

      over 3 years ago
    • Chocolatenator's Avatar

      Mind what emotions you are having are normal. I'm a cervical cancer stage iiB survivor. I found during my journey to keeping yourself distracted helps immensely. Surround yourself with positive thoughts and energy and supportive friends and family. Try to maintain your daily routine as best as you can. The Internet is a great source but remember each individual case is different. Make sure you feel confident in your oncologist and treatment plan. If not get a second opinion. Stay strong and positive. Best of luck in your journey.

      over 3 years ago
    • fastdog's Avatar

      I think the fog feeling is the shock we all feel at first being diagnosed. We just stood in the parking lot and cried when I first got "the word." The shock will wear off, you will get a treatment plan going, and you will feel more proactive, and that will help a lot. I think we all have preconceived notions of what cancer is and isn't before we actually have it, and many of them can go right out the window as we learn that we do have options and a life to live.

      If you do decide to research your disease, make sure you are getting reliable information. I have a rare cancer, and before surgery, I acquired lots of information about the operation, and started to scare myself silly. Many of the stories contain worst-case scenarios. I decided to quit the studying and take my chances, and I was fine. It was a huge surgery, but none of the scary things happened to me. Let us know how you are doing, and if you need to vent, this is a good place to do it.

      over 3 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      My first 2 dx's I didn't think much of the fact I had cancer, I just said OK, what do we do, and let's get to doing it. The third time I had the same round of thoughts and feelings you are having now. I got a big ole double dose of the "why me" . Then I went through about 2 months of fear, anger, and a few others. But after I seen my new oncologist for the first time, all those feelings went away, and my new mood was back to , OK, let's do this! I never went back to the other feelings.

      Keep focused on the fight, and the fact that you will be strong and victorious!

      over 3 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      I know just how you feel. Hang it there, it does get better. You'll soon have more information and a plan in place for treatment. We are all influenced by the stigma cancer has which is not necessarily the case anymore. Hang in there.

      over 3 years ago
    • hogfan03's Avatar

      As SueRae answered, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I went through the exact thing on 2/1/13 when I was diagnosed and also had more cancer scares the following week. It does seem like when it rains it pours. There is a lot of good replies ahead of me so I will say I agree with them all and you have come to the right place. Let us know any specific questions or concerns that we can help with. Everyone is so helpful and Carm is a wealth of information!

      over 3 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar

      Not ever being a "normal" lemming, I reacted differently than did you. I knew something was wrong. It took the docs 13 years to catch up with me and give me a diagnosis.

      Like BuckeyeShelby, I researched my pafrticular challenge. At first I decided to ignore the Western Medical community as their 'solution', at the time, was rather iffy. I was knee deep into alternative solutions when a new drug came out which was said to be 95% effective against the type of cancer I had.

      The next step was to find an oncologist. The first half dozen I interviewed either did not use the new drugs or would not discuss the particulars of treatment with me the "little lady" or did not have a clean office and so on and so forth. I chose the eigth doctor I interviewed because he spoke with me rather than at me, he was involved with the new drugs and could actually remember my name and had gone to the same HS school as me years before I attended.

      You are grieving your lost health. It is an important step. Once you can really accept that you are sick, you can decide to do everything in your power to get well and find someone who is a good fit with you in that battle.

      Very good luck for recovered good health.

      over 3 years ago
    • GypsyJule's Avatar

      You've already gotten wonderful and helpful answers from others, and we all understand your fog and disbelief. One thing that helped me was going to my local American Cancer Society and getting information. Honestly, I can't tell you how much of it I even read, but I knew they were there to help me. I was treated with such kindness there, and they helped me feel less alone. It also helped make me feel like I was doing something pro-active. It's difficult when you're in that limbo time before you start treatment, or maybe even before you have your plan.

      Good luck to you, and know that we are here to help you!

      over 3 years ago

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