• Mourning my dear friend

    Asked by Coopswifey on Monday, September 23, 2019

    Mourning my dear friend

    I realize having cancer also means that some of us don’t make it, but we are never prepared when a good friend loses the battle. My heart is so full right now. My good friend Toni loss her fight with breast cancer a few days ago. We were each other’s cheerleader, we talked almost everyday. She has been in and out of the hospital the last few months because her cancer spread to other areas, but she always remained optimistic. She was one of the strongest women I have EVER known. The last time she was admitted to the hospital, something told me to go and see her, I wanted to surprise her, so I went. Was she surprised too. We hugged and was so glad to finally see one another. She looked good, so of course I thought she would be going home soon, but she never did. I really needed to tell my What’s Next Ḟäṃïŀÿ as part of my healing. So I want to thank you for always listening, and for all of your comments.

    11 Answers from the Community

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      We are sorry for your loss. We understand that feeling too, of feeling lost or even guilty when a close friend or a relative die from cancer and yet we are still here. It makes you wonder deep questions. A few months ago our family lost the sweetest person with the biggest smile anyone could ever see. She was diagnosed with BC and was handling the treatments well. She went through all of the first rounds of chemo, then started on her radiation treatments right after having a double mastectomy. She had a spot develop on her skin that was the same cancer that was in her breasts, it soon spread and she was stage IV within a week. She was always positive even up to the last couple of days. Cancer steals a lot from us, and when we lose someone like that we lose a little part of us.

      3 months ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      I’m so sorry, Coopswifey. It’s terribly hurtful to lose any close friend (and any other loved one), but I think there’s it’s even harder when a friend dies of the same illness we’ve had, whatever illness it is. I’m “lucky”—“only” one friend, someone I met while in treatment, died of breast cancer. Sending you hugs -

      3 months ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      I'm very sorry for your loss. Cyber-hugs!

      3 months ago
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      I'm sorry for your loss. You did have one more visit, in which you should treasure. Cancer is just plain cruel.

      3 months ago
    • mahina's Avatar
      mahina

      I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost 3 friends and a nephew to cancer just this year alone. I still wonder why I was spared. (almost 4 years remission)
      Cancer is ugly and cruel but it can bring out the beauty of those afflicted and also of those that support them.
      Thank you for being a shining light for your friend, as I'm sure she was for you as well. She's around you, you know❤

      3 months ago
    • Coopswifey's Avatar
      Coopswifey

      Thank you all for your kind words ❤️

      3 months ago
    • Bug's Avatar
      Bug

      Coopswifey, I’m so sorry about your friend. I’m glad you told us. Take care.

      3 months ago
    • beachbum5817's Avatar
      beachbum5817

      I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I am glad that WhatNext can be a part of your healing. Take care.

      3 months ago
    • 2943's Avatar
      2943

      You were blessed to have TONI in your life and with you during difficult times as she was blessed to have you. May the memories of smiling conversations help in the saddest times. Hugs!

      3 months ago
    • HRtr's Avatar
      HRtr

      So sorry for the loss of your dear friend/sister. I wish you peace and love as you move forward. <3

      3 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I am so sorry for your loss.

      Over the years, i have made very good friends with many others who share my lung cancer diagnosis. It is always so sad when one passes away. I guess the one that haunts me most is the death of my friend I went to Israel with at the first of the year. She was healthy enough to make that International trip, but died only a few short months later. It is hard to reconcile.

      3 months ago

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