• My child seems very bitter and will not talk to anyone about what they are thinking.

    Asked by MelMom on Wednesday, January 30, 2013

    My child seems very bitter and will not talk to anyone about what they are thinking.

    I don’t know how to connect with them or try to get them to find some source of hope. What do I say? What have you told your child with leukemia?

    3 Answers from the Community

    • SueRae1's Avatar
      SueRae1

      It is unclear from your question how old your son is, age is a factor on how you would talk to them. I am also assuming it is your child who is ill, and not you. This is a very very hard time for all of you. Tell your child that cancer is not a death sentence, and there are lots of treatments available and in the pipeline. Let him know you are there for him when he is ready to talk, and that anger is part of journey.

      I would ask the oncologist for a referral to a therapist who specializes in treating individuals of your son's age with cancer.

      about 4 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar
      Clyde

      I'm going to go out on a limb and assume you are the patient and your child is a teen (Sue is right, their age is a big factor). Teens are notorious for keeping things inside as it is, but especially when they are scared. They probably want to know more but you will have to make the first move. Be patient, try to do things together if possible and try to talk about more than just the cancer. Any communication will be good and might open the door for more insight.

      Just to be clear, please let us know the age, clarify who is the patient and what stage of the journey so we can answer.

      about 4 years ago
    • Lirasgirl33's Avatar
      Lirasgirl33

      I see your profile lists you as the patient, but your question say your child has leukemia. What is your son or daughter's age? Different ages require different approaches. I myself am the patient with stage 4 cancer. I am mother to 4 kids, 2 I gave birth to and 2 from my current relationship. They were ages 10,13 and 14 when I was diagnosed and started my journey. Their age had a lot to do with how I handled the situation. Which included how I spoke to them about it, and what amount of information/details to inform them of. Sometimes, as a cancer patient, it seems easier to talk to people going through the same or similar situation. Not that we don't love our families, it serves as therapy knowing that those we talk to understand first hand how you are feeling. It helps us feel like we're not alone in this. Hang on mom, things will get better, patience is tested, this is after all not just a physical but also emotional rollercoaster but you and your family can get through this. Show cancer that it can't break the bonds of love we have with one another. Don't lose hope. Neither you or your child are alone. I would say make a list of anything that you need, like support groups, not just for your child but for you as well, financial assistance, etc, etc and give the ACS a call. They can send you lists of resources near your area. Hope to hear from you soon. Sending hugs to you and your baby. <3

      about 4 years ago

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