I had the same question go thru my mind. I asked to speak with my husbands oncologist and she replied in a letter to me the same day ( I did this while he was doing his chemo). Anyway it was there in writing,the stage, percentages of the chemo being effective and his possible life expectancy. The news was not good but at least I had some perspective. My husband has diabetes, renal failure and heart failure on top of the cancer so I know at any given point things can " go south" you just have to take each day as it comes. And let me be the one to say it really sucks but try to hold on to your faith and even when you two have bad days...and you will! Try to be strong and forgiving. I often ask God to help me be all he created me to be :)
My heart goes out to you.

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I am an oncology/end of life nurse and just because your husband has cancer cells in these places does not mean it is a death sentence. Mets to the liver and lungs will usually clear easy with the right therapy. I would expect to see cells in the lymph nodes. An average tumor the size of an inch will slough off between 3 to 5 million cells every 24 hours. They are corralled by the immune system and brought to the jail or lymph nodes to be carried away and destroyed by T cells. I don't know what treatment your husband is on or whether his condition has has affected other co-morbidities, but if he has a will to live then the choice is his regarding his expectancy. You have to look at this disease from the nature of biology and how it behaves at a cellular level. Most mets that go to the liver are lesions on the outside surface and mets to the lung tend to stay in the middle or upper lobes and clear easily. Believe in him and his strength to push forward. I am always here if you have any questions or need a supportive ear. Best of luck to you, Carm RN.

I have basically the same cancer as your husband. I am inoperable and have been on chemo with no break since October 2012. I was told once from a surgeon to go home and prepare for the end and that I pry have 3 to 5 years if I'm lucky. I refuse to accept that and plan to be here for at least the next 20 years. Only God knows when your time on earth is up!! God bless!! Stay strong attitude is half the battle.