I can understand your concerns over the families wishes, but in my opinion, the families wishes are 2nd place. His wishes are #1. The family may be more concerned over them not seeing him than his wishes.
My mother and father were both given "a time". For dad it was fairly quick, within weeks. He was confined to a nursing/hospice center. He kept wanting snuff and liquor. We gave him what he wanted. Same with Mom, she wanted to go to a few places, we done whatever she wanted and gave her what she wanted to eat. The way I looked at it was this was the last days of THEIR life, not mine.
I wish you both the happiest days you can have. I learned more about my parents in the last months of their lives than I did in the previous 50 years of mine.