• Need advice

    Asked by Julia468 on Saturday, September 15, 2018

    Need advice

    Both my husband and I have cancer. He was six months out of active treatment. I am waiting for a Dana Farber appointment. My husband recently started getting sick. He was very dehydrated upon being admitted to the hospital. They found a blockage in his small intestine highly suspicious of cancer. He hasn't taken this news well. He is upset with me for letting his mother drive me around in my car. Basically miserable. Tells me I shouldn't be here with him, I'm not respecting his wishes even though I've only done what he's asked. I just dont kno ho to help him. Do I tell him too bad I'm staying, this was in sickness and health. Respect his wishes and leave him here alone. He's in a lot of pain.

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    • Julia468's Avatar
      Julia468

      @BoiseB, yes and please include our 9 year old daughter. Thank you

      over 1 year ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Oh @Julia468, I'm so, so sorry. All three of you are in my prayers as well. What's the next step for your husband (besides recovery from surgery)? Are you still on hold, waiting on your femur to heal? If you don't mind me asking ... how is your daughter doing through all of this? I can't imagine being a 9-year-old and watching BOTH parents fight vicious cancers.

      over 1 year ago
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      Julia468

      @LivingWithCancer, For my husband, I believe looking at chemo options to see if there's a response. I'm Hoping there will be an awesome clinical trial for him to try. I am still on hold. My femur really seems worse these last couple of days. My appointment at Dana Farber is this week . Really, concern for my daughter's well being is really what kills me. She's done great so far. She's caring and empathetic. She helps us too but We have great support also. I haven't broken this turn of events to her yet. I've spoken with a pediatric social worker and found a peer support group for her to join.

      over 1 year ago

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