• Not happy with Dr. Should I change??????

    Asked by withGodshelp on Monday, June 3, 2013

    Not happy with Dr. Should I change??????

    I loved my Dr. to start with then I went for a second opinion,which made him mad(God complex), I decided to have Rituxan treatment,I am in stage 4,he wonted to watch&wait for a while.2 CT scans ago there were 2 spots in my lower lung,he did'nt mention it when they showed up,then he just ran past it when he did.Went for my treatment 3 wks ago&asked him about it& he said"it is gone shruged is shoulders & said it was probably just scar tissue" I asked if I needed a PET scan & he said oh no not till your done with your treatments, I said well if the Rituxan has gotten rid of my other spots and those are gone would'nt ya think they were cancer too? He just blew me off! I had a bad headache that day&went on for my treatment, the nurse asked if I was in pain& I said yes she called him to get me some med.b4 my chemo&he refused to order me any pain meds!!Should I change Dr.s in the middle of my treatments(i have a year left)he has really treated me diffrent since i went for another opinion.

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    • FreeBird's Avatar
      FreeBird

      In my view, you are the commander in chief of your own medical care. Doctors are the generals and advisors. If you don't feel that the advice and care you're receiving is adequate, or you feel uncomfortable with your doctor, if it was me I would choose a different doctor, or look around to see if there's anyone else we could try as long as treatment is not delayed. That is ultimately your decision. If you're in pain and a doctor is not helping with that, there's not much point in sticking with that doctor. That's why you go to a doctor.

      over 4 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      If you are not comfortable with your doctor and don't feel that he is taking your needs seriously, you should not feel bad about wanting a change. This is your team, fighting for your life. If you need to fire him, fire him.

      over 4 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar
      SueRae1

      I'm with FreeBird and BuckeyeyShelby - if you are not comfortable with your doctor then find a new one. I am a bit shocked to read that he was upset when you had a 2nd opinion. I've had them through out my treatment, and my doctors all thought it was a good idea, they even incorporated some of the suggestions that I got into my treatment plan.

      As for the spots on your lungs, they may truly be nothing, I have them, and they come and go and are in different places

      over 4 years ago
    • KarenN@StF's Avatar
      KarenN@StF

      I’m sorry you feel you are being treated differently after obtaining a second opinion. That sounds uncomfortable and awkward. I have 15 years in oncology and have always told patients that your team of doctors want you to have 100% confidence in them and the relationship you have with them. Every physician I know welcomes patients getting a second opinion. You deserve a relationship of mutual trust and respect. Your physician is there to help you understand what's going on in your body. I agree 100% with the previous responses- if you feel the relationship is not caring and supportive of you and your needs, find a new physician. Best Wishes.

      over 4 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar
      ticklingcancer

      I can tell you that I would switch. These Dr's work for us, we don't work for them. They are essentially our employee. If they're not performing as well as they should at their job then it's time to fire them and hire someone else. If you're not happy with your Dr then yes, you should switch. You're going through enough emotions right now and you don't need a Dr adding to it

      over 4 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar
      Clyde

      Yes. If getting a second opinion set him off, I would change, if only because of the God complex. A good Dr. recognizes that they aren't infallible and usually welcomes a different set of eyes. Real medicine is rarely like TV medicine.

      over 4 years ago
    • Tracy's Avatar
      Tracy

      At the very least I would talk with him about no longer feeling confident with how he is communicating with you. I am a very demanding patient now. I look over all of my scans and ask for things that I feel I need. I suspect he is right about the PET scan, they are pretty high radiation from what I understand and might not show much at this point. BUT he should explain it in a better way. You must trust your team, Tracy

      over 4 years ago
    • webbsurvivor's Avatar
      webbsurvivor

      All current cancer treatment is pretty much standardized across the board so you get the same medicine at home as at Mayo etc. So the answer is the DR is the difference in the equation of figuring out what you have, getting the right chemo, recognizing issues that need to be dealt with right away. If he cant be trusted by you to be honest and have your best interest at heart then he should be replaced, Have a friend go with you next appmt with him and give you their take on him in case you are hyper sensitive due to chemo brain. If they agree, dump him. You are fighting for your life and he's having pride snits? How insensitive.

      over 4 years ago
    • webbsurvivor's Avatar
      webbsurvivor

      All cancer treatment after diagnosis is pretty standardized across the board so you get the same medicine at home as at Mayo etc. So the answer is the DR is the difference in the equation of figuring out what you have, getting the right chemo, recognizing issues that need to be dealt with right away. If he cant be trusted by you to be honest and have your best interest at heart then he should be replaced, Have a friend go with you next appmt with him and give you their take on him in case you are hyper sensitive due to chemo brain. If they agree, dump him. You are fighting for your life and he's having pride snits? How insensitive.

      over 4 years ago
    • kiki95632's Avatar
      kiki95632

      Get a second opinion. I am on Rituxan and Treandra for spots in my lungs.

      over 4 years ago
    • marshala1's Avatar
      marshala1

      You need to be happy with your doctor. That was inexcusable to let you suffer through your chemo treatment with no pain meds. Best of luck, Sweetie.

      over 4 years ago
    • jhale17's Avatar
      jhale17

      Look at fighting cancer as a long tern proposition. It is a big deal; evaluate a doctor like you would in buying a home or getting a job. Find an environment (doctor’s office including the doctor and his/her staff) that cheers you up not brings you down. Change doctors if the visit is not a pleasant experience.

      over 4 years ago

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