Hi. I'm Aliza, a BC patient and the site's resident unofficial Medical Librarian. I answer questions-usually non medical ones, offer referrals - to doctors, hospitals, institutions, agencies, websites, books, media, etc. I also offer research when required or requested.
I can tell you from experience (I used to be married to a physician) that there are many mistakes that both doctors and hospitals make. I'm sorry you had to fall victim to one of them. It's hard during this time when you're in the midst of being ill to advocate for yourself, but sometimes, that is what you must do. If the chemo doc or the oncologist didn't contact you, then you should get in touch with her or him as soon as possible. It's good that you're seeing them next week.
During this time of diagnosis, treatment, coming to terms with having Cancer, we have many adjustments and changes to make. I understand. I was in the midst of planning my Wedding when I was diagnosed. I was supposed to have my Wedding in December and had a mastectomy instead. I still have my fiancé whom I love and who's stuck with me!...;)
Sometimes one of the best things to do is to talk to someone who specializes in dealing with the highly specialized need of Cancer patients and that would be the folks at CancerCare. Their Social Workers deal only with Cancer patients and their caregivers-they're fantastic!! It's not like "regular therapy" talking to them. They really understand and "get it" no matter what you're going through. You can see them in person or speak to them by phone, whichever's more convenient (I recommend in-person if you can), but I cannot say enough good things about them!
This site is great for support and many people here have experienced similar things to what you've gone through, but sometimes that professional touch is just what's called for.
If you have any questions or other things I can help you with, feel free to contact me here or email me offsite. I'm happy to help you.