i went with flat, and i love it.
my bikini days are not behind me, but i totally DO NOT MIND being flat.
in fact, it's kind of awesome.
somehow, it takes me 1/2 the time to get dressed - don't really understand that, since we're talking about one piece of clothing... but there it is.
i do, however, miss my nipples. alas.
i had a decent amount of real estate, if you will... and i'm an athlete. being flat is ... well... peachy.
in clothing, no one seems to notice. if they do, they are at least polite enough to never say a word.
i know so many people who have had trouble with recon. and, it's a minimum of two surgeries... i was not cool with that...
lastly - symmetry was important to me... and i had triple negative cancer, so i really wanted to minimize my recurrence risk... and avoid radiation.
it's such a personal decision. i hope you are able to make a decision and feel peace around that decision.
for me, going flat has totally and absolutely been the right call. i have zero regrets with that decision.
ps - i'm happy to talk about this more, if you want... just zip me off one of those requests for email thingies...