• Now that the surgerty/ treatment is done I have had mild anxiety and weeping. I should be happy and relieved.

    Asked by digger6218 on Monday, April 30, 2012

    Now that the surgerty/ treatment is done
    I have had mild anxiety and weeping. I should be happy and relieved.


    12 Answers from the Community

    12 answers
    • hikerchick's Avatar

      There are many aspects of loss to deal with too. When I'm in survival mode (getting through the toughest times) it can be somewhat of a let down to return to "just daily life." That extra adrenelin isn't pumping out to rise to difficult occasions throughout the day. Daily life and the new you has to be defined/redefined too. Fear can remain. It takes time, and sometimes active reflection, to adjust. I will bet that things will get better soon if you talk with others and arrive at some of the issues you, personally, need to deal with, considering all you've been through.
      I call it 'aftershock." It happens to me a lot.
      I hope you'll be easy on yourself.

      over 4 years ago
    • GRACENOW's Avatar

      Yes! I have been having the same...crying and anxiety. I believe that we do "cowgirl up" as we say here in Texas to get through the surgeries and treatment. Then we are left with the trauma that our bodies and souls went through. The most important thing is to be gentle with yourself, have someone to talk to and just know it does take time as hikerchick noted. I also find movies that make me laugh really help. All my doctors said laugh everyday....so finding good comedy isn't always easy, but it is out there. Take good care of yourself and try not to "should" on yourself....It takes practice, I know!

      over 4 years ago
    • NanciHersh's Avatar

      Both of the answers above are so right on. You are not alone, this is all part of the grief, and healing that is a process but physically and emotionally. Do what after you need to do to get through the tough times, whether it is lie down, cry, walk away... know that that moment will pass, they all do.

      Also, see if you can "step outside of yourself" and watch the process, rather than get sucked in. You still need to go through it all, but it won't quite have the power.

      You go through the yucky stuff, you can get through this...one day at a time.

      over 4 years ago
    • Keephopealive's Avatar

      It's over! But is it really? I think we will always live in fear to a point, even tiny bits, will it return? Mine has returned for the 3rd time but I am living to the best of my ability now. I had some bad days but don't want to live in the dark hole so keep plowing my way out.
      Do nice little things just for you....read, relax, massage, nails, pedicure, hot tub soak...chat with friends..
      Hang in there.

      over 4 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      I have worried so much on how I will adjust at the end of treatment. Chemo is done and I have started radiation which will end in mid-June. I find the radiation room to be "scary" as it makes it all real again (tears slip out of the corners of my eyes without my permission). At the end of treatment, I want to be on guard but I do not want to be paranoid. I do not want to live in fear of the cancer returning -- I want to enjoy and appreciate life. I know I am not the same person that I was pre-cancer. I think I may also be anxious and weepy -- you have gotten wonderful answers here. Please let me know how you do--- as it may also help me. Thanks and best wishes!

      over 4 years ago
    • CherylHutch's Avatar

      What you are experiencing now that your treatments are over, is the most natural things that are all part of the process and journey. While in treatment, all the focus is on you and getting you well. There are the kajillion medical appts., the waiting in waiting rooms for appts. that are not necessarily on time, the anxiety of what the oncologists/specialists are going to say, the scans, X-rays, and ultrasounds... and what they all mean. The chemo and what side effects you may or may not have. The radiation, with a whole new set of side effects that you may or may not have. The permanent stuff your body has to adjust to that you didn't even think of pre-diagnosis. Then there's the "It may come back... and if it does, ..." talks with the doctors, etc. No matter what your circumstances, all of the above happen and it seems every woken minute of the day is somehow focused on treatments, diagnosis and getting through it all.

      Then, one day, it's over... no more medical appts. (or else, followup appts are every 6 months, sometimes only once/year). No more ongoing talks with the doctors.... they have to spend their time now with their patients who are still under treatment. No more regular visits to the Cancer treatment centre, the chemo unit, the radiation unit, etc. No more nurses calling to see how you are feeling. No more home care nurses, should you have had them coming to visit you at home to flush out ports or change dressings. On top of that, family and friends are so relieved that your treatments are all finished now... there's no more scare that the cancer is winning, so they leave you alone to get on with living your "normal" life.

      All of this sort of happens overnight.... and you wonder why you are depressed and weepy?? ;) You had a huge support team from medical professionals to family and friends... and now you are on your own, with the expectation that you can pick up where you left off just prior to your diagnosis. The problem being, you CAN'T go back to that pre-diagnosis state because so much has happened that you are still adjusting to.

      So, when the blues hit, or the tears threaten to flow... be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that this reaction is totally normal (and expected) and it's OK to feel this way. It will take time to adjust before it starts sinking in that you really are OK! The reason you aren't having to schedule your life around appts. and treatments is because you ARE OK!! Others have to go through treatments for the rest of their lives, but your situation is so much better! Celebrate each time the blues/tears come that they are there because you can't quite believe that you made it through and you are going to be fine!! :)

      If the blues/tears last for any length of time and they are interfering with your every day life, then yes... by all means get in touch with someone to talk to. Your family doctor or even the folk at the Cancer Clinic will be able to refer you to someone who is experienced in talking to patients going through the post-treatment blues. Don't suffer alone, when this is something very common that you can get help for IF it persists and doesn't go away on it's own.

      Hang in there!

      Cheryl in Vancouver

      over 4 years ago
    • Islandgirl's Avatar

      wow its nice to hear its not just me. I finished on 4/19. thought it was smooth sailing. 3 days later I was in the ER with shortness of breath and the usual nausea vomiting and chills, thank God test were negative for blood clots..the breathing part scared me (even though I work in the medical field as aRN) it literally FREAKED me out since then I've been more emotional and crying while my hubbies been home and these last 2 nights i've had episodes of shortness of breath anxiety nearing a panic attack..I think its because he's gone and i worry what would happen if something did go wrong what would my 11,9 and 6 year old do...I'm going to try to do more fun things, and finds ways to relax..any other ideas would be great..don't notice much difficulty breathing till bedtime

      over 4 years ago
    • Blue's Avatar

      I'm so impressed with the thoughtful answers you've received. It seems perfectly natural that you feel anxious after your treatments. I am in the same boat having just finished chemo and radiation so I'm trying to create a new cosmology for myself which isn't so bound to a rigid, daily schedule. In a sense, I feel liberated.

      over 4 years ago
    • Sunnydays' Avatar

      Heading into my final surgery and having some of the same thoughts as you - what will it feel like to move on with life and leave this chapter behind! It is nice that my hair is now long enough that I can run into people at the grocery store and be able to chat for a few minutes about life - and NOT mention anything about surgeries, treatments, cancer!!!! Obviously it is still on our minds a lot, but I think others get tired of hearing about it after a while. Good to be able to move on and focus on the sometimes mundane and sometimes wonderful things that life has to offer. Wishing you all the best!

      over 4 years ago
    • digger6218's Avatar

      Thanks everyone. IT'S A relief to know this is normal. I only had an anxiety attack 5 years ago after my Mom passed. And I figured ok I'm healed and should be happy. Guess just need to process. THANKS AGAIN

      over 4 years ago
    • Sunnydays' Avatar

      Some days, I think, wow, half a day went by without thinking about cancer! What a joy! I think for those of us who have gone through it it is always in the backs of our minds. Hard for others to understand and hard to hear people make comments like "you're all better now" or "they got it all out right", when only time will tell! I'm trying to live one day at a time and make the most of each day.

      over 4 years ago
    • ChristyC's Avatar

      i hate to say this but it can continue to hit you for the rest of your life. It has me.

      about 4 years ago

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