• On Thanksgiving day we went to my brother's house where most of the family was gathering.

    Asked by Coloman on Sunday, December 1, 2019

    On Thanksgiving day we went to my brother's house where most of the family was gathering.

    I knew I shouldn't try to eat too much but everything smelled so good, looked good, and tasted great! So I wind up eating too much which caused a problem for me. I thought it might be a bowel blockage. I was in extreme pain and drawing too much attention from the family. By the end of the day, one of them calls an ambulance and I get hauled off to the ER. I didn't want to be the center of attention, I didn't want to take away from the day. Now some of the family are acting like I ruined the day for everyone. I just don't know how to react to them. What do you think?

    10 Answers from the Community

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    • Bengal's Avatar
      Bengal

      Anyone who thinks that you ruined the day is a jerk. You made the effort to be there in spite of all you are dealing with, none of which was your choice. They should have been "thankful" that you were able to be there with your family this year. I hope you are feeling better now and no longer in pain. As to how to react to them???? I'd tell them they need to get over themselves but that's just me. It is the Holiday season and understanding and forgiveness are in vogue.

      5 days ago
    • kalindria's Avatar
      kalindria

      I'm with Bengal. You didn't ruin anything. You're human and you had an unfortunate situation that you dealt with appropriately. They're just mad that life isn't a perfect Hallmark movie with only happy endings. Time to grow up and face the fact that life isn't all sweetness and light. As Bengal said, they should be thankful that you were there with them to celebrate and that you're OK now.

      5 days ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      Sounds to me like someone was jealous that they weren't the center of attention maybe?

      5 days ago
    • Dawsonsmom's Avatar
      Dawsonsmom

      I’m on board with the others. That is utter bull$&!/.
      Families can be so difficult..... and no, it wasn’t a Hallmark movie, but they turned it into a Lifetime movie with their drama. Do they not get that you’re just trying to get through this Hitchcock horror film we call cancer?

      4 days ago
    • andreacha's Avatar
      andreacha

      And I agree with all of the above comments!!

      4 days ago
    • Teelee3's Avatar
      Teelee3

      Totally agree...family, of all people should understand!

      4 days ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      I think you need a new family -- Just kidding!
      I really hope you didn't have a intestinal blockage, I had one last spring & had my stomach pumped, which was so horrible it led to a heart attack.
      So get better, try to relax, and spend some time away from your drama queens.

      4 days ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      I could understand little kids maybe being frightened by what happened, but that has nothing to do with the event being ruined. And the adults need to be acting like adults.

      3 days ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Oh Colomon, i am really sorry to read about the issue you had on Thanksgiving and also very sorry that some of the people there have so little empathy or compassion as to "blame" you for feeling so horrible.

      I honestly can't imagine anyone in my family reacting like that. A natural reaction, in my opinion, would be extreme concern for my loved one (in this case, you).

      I hope you are feeling WAY better now and that you won't let those people's reaction make you feel bad. THEY owe YOU an apology for their reaction, not the other way around. (I am really upset at how they treated you. So wrong. )

      3 days ago
    • Bug's Avatar
      Bug

      Bengal said it: Anyone who thinks that you ruined the day is a jerk. I’m sorry they treated you like that.

      2 days ago

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