• Overcoming Fear

    Asked by mtnraindancer on Thursday, February 7, 2019

    Overcoming Fear

    I will have a colon resection and a liver resection at the same time on February 19th. Some days, I think "I've got this". Other days, I'm terrified. I know what will be, will be but I can't keep the "what ifs" at bay. I realize this is my chance at "cure" and I have no choice but to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Anyone else wrestle with the "fear roller coaster"? Hugs, M

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    • Jayne's Avatar
      Jayne

      I was very nervous leading up to my surgery for sure - the fear of the unknown. I ended up asking for meds to help calm me down, I think it was Xanax but it's been so long now. What can I say...I'm a wimp! But I still think it was the best thing for me - don't be afraid to ask for something if you need it!

      3 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      It seems that I always have fear even to the point of panic attacks (I still have panic attacks from pre-cancer trauma). But my fears are more phobias than real fears. But cancer fear didn't raise its ugly head until after I had had clean scans for 4 years. I had a surgery site hernia my colon had pushed through the surgery site and was pushing against my lungs. My oncologist made an appointment with a lung specialist which I canceled because of a pending snowstorm. My oncologist called my PCP and both called me on a conference call and said that they had rescheduled the appointment and I was not to cancel period. The lung Dr. reviewed the CT-scan as said I had a hernia and scheduled me with a surgeon ASAP. Later that afternoon my PCP called to make sure I made the appointment. OK I should have been getting serious by now but that is not my style I did go to my appointment. The surgeon said he had reviewed my CT-scans and said he had scheduled surgery in 10 days. I thought hernia repair was no big deal just a little out-patient procedure. So I asked him can we put this off until next month. Well that changed this kindly reassuring Dr. into a Dr. Doom. He showed me the CT-scan pointed out my colon and my lung. He said my lung could collapse and my colon could twist and burst. He told me to move about as little as possible and he scheduled me for an EKG and X-rays. That put me into full panic mode. Now I am not one to take medication for anything but what is necessary to extend my life. But these panic attacks were like the symptoms of a collapsed lung or a twisted colon so I had to see my PCP. She was very helpful and showed me several anti-anxiety medications and we chose a very mild and old medication. It looks like your fear may be short term so I do suggest that you talk to your PCP about a short term medication for anxiety
      Will remember you in my prayers on the 19th

      3 months ago
    • Bug's Avatar
      Bug

      Jayne, you aren't a wimp! : ) It's okay to ask for help.

      3 months ago

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