• planning a no more chemo party - how did you celebrate it, any good tips?

    Asked by cranburymom on Sunday, July 15, 2012

    planning a no more chemo party - how did you celebrate it, any good tips?

    dear my community,
    I am planning to have a no more chemo party soon - mainly to thank people who helped me during dark moments. I am still in treatment, and yes my cancer journey will continue...but want to celebrate this important milestone.
    Any idea? Simple BBQ is great - I am hoping to have something more than a speech and thank you card.....

    thinking of folding origami in pink...as I am from Japan. Any tips or idea, hugely appreciated!!!

    17 Answers from the Community

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      I didn't. Chemo was just the first step in my cancer journey and I just didn't have the time or the inclination to host a party. That you feel up to it (and are able to tolerate the taste of BBQ) is great! Your plans sound very nice.

      Only thing I would add is to consider whether you think you will continue to need the support of those you are thanking. It is difficult enough to get family, friends, and co-workers to understand that cancer is an ongoing journey that doesn't end with completing chemo and that cancer patients need to find a new normal and often never go back to being their old selves. Having a no more chemo party may well contribute to that misconception.

      about 8 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar
      leepenn (Best Answer!)

      hi there - this might or might not surprise you.... but how about a bike crawl? set up a route with stops at various places you and your friends and family love... list approximate times... and bike between each spot! those that are not into bikes or not able to bike can get to locations by other means.... so, a sample schedule might look like this...

      m's house departure: 10:00am
      farmer's market: 10:30am
      lunch spot (picnic or restaurant or whatever): 11:30am
      local park with playground: 1:00pm
      ice cream! 3:00pm
      stop at m's house to pick up supplies 4:30p
      finish at a local park with grill - ask folks not riding to set up....

      i think finishing chemo is a huge milestone, and i also think that making sure the people that love us KNOW that we love them and appreciate them is an awesome thing to do.

      if i were to do this, i would use my cargo bike or a bike trailer and haul a cooler full of water and ice and perhaps some other bevvies. i'd also have a bag full of some snacks... then, after ice cream, i'd head home and pick up grillables and whatever other food items for the final stage in the day (or have the bbq at your place, if your place can handle it).

      as for confusing our friends and family - they are already confused... i mean, so many people think that my hair means i'm healed and finished and no longer dealing with the effects of chemo etc... they also think i should be able to shrug off the uncertainty with ease. yeah right. please. anyway, with creativity, i bet an invitation could be crafted that highlighted the end of chemo... but also addressed the next steps. by having BIKING (or another active thing) as the theme - it could be next step towards healthy living or whatever.... perhaps this could actually directly address some of the confusion? dunno - just thinking "aloud".....


      about 8 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar

      hmmm - my brain is working working working, and i am now going to plan a party celebrating ... hmmm ... six months after the final treatment (surgery). yeah... i'm going to plan a huge bike crawl!

      about 8 years ago
    • attypatty's Avatar

      Dear cranburymom:
      I celebrated the end of my chemotherapy with my family and close friends - about 15 of us in all. We went to a teppan Japanese restaurant and it was perfect. The food was good and well within the dietary regimen I am following since being diagnosed (lots of vegies, fish,etc.) and we got a great show besides. We never laughed so much and it felt so good just to relax knowing the worst was over.
      Since origami has meaning for you - how about doing 1000 pink cranes? You could have your friends and family gather to make them, then use them to decorate your party. According to legend, the crane lives for 1000 years and brings good luck. Giving a thousand cranes is like wishing someone 1000 years of happiness and prosperity. I am sure all of your family and friends would wish you no less.
      I am glad you will soon have chemotherapy behind you. Even though radiation and long term hormonal or other therapy may still be ahead of you, the end of chemotherapy is a milestone so congratulations! Knowing you have lived through this with grace and strength surely gives you the confidence that you can do anything! Live well, and
      Fight On,

      about 8 years ago
    • CountryGirl's Avatar

      My WBC were still low immediately after chemo. I chose to celebrate six weeks after ringing the bell(after radiation). We had a come and go pool party in our back yard and catered BBQ. We started in the afternoon and by early evening the party had dwindled to closest of friends. The time frame allowed me to enjoy the entire party without getting too tired.

      about 8 years ago
    • PinkD's Avatar

      I finished the "bad" chemo (Taxol, after finishing Adriamycin and Cytoxan) on Valentine's Day. For many years I'd hosted a tongue-in-cheek "I Hate Valentine's Day" party for all my single girlfriends and that just didn't feel right for that year. So, in spite of the fact that I had 3 more months of Herceptin, I had an End of Chemo party. It was funny because I had to get a boatload of Benadryl along with the Taxol and could be pretty punchy after chemo but I was awake enough to have a blast! I sent out an evite and was amazed at the number of people who chose to spend Valentines Day with me. My sister allowed me to have the party at her house so I didn't have to deal with set-up or clean-up, and we just had pizza, cake and soft drinks all from Sam's Club. I'm really glad I did it--I'm a big believer in celebrating milestones.

      about 8 years ago
    • akristine's Avatar

      My friend had a birthday after completing chemo and radiation. Her stomach wasn't ready for spicy food and she wasn't eating enough to restore her strength. Her husband bought a cake for her and her friends hosted a soup party. We each brought a different kind of soup (enough to feed eight: I brought corn chowder and asparagus almond soups from Frontier Soups). Then we ladled it into bowls and shared with each other. My friend sampled everything and ate more than she would have without the company. She tolerated it well and a potluck party like that is easy to organize.

      about 8 years ago
    • cranburymom's Avatar

      Thank you so much for cool ideas and great feedback. Believe or not, I will be adding all of your inputs here and there, from bike ride, origami folding (which is ongoing anyway!), and to a potluck.
      I know my journey continues (or sometime it feels like a wooden jet coaster!) and important for me to celebrate.
      I bought many things in pink, and thinking to have cup cakes with a pair of pink bra!!

      about 8 years ago
    • DavidandMarty's Avatar

      Great idea, who doesn't love a potluck? 6 years ago when my husbands tumors where getting smaller (after 3 doctors told him to pack it up) and his doc said the word REMISSION we had one heck of a party. I had a local BBQ place come and feed us, everyone brought what they wanted to drink. Being the caretaker it was just as much a party for me as him. We had over 100 come and go on the beautiful summer day and evening. I had written a 'speech' on behalf of my husband about gratuide and what he really meant to us then. I wish I was there to help make some cranes, we made 1000 gold ones for my parents 50th wedding annivesary.

      about 8 years ago
    • leslifish's Avatar

      You have all really got me thinking about throwing a party now! My last chemo is the week that we teachers report back to work and four days before school starts so most everyone will be busy and exhausted, so I will have to be creative. Hmmm....many of us are planning on doing a 5K in Austin for Ovarian Cancer that Sunday (I know, a 5K three days after chemo,the day before school starts, crazy but determined to try!) maybe we could celebrate at the 5K....or after....like I said, you got me thinking!

      about 8 years ago
    • cranburymom's Avatar

      1000 gold cranes? Impressive. I know how hard to fold tsuru for that many and the "gold" paper is less forgiving for error. Do you have a picture??? I can only imagine how magical they looked at your party!
      I folded closed to 200 of them so far. I got help from friends too. I realize how hard this can be as I taught them how to fold every fri afternoon. I kept all the first tsuru in a candle jar, and called them "virgin tsuru". I have 700 more to go, and ready to start up this Friday.

      For 5K, I did S. Komen 5K shortly after chemo. It was harder than I thought as this was my first 5K. I did not realize I made a mess in my pants (just #1). My breast cancer t-shirt was so big, so no one knew what I was experiencing down there. :-O
      I still think this positive experience.
      I signed up for a half marathon this fall. Crazy? yes. I may drop out, but I am planning to complete.

      Well, you all are sooo nice and positive -so I had to chime in.
      thank you for being so beautiful and strong



      about 8 years ago
    • Cindy's Avatar

      We had a cake, balloons and potluck with friends one year after my chemo was over.

      about 8 years ago
    • Tammyl's Avatar

      My sister will be finishing her chemo at the end of August. She has already planned a trip to NYC in Sept to celebrate with her closest family and friends. She wants all of us to wear pink and is naming the day 'Girls go Pink in NYC' She's to cute.

      about 8 years ago
    • ellen0306's Avatar

      My first cancer treatment journey was 18 months long. I had chemo, radiation and Herceptin that went on for 16 months because they had to stop and then start again when I experienced heart failure. After all that, I was ready for a party! I invited all my friends from all different walks of life. My work friends, friends from high school, college, neighbors and volunteering friends. We put out a spread and people brought food and I had pink wristbands for everyone to wear and all the paper products were pink of course. I was just so happy that I was done with this mess. It was also a party to thank everyone for their support along the way. Then 6 months later I found another lump in my breast and I started my cancer journey all over again. Now I am one month away from finishing Herceptin again and being "done." No hormonal therapy because I'm ER/PR negative. I'm not planning another party, but my husband and I are going to Las Vegas for a different type of celebration. I think a party is a good idea, but I'm superstitious now about planning another one.

      about 8 years ago
    • thil2633's Avatar

      Planning ours right now- (my friend is also taking chemo)- We are having a Bald Beauties Bash and taking donations for two of our favorite local breast cancer organizations. The theme will more than likely be "Purty in Pink" and everyone is to wear tacky pink clothes.

      over 7 years ago
    • DaveWaz's Avatar


      Here is another post on celebrating after treatment that I though you might like. I hope you are doing well.



      about 7 years ago
    • Jarjer's Avatar

      I am also thinking of a way to thank neighbors and friends. Chemotherapy ends for me at the end of January 2014. I was thinking of a party including the kids in the neighborhood and doing a pink balloon send off (Breast Cancer). Each child can Do something to their balloon, decorate, or add a wish or a message and then we will release. after have sparklers....Can't wait to read what others are suggesting.

      almost 7 years ago

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