• Positivity...

    Asked by hjtobar on Monday, October 15, 2012


    What are some ways that you remain positive and prevent yourself from falling down that deep, dark hole of worry?
    I've learned in the last month that simply getting out of the house, and doing something normal really helps mom to feel "normal", and brings her back into the now.

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Great Question HJ, for me a simple quote. "Tough times never last, but Tough People Do" I remembered this every time i was facing another treatment, surgery, procedure, or each time I heard, "just a little stick"! The mind is the most powerful thing around, what the mind of man can conceive, and believe, it can achieve. That's another.

      Lots more will answer tonight and tomorrow. This should be good.

      Glad your here and thanks for posting
      Greg P
      3X Survivor
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      Community Mgr

      about 4 years ago
    • FreeBird's Avatar

      I think you're absolutely right-- focusing on now, moving forward with normal activities as much as possible, and going on with life. Right now is really all we have in these physical bodies, which are always changing. Focus the mind on what we have to be grateful for in this moment, keeping hope for another good day tomorrow. While what you're going through is horrible, the love you and your mother and family share is profoundly beautiful. There is so much to potentially worry about tomorrow and the next day-- all the things that could happen. But there are still plenty of good things that can happen also. Put the low beams on, and live in the moment as much as possible.

      about 4 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar

      I try and live life like I would if I did not have cancer. I go to work as much as possible and I take on new tasks. It helps that I really like my job most of the time i am good at it and I have an understanding boss that likes my work. I try to keep doing fun things I did before.

      I also know that even when the odds seem stacked against me I know that some one has o be the short side and it might as well be me. I know this because I have hit the 5% side 5 times in a row.

      I also take an active role in understanding and managing my treatment. I read and understand all of the test reports, ask lots of questions and get my doctors to think "outside the box" and look for the best treatment available for me

      I have also found sharing me experinces, knowledge and positive attitude with others here on what next.

      about 4 years ago
    • lynn1950's Avatar

      Doing all the things I would normally do: going to work, swimming, yoga, walking, being with friends, reading....helped me. Listening to music and relaxation cds also helped me to get centered.

      about 4 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I fully agree. I make sure that no matter how I am feeling, every day I get out of bed, get dressed and go outside and do something. Even if all I do is sit outside in my backyard and read my kindle, I make sure I do something.

      about 4 years ago
    • IKickedIt's Avatar

      I surrounded myself with positive people. I have a good friend who is a kvetch and a Debbie-downer, always complaining about her situation. I didn't want to hear about it. I screened my phone calls and would let the answering machine pick up. Then, I'd write her an email thanking her for her phone call and letting her know I was resting. I'd update her on my progress and let her know I'd be in touch soon. There were other people who I also minimized my interaction with due to their negative attitudes.

      I'm not a self-centered person at all; however, this was one time in my life that it was about me and my well-being. I lived life a bit more on the edge in the sense that if I wanted to be a little more carefree, so be it. If I wanted to have ice cream for breakfast, fine. I did things that made me, and those I love, happy. I didn't want cancer to affect my life or the lives of my loved ones anymore than it already had. I had my tough days, but all my other days were back to life as much as normal.

      I was the queen of positivity. I always knew I was an optimistic person, but I never knew I had such inner strength and positivity. I wish I could teach it to others, but it was just something that kicked in at the right time and I'm XXX proud of it!

      about 4 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      It's tough enough to deal with the priorities that life throws at you. I need my time and focus and energy for those things that are important. Worry isn't important. Worry isn't a priority. I simply don't have the time or inclination to waste on worry.

      about 4 years ago
    • Lirasgirl33's Avatar

      There things that keep me away from constantly worrying. 1) My faith in God. He has given me peace of mind and the comfort of knowing he's always by my side. 2)My loved ones. If I'm hurting or just feeling down, they feel it too. They feel a helplessness in not being able to make me feel better. I don't like seeing them go through that. I see being worried and down as a waste of time. I'd rather be living and enjoying life and continuing to make more memories. Yes this year has been full of trips to the hospital, dealing with treatments, etc.....but those are not the memories I hold onto. I only remember and cherish the good times. Our camping trip, the many birthday celebrations, the outings with friends and family.....those memories are the most important to me. Towards the beginning of my journey I noticed some of my friends would distance themselves from me because they too were going through their own separate problems or issues. They told me that they didn't want to bother me with their own issues. I understood where they were coming from but at the same time I felt like I needed to be there for them as much as they were here for me. I've always been the type of person to lend a helping hand, an ear or just a shoulder to cry on. Cancer would not keep me from being me. I pray to God to give me words that can give hope and inspire courage in those I come in contact with. I truly wish your mom all the best. This is a horrible disease but we can't let go of the hope within us. We have to keep living as best as we can.

      about 4 years ago

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