• Questions about questions/answers

    Asked by lchapman2000 on Thursday, April 4, 2013

    Questions about questions/answers

    How important is it to you that your question be answered on this site with compassion and empathy? Does that even matter to you?

    11 Answers from the Community

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    • Kathy's Avatar

      You know it does matter to me the compassion and empathy. I feel like I go out on a limb as it is reaching out to a group of strangers. Sometimes the answer can be blunt but true. Usually when I've gotten a blunt response or two their are plenty of nice ones to counter it.

      over 4 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      I agree w/Kathy. I prefer friendly compassionate answers. And I try to give the same when I provide answers, advice or comments. Unless I'm being sarcastic -- but usually you can tell when the sarcasm bug hits. And usually I only do that w/folks I've discussed stuff w/previous, like TicklingCancer. Or self-depracating humor. If it's someone I don't know, I would go the sincere route. Or if it's a serious topic. Hope my rambling makes sense.

      over 4 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar

      I have not been here long but I have never recieved an answer that was not campassionate and emphathic. In fact I might say I have been treated with more compassion here than by my own doctors.

      over 4 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      Yes this is a good question.
      I think it matters a great deal as well as a responce that includes HOPE. If I can do anything for anyone It would honor me if I can share HOPE with someone to fight this beast. Empathy is everything along with hope and support or acknowledgement.

      over 4 years ago
    • Ivy's Avatar

      I think this is an excellent question. Generally when I ask a question, I really want facts, and the more facts, the better. I appreciate when people respond with "this worked for me..." or "you might try...", because questions and possible answers can vary so much. I've found that people usually are kind in the way they respond, so the empathy does show through. Also, the fact that people take the time to provide a thoughtful answer, especially with a complicated subject, demonstrates their empathy and compassion to me. I don't require more obvious compassion or empathy than that, although if my condition should worsen significantly, I might be touched more by the compassion than the content. It may all depend on the background of the person who asks the question.

      over 4 years ago
    • fastdog's Avatar

      Of course it's important that the responder frames his or her response kindly. Not one of us that I know of, except Carm, is a trained physician or nurse, though of course I may be wrong. So, we can only really respond with what happened to us in a similar situation, and make that clear, and therefore none of our answers are "gospel." In addition, what happened to me with my cancer may not happen to you with yours. Some of us may be more brusque by nature than others, and we may need to consciiously put a filter on that when answering. I'm not sure what the question is really about, although I would suspect there is a reason for it, and it's a good and timely reminder to all of us that people's feelings are important, and they are exacerbated for all of us by The Beast of Cancer.

      over 4 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      The whole reason I go to this site daily is because everyone here has either had cancer or had it affect their lives in one way or another. YOU ALL GET IT! It's so refreshing to be able to ask questions about steroids, bloody noses, neuropathy, etc. and get answers from people who have experienced the same things. I have found most of the answers or comments to my posts to be comforting. What worked for you when you had XXXXX? That's what I value and seek here. The technical stuff I can get from my docs. :-)

      over 4 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      Depends on why the question was asked in the first place. I would rather get a cold, hard, factual answer that I can take away and make use of than warm and fuzzy with no content. I can get warm and fuzzy with no content from my animals. And I love them for it. But I come here to learn. Just as I want my onc to be upfront and real with me.

      I always appreciate it when a poster finishes a post by saying something about how they just needed to rant, etc. Lets me know they are aware that their post may be a bit needy. I tend to be more empathetic to those questions because I've been there. But without a clue, I may misinterpret and be brusque when the poster really needed a hug.

      over 4 years ago
    • AlizaMLS's Avatar

      Hi lcapman2000,

      I'm Aliza, a BC pt and Medical Librarian who offers my services here on this site and elsewhere. I offer advice (usually non-medical [Librarians have a code of ethics not to provide medical information to patients; that's regarded as practicing medicine without a license and is more or less illegal]). I do offer referrals to doctors, hospitals. institutions, agencies, etc. and research when required or requested.

      I think it's critical that each question on this site be answered with compassion and empathy. and sometimes even humor, when appropriate. As someone who's in a field related to allied health (not in allied health), I do not have the authority to have a say (much less any say) over anyone's diagnosis. On this site, truly Carm is the only one qualified to do so!

      While I may be able to research items for someone who requests them (medical or otherwise), I try to do so with compassion and empathy, because I remember very well the shock I felt when I found out I had cancer and I certainly wouldn't want to ever think I could have been the cause of someone else's distress.

      On this site, compassion and empathy are key. If you want accuracy, you should be asking if you can sneak a peek at peer reviewed journals in Oncology (under your specific illness). That's not what this site is about!

      Wishing you Well,

      over 4 years ago
    • lchapman2000's Avatar

      Thank you all for your answers. I feel that this site is valuable in that we can support one another as we are going through the journey together. I feel that it is essential to be empathetic and compassionate when responding as we never know just how our answers will impact the poster. Many times, people find sites like these when they feel they have no place to turn and need the emotional support. Although we can share experiences, I don't feel that this site is best utilized for medical advice. That is what our trained medical teams are for. This is why we pay them...and pay them well I might add. They have gone to school and studied to be able to treat us. I just wanted to see how everyone else felt about the site. And yes, we are blessed to have Carm on this site as she is truly knowledgeable and an asset in our journeys.

      over 4 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      There is value in shared information, but shared information delivered with a dose of sincere empathy is truly invaluable.

      over 4 years ago

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