• Ready to try and dive back into the dating scene. Any tips for a still bald, teenage girl in remission?

    Asked by shhwee on Monday, March 5, 2012

    Ready to try and dive back into the dating scene. Any tips for a still bald, teenage girl in remission?

    10 Answers from the Community

    10 answers
    • leepenn's Avatar
      leepenn

      Just be your bad assed self! If you even look half as adorable as you do in that profile pick, I bet you're turning heads!

      Do you like to do active things? Like ride bikes, go hiking, stuff like that? If yes, then those activities are great for meeting swell people with common interests.

      Got your eye on someone? Ask that person to coffee (or similar)! And then just see where it goes.

      That's about all I've got. First and foremost... Just be yourself.

      about 5 years ago
    • danellsar's Avatar
      danellsar

      Hats? Make that your signature. Fun hats. Silly hats. Cute hats. A different hat for every outfit. That way, when your hair starts to grow back, you can still do the hats, just not every day.

      Otherwise, just be yourself and go get 'em!!
      Ellen

      about 5 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar
      leepenn

      Personally, I think you can go bald or not - as the mood strikes you. You definitely have a good head for it! I'm gonna rock the nearly bald head at a wedding on Saturday....

      about 5 years ago
    • shhwee's Avatar
      shhwee

      Well... my current lack of physical ability has landed me in a wheelchair, if I'm feeling adventurous I use my walker.

      Either way I don't think I'm putting off a very attractive vibe lol

      about 5 years ago
    • CarolLHRN's Avatar
      CarolLHRN

      Hey - I am 38 and single and thinking about diving back into the dating scene. I have an ileostomy and nervous about any intimate contact and if I meet someone I like, how he will deal with it. I know the whole thing that if he worth keeping around he will accept it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's one thing to know that, it's another to go out on the dating scene!

      I do tend to do group activities in hoping to just meet some nice people and see where things go. I always hope for someone to say, I have a brother that would be a perfect match for you!

      I think if you can go out there and be confident and be yourself, you will do just fine. I don't know if you are familiar with Meet Up. It is a web site that helps people with similar interests meet each other. I belong to a 30 something one and a hiking group. There are things like poetry and games and opera. Pretty much anything you can think of. It's a great way to meet new people and not have the pressure of going on a date.

      I've tried the online dating thing without success. I did decide that if I don't meet anyone by Christmas, I will try it again. By then I am hoping my chemo is behind me, my ileostomy will be reversed and I will be more back to my usual stuff.

      Keep us posted! It should be fun!

      about 5 years ago
    • ttisme's Avatar
      ttisme

      Girl, if you are ready to jump back into a normal life, then you need to go for it! When my super thick hair started thinning out My surgeon told me that having hair is overrated! (he's bald). I hope you were able to maintain your group of friends while you were going thru your treatments! Baseball and soccer seasons are starting up, go to some games, check out teen groups at your church..is there a YOUNG LIFE program in your area? Good luck and keep us posted on your excursions!

      Personally, this old lady is waiting for Prince Charming to pull up! I have found that hanging out with my really cute grand daughter is a guy magnet!

      about 5 years ago
    • attypatty's Avatar
      attypatty

      I have never been pretty and my breast cancer treatment has taken my hair, my eyelashes, and eyebrows. On the other hand, i have lost some weight, so it's not all bad. As a professional, I have always tried to stay attractive, wearing stylish clothes, make up etc. Since my diagnosis 7 months ago, I have been open and honest with people about my cancer, not trying to hide it or minimize it. Without hair, I wear cute hats and exotic scarves. I put on false eyelashes. I bought new clothes. The most important thing is that I put on dignity and pride. I stand tall. And the amazing thing? People tell me I look beautiful - people I have known for a long time, family members, clients, strangers. My husband finds me irresistible.
      I have never been beautiful. So it must be the attitude. My bet is that young men will find you very attractive because of the beauty within, the beauty born of your strength in defeating this disease, the beauty that comes from your knowledge of what is important in life, the beauty that comes from the pure joy of living, because we know how precious life really is. You won't be able to keep the men away - the real men, the men who recognize real beauty, poetry in motion, the value and worth of your soul. YOU GO, GIRL!

      about 5 years ago
    • shhwee's Avatar
      shhwee

      ttisme: All of my pre-cancer friends have essentially abandoned me. I don't even get so much as a hello text from my alleged best friend. Hockey is the only sport that interests me, I'm not very spiritual, and there is no YOUNG LIFE program in my area..

      Lol my decent social life pretty much went out the window at the same time as my health.

      I also have no issues with my self confidence. I walk around town bald and beautiful with a gory 10in scar on the back of my head everyday. [Which was particularly fun when I had (36) staples in!)]

      about 5 years ago
    • attypatty's Avatar
      attypatty

      Dear Shhwee:
      With your confidence and attitude, I know you will have no problem attracting new people into your life. The ones who deserted you? I would have trouble calling them friends. I know it's hard for others to know what to say or how to act in the face of the "big C" but that's no excuse, really. You don't mention whether or not you are in school. But taking a few classes at your local community college might be the best place to meet new people of your age and interests. College campuses are broadening, tend to have a diversity of people, and students are usually intelligent and accepting. Maybe give it s try just by taking a few "fun" classes. Id' say "Good luck" but with your attitude, I don't think you need luck. You just need to get out there.

      about 5 years ago
    • Zacksdad's Avatar
      Zacksdad

      I agree with Leepenn. Focus on the fact that you are a survivor and your hair will most definetly grow back. Your hair does not define you no matter what you think. If by chance you find someone that turns your head give it a try. You have nothing to lose. Keep fighting. Just remember dating now is a stress you just don't need. As for your so called friends this where you find out how much of a friend they are. Please don't let it bring you down

      over 4 years ago

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