• Reminders

    Asked by Kathy on Tuesday, April 2, 2013


    I find it hard to do some things that remind me of the cancer. For example I could go for a nap but the couch reminds me of the nasty lethargic times - although at that time it brought me comfort. I suppose this kind of thing will get easier. And I guess there's not really a question in here. I'm just tired and rambling!

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Take a nap somewhere else or get a different couch.

      over 3 years ago
    • fastdog's Avatar

      Before I had cancer, I might have said, "whaaaaat?" But, cancer can change everything. I have a formerly well-loved blue flannel shirt that I wore after each chemo session, and kept on for 2 days after each treatment because I came home with a chemo pump, needed a button-up shirt for the pump, couldn't shower, and was very sick for those 2 days. For the life of me, I can't wear that shirt any more even though chemo is behind me for the moment. The couch I sat on doesn't bother me, the bed doesn't, but that XXX shirt does. Amazing, the stuff we focus on.

      over 3 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      Nancy is right, get a different couch.

      over 3 years ago
    • ddkk3's Avatar

      Wow, I know exactly how you feel!!! I've noticed with me, the thought of salt water/the ocean makes me want to gag. It reminds me of the saline they flush in my port every time (just typing this and thinking about it is activating that gag reflex!). I've also noticed that the foods that I eat the day after chemo make me want to throw up. I've had to cut out a lot of foods. Unfortunately I'm only halfway through chemo so there may be more things I will cut out.

      over 3 years ago
    • derbygirl's Avatar

      I can't look at orange popsicles or orange sherbet because that's all I had for 3 straight days, breakfast, lunch, and dinner while I was in the hospital. And it really makes me mad too because before my surgeries, they were my favorites. I made a change and now I am loving lime sherbet and cherry popsicles. So make a change by getting rid of that couch and the memories that go along with it. Take care.

      over 3 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      Hey, rambling and venting is part of what this site is all about. It's a safe place to do it! I agree -- there are certain foods I can't do anymore. And there is a lovely lavendar soap that I can't use anymore more because it brings me right back to feeling helpless and needy. We all have our foibles. Hope things do get easier soon.

      over 3 years ago
    • c25862's Avatar

      Buckeyeshelby is right. This is the best place to vent ramble do anything like that because we are all or have in the same place as each other. It will get better in time about the couch. You shouldn't get rid of it though because if you do later on you might feel yourself getting upset because you got rid of it. :) hope all goes well we are here for you

      over 3 years ago
    • mardeerpark's Avatar

      Oh, Kathy, thank you for putting this out there! I feel the exact same way! MaryAnn

      over 3 years ago
    • SpunkyS's Avatar
      SpunkyS (Best Answer!)

      I understand what you mean. There are visual and other sensory cues that are formed in your head. I had some too. I did find I needed to re-program my thoughts. As an example, when I found myself having a bad reaction going past a certain place at Lake Michigan that reminded me of less good times, I would stop and try to think of all the good qualities of that place. Then I would keep reminding myself that the bad is no longer an issue.

      over 3 years ago
    • nmill11's Avatar

      I understand what you're saying. There are times when I could just fall asleep, dur to extreme fatigue. But, I just press on watching TV until I do fall asleep while doing so. YES, the couch does bring me comfort also.

      In addition, this is the best place to rant and rave as BuckeyeShelby mentioned. No comment is too obscure, no comment to trivial, Just speak up, we've all been through the same experience or it will become our "AH HA" moment.

      We all like everyone as well as love you for your courage to write and share with us.
      Like the Timex watch marketing logo, "It takes a Licking and Keeps on Ticking". My interpertation, we all have taken a licking and will keep on ticking. Carry on Kathy and stay involved with this community.

      over 3 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar

      Thank you for all the responses. I have this thing where I try to wish I've never had cancer and the constant reminders can be intimidating to me. Today the social worker said getting a new couch for example is only a quick fix and doesn't solve the issue. She has been helping me to coexist with the cancer. Face my fears. It can be complicated for me. I feel the cancer turned my world upside down. And I know it doesn't have to be that way. Between therapy and time I'm hopeful I will come out on the other side. Thanks for understanding.

      over 3 years ago

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