• Return to work or not??

    Asked by Deb949 on Thursday, December 6, 2012

    Return to work or not??

    Needing some advice, I have hated my job for a long time & can't seem to talk myself into going back. Since my cancer diagnosis I feel that life is just too short & I survived for a reason. Now I just need to figure out what to do next. I finished radiation about three weeks ago & still feel pretty drained. Not sure when my energy will return. Any advice would really be appreciated! Thanks

    12 Answers from the Community

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    • lynn1950's Avatar

      I love my job, so I continued working throughout treatment. It actually helped me get through treatment. I'm not sure what I would do if I hated my job. I can see that you don't want to go back. This is a good time to take stock and think about what you DO want to do. You are only 41 years old. That is enough time to have a whole new career. Maybe this is the turning point you have been waiting for.

      over 5 years ago
    • FreeBird's Avatar

      If you hate your job, absolutely dump it and do something else that you want to spend your time doing. You are right. Life is too short to spend it doing something you hate doing. New point of view, new life. Start fresh. That's my view.

      over 5 years ago
    • Harry's Avatar

      Do you need the money? If not, then quitting is the thing to do. If money isn't the issue then you might consider volunteer work or going back to school. If you do need money, can you find something that will pay you in a new job/career?

      over 5 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I took off 9 weeks and although I actually like my job, I wasn't sure I was ready to go back. I need the money so I had to, and I am glad I did. It kept me busy and helped keep the cancer and treatments from "renting space in my head."

      over 5 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      I am working through treatment, but I like my job, too. If I still had my previous job, I'd be right there with you -- my prior job was VERY stressful. Ultimately you need to do what makes you happy and what you can live with. Best of luck.

      over 5 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      If you hate your job and don't need the money or insurance...I say quit. Live your life the way you want to live it.

      over 5 years ago
    • mcowett's Avatar

      It is never to late to become what you are supposed to be.
      I lost a job a went back to school and became a massage therapist at 46. I love it and it has helped me tremendously throughout this cancer experience. I am able to go to work when I want, work as much as I want, and the energy exchange is awesome. Now, I will tell you, my last job was AWFUL!! I think if I was still working there it would be very difficult to go back. Listen to your heart and ask your friends what they think. I have one friend who always says "life is not too short, it's too long. Don't be miserable."

      over 5 years ago
    • Nomadicme's Avatar

      Thanks for your question, I'm 42 and have struggled with the same concept. I took a job I hated, because of money, and they ended firing me anyway. I'm considering a career change. I don't have any commitments, and have some room to do so. If you have a burning passion, and will not be burdened by the lack of income, embrace change. Just make sure that you do have a plan, not just hating your former life. There's a book out there, Going to Plan B, how you can cope, regroup and start your life on a new path, by nancy schlossberg. It's not about the cancer experience, but about renewing your sense of personal direction (I found the book before cancer, as I wasnt happy with my life/career).

      over 5 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      I worked all through Dx and Tx....it was my choice to keep working as then I wasn't a "victim"....my job became toxic about a year after finishing Tx and I did everything I could to try to prove to myself that I could still do it.....in the end I was forced out....my self-esteem was in the gutter....I took about 1/2 year to regroup then went back to work part-time for a different school district....I love what I do most days and happy to be back working, but I'm thrilled to only be working 3 days a week (before I always worked full time)...I love having time for me to go out with girlfriends, to volunteer and do just whatever...Since you don't like your job, maybe nows the time to figure out what you would rather do and I say go for it!!

      over 5 years ago
    • Lirasgirl33's Avatar

      If you are at a place where you are financially ok and are able to not go back and still be ok then I would say "Why not?" This is your life after all and we all deserve to be happy for as long as we are on this earth. Follow your dreams, enjoy life. Be happy. Sending hugs your way. Keep us posted on what you do decided to do. Keep smiling. :)

      over 5 years ago
    • KathyNeal's Avatar

      The comments you have received are so wonderful! I just want to add:

      Your energy will return, but you will need to give yourself time to heal. Take it one step at a time.

      About making a decision about your job...

      We have a new perspective on our lives, yes? That leads to your considering how you want to spend your precious life.

      On the one hand, since stress can have a huge impact on a person's wellbeing, it's a good thing to consider what you want for yourself and what changes or goals you might pursue that will be more kind and healthful for you. Maybe that would lead you to make the decision to leave your job. On the other hand, since you have just finished treatment--you've been through so much-- maybe you could give yourself some time to adjust, heal and restore before you make a big change that can affect your future options... Maybe there would be a way to get some support while you are working to help you cope with the stress of the job--to give you some time while you decide?

      over 5 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      At this point it sounds like you need more time to heal before you make a about returning to work. Is it the work place you don't like, or the work that you do? I am an IT Project Manager/Business analyst and love my job, though there have been several organizations/offices I would never ever go back to, because of the stress and low moral.

      Life's to short to be stuck in a job you hate, that said, do you have enough of a cushion and insurance to sustain you and your family while you find a new position. An other option may be to return to your current job, and start putting out feelers for a new position. It is generally easier to find a job when you have a job.

      I find that talking to someone and/or making a list of pros and cons really help be figure out what the best path for me to follow is.

      over 5 years ago

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