• Saw onco today ad she just was tellng me she cnt cure me. I know cancer is bad and I've ben deaing with it since 2008. For some reason

    Asked by Tallgrass69 on Thursday, May 9, 2013

    Saw onco today ad she just was tellng me she cnt cure me. I know cancer is bad and I've ben deaing with it since 2008. For some reason

    today just was sad and I cnt stop crying. I just need a It's going to be ok. and get ack on that horse.

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    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      I am so sorry you've been so sad today. Crying jags seem to be part of cancer, though, I know I've had my share of them. I read about you and see you are so young--43 sounds much better to me than 60--and to have gone through what you have, it's understandable that you'd be: EXHAUSTED, MAD AS HECK, SAD, TIRED OF THE CANCER ROUTINE--all of those emotions in capital letters. Please know that many of us care about you and wish there was something we could do to help. Take care of yourself now. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

      over 7 years ago
    • SandiD's Avatar

      I am so sorry. You have been through so much and the stress of dealing with it must feel overwhelming. Of course you are crying! You are releasing some emotion and it is ok. I remember crying a lot some days during chemo and I was not as sick as you. I cannot imagine what you must feel. Are you seeing anyone about your feelings? Even a social worker might help. I hope you know it is ok not to be strong all the time. You are human. I will keep you in my prayers. Be gentle with yourself.❤

      over 7 years ago
    • Bug's Avatar

      I'm sorry you're having a rough day, Tallgrass69. I wish I could lift this from you. Take care. It's okay to cry. Then you'll get up and keep going - one foot in front of the other. Hugs to you.

      over 7 years ago
    • Cactus49's Avatar

      Sending you encouragement, and glad you can let out the emotions. And then you can enjoy getting back on that horse. You sound plenty tough. Maybe there isn't a cure today, but tomorrow they may be. Even in remission, I look at it as LIVING with cancer, definitely not dying of it. So living well is the best revenge. All the best.

      over 7 years ago
    • luvnlife's Avatar

      I'm sorry you got bad news from the doctor today. I hope you have someone to hold you and wipe away the tears. Please keep believing in yourself and the strength you have within, and be determined each day.

      over 7 years ago
    • Honeypot's Avatar

      Dear Tallgrass69, Have you read 'Your Life in your hands' by Professor Jane Plant?
      She was given 3 months to live years ago. When I got my diagnosis,needless to say,
      I was very down but this book changed my life and gave me something to focus on.
      You can get it on Amazon. It must be worth a try. Good luck

      over 7 years ago
    • CountryGirl's Avatar

      It is going to be okay. It is going to be okay because you are going to make every day count. It's going to be okay because you are going to exercise and eat right, skipping the sweets. It's going to be okay because you are going to have a positive attitude. It's going to be okay.

      over 7 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Hugs and prayers -wish i could be there to hold your hand in person. Acknowledging and dealing with your emotions is a very healthy response. Crying is cleansing, and always help me think clearer once I'm done.

      over 7 years ago
    • SusanK's Avatar

      Crying is certainly allowed. So is sadness. You've endured a hundred highs and lows on your journey, and this is one of the lowest of lows. But look at what you've been through thus far. YOU did it, you bore that emotional and physical pain, and you are still here. You have demonstrated great strength and courage time and time again. So allow yourself time to cry. It won't be long and you'll summon that inner strength and do what needs doing. That's what you've done all along.

      over 7 years ago
    • Benge's Avatar

      So sorry you have to go through this!!! This is a great site to go on when you need some encouragement! Crying is a good thing. I tried to stay strong and felt weak the first time I cried, but it's okay, it feels great to just let the emotions come out!!
      My faith is what got me through this all. Knowing that the time here is temporary and whatever we go through there's always a light at the end of the tunnel. I sent a prayer for you!! <3

      over 7 years ago
    • debco148's Avatar

      Good healing thoughts are coming your way. Try to love yourself today, because you are loved! There is always a way, don't stop believing! xxoo

      over 7 years ago
    • princess123's Avatar

      Can't cure is not the same as can't treat. My Onco told me from day one she cant cure me and that she can only treat me. Then a couple of months into treatment gave me a 5 years or better estimate. Since I was 58 at the time, that isn't so bad. I have heard of one lady having the same type as me in treatment for 12 years. that doesn't mean chemo the whole time. I am on chemo break right now. I still get Herceptin and Projeta every 3 weeks and pet scans every 3 months. Crying is good for the cleansing of your sole. Don't worry about a few crying spurts. If it lasts and your feeling like this for more than a week check with your doctor about it. Maybe and anti depressant is needed or a therapist to talk to. It's hard to talk to your family and friends because it makes them upset too.
      Hang in there. It is going to be OK.

      over 7 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      Ah the great roller coaster of emotions connected to cancer. I'm so sorry you're on the downward swing of that. We all have confidence that you'll get the sadness cried out of your system and be ready to renew your battle. We are here for you through both the good and the bad. Hope your day gets better. Here in Ohio, it's sunny. May it be sunny in your world, too (regardless of what the weather outside is!). Many hugs!

      over 7 years ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      Tears are healing...so are prayers and I am sending lots of prayers and positive thoughts your way...take care of yourself today and every day...God bless!

      over 7 years ago
    • jad's Avatar

      You can never have too many words of encouragement, hugs and prayers - so I'm adding mine. Here's to more up days than down.

      over 7 years ago
    • Gena's Avatar

      She can't cure you, but she can treat you. Type I diabetes is not curable, but is treatable. I am in the same boat as you. I just found out the Abraxane I have been taking for 4 years has stopped working. Now we go on to the next chemo drug and see how long it lasts. I have been dealing with it since 2005. Don't want to deal with it, but have to. My 30 year old son says I am his hero because of my positive attitude and facing every challenge head on. That means everything to me. Hopefully I am showing my children how they should face life's challenges.

      over 7 years ago
    • Nonnie917's Avatar

      It's going to be okay. You go to another doctor or Cancer Centers of America or someplace like that. There is a cure for breast cancer. Don't you give up because one doctor tells you you can't be cured. That's just wrong and I'd fire her butt. You go get a second opinion and don't let anyone tell you there is no cure. You may have to go through a lot of chemo and radio treatments, but there is ALWAYS hope as long as YOU don't give up. So you hang in there and get some more advice from another doctor or cancer center. I don't know where you live, but we have a wonderful cancer center here in Seattle, WA. So do some checking around and get others to help you if you have to, but just DO NOT give up hope.

      over 7 years ago
    • carter4's Avatar

      I am in the same boat. Sometimes you need to know that you are not the only one dealing with this. I had a bad morning so I understand. Hang in there BTW - do take any anti-depdressants - Effexor has helped me. Sending big angels wings your way to wrap around you !!

      over 7 years ago
    • MillieS's Avatar

      Hi Tall, you can do this. One foot in front of the other......one day at a time. That is all anyone has. Love yourself, feel the love around you. You ARE STRONG. I too have incurable cancer.But I do my best to concentrate on the now not the future. It's very horrible to have an illness that will be with you forever, but you can make the most of each day. We are here for you! Sending love and prayers your way.Stay strong

      over 7 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      Sounds like a sad day. Definitely cry if that's what you feel like doing. We all have days when something opens up a painful, raw sadness. I hope you find yourself in a better mindset soon. If not, please do consider talking to a therapist, ideally one who specializes in cancer patients.

      over 7 years ago
    • Nomadicme's Avatar

      None of us are cured. I know a stage IV BC patient that is still around 14 yrs from her diagnosis. She treats her cancer like a chronic disease. If your current oncologist is not willing to keep treating you, go elsewhere. Keep fighting! Hugs.

      over 7 years ago

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