• Second opinion

    Asked by Jray on Monday, April 1, 2013

    Second opinion

    I am wondering if we should seek a second opinion. Every thing happened so fast and my husband just had his 1st round of chemo. I am scared and overwhelmed.

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      It is common to be scared and overwhelmed too. Sorry for your husbands diagnoses, it's tough being a caregiver and having to watch someone go through the treatments and not be able to do much. I had to take care of my Mom and Dad both when they fought cancer, as well as being a 3 time survivor myself.

      As far as a second opinion, you will get lot's of opinions about that. Most of the time they never hurt. My question first is, why do you think you need one? Do you not trust the opinion of your oncologist? Are you doubting what they have told you, are you uncompfortable with them?

      Give a little more detail and there are great people here that will give some thoughts on it.

      Thanks for posting, I hope the Mr' is doing well.

      over 5 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      If he's completed hist first round of chemo that means he's been through all of the extensive testing that leads up to that point. Second opinions are never a bad idea but why do you feel that you need one now? We need a bit more information to help you decide what to do. Based on what I've read I would say to hold off on the second opinion for now unless you feel his treatment isn't progressing as it should.

      over 5 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar
      SueRae1 (Best Answer!)

      Hugs and healing vibes. Feeling overwhelmed comes with this journey.
      i am a very big believer in 2nd opinions, having another set of eyes and experience can only help you and your team develop a better treatment plan. I have had them through out my journey.

      Last May my TNBC Metastasized to my breast, and I started treatment the next week. I saw a 3rd opinion Oncologist at the end of July. I already had a relationship with my 2nd opinion guy, so I sent hm the updated info and we had a phone consultation He said, this was the treatment he would give, but I might like to see Dr #3 as she was doing "interesting things" with TNBC. My Breast oncologist had no problems with this. In fact he was very pleased with genetic testing suggestions she gave that he incorporated them into my treat plan.

      I live and am being treated in NYC, so finding a 2nd opinion Dr and getting to their office is easy. I am not so sure what i would have done if I had to travel for several hours or be away for several days to see another doctor.

      over 5 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      If your husband wants a second opinion, then he should get one, its his decision to make. However, at this point, after starting chemo, it might be more confusing/problematic than not. Especially if you are getting one hoping for a different diagnosis. If that is the case, you have to be prepared for it to be the same diagnosis you already have.

      As others have mentioned, what you are feeling is normal. It helps to find a way to step to the side and be objective about your feelings when the panic hits.

      over 5 years ago
    • INSBOB's Avatar

      not knowing what type of cancer your husband has, i knew i would need surgury, so i got a surgion immediatly and he was my point man. he also gave direction to the oncologist, as to things the oncologist was going to do that would not have been needed. example Radiation & a Port. i am always of the opinion that you must be your own advocate and yes other opinions from other docs are important. ps also had to fire the oncologist as the Kemo center picked up a wrong drug request by him. good luck and prayers. insbob

      over 5 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      I posted a link earlier to a cervical cancer question on the proof that says that where you are treated and by whom ( meaning a specialist in your specific cancer) makes a diffrence in survival.

      Well this is more true than ever with Lung Cancer which is one of the most complex cancer in the human body with more mutations and pathways.

      Are you at a Lung cancer speciality hospital?
      Do you have a lung cancer expert?
      Has your husband been mutation tested? Go to "lets test now' to learn about this testing.

      If you have 3 "No's" you need to call the Lung Cancer Alliance and ask for a specialist in your area.

      over 5 years ago

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