• SEX DRIVE !!!

    Asked by xxx19xxx on Saturday, February 16, 2013

    SEX DRIVE !!!

    MY TREATMENTS OF CHEMO (7) AND RADIATION (33) ENDED IN THE MIDDLE OF OCTOBER.......SINCE THEY BEGAN, I HAVE TOTALLY LOST INTEREST IN SEX AND MY GIRLFRIEND AND I ARE GOING INSANE TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO GET IT BACK.........DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY INSIGHT ABOUT THIS? I'M AWARE OF THE INTERFERENCE OF DRUGS, AS I TAKE MS CONTIN (MORPHINE 15mg TWICE DAILY AND OXYCODONE-ACETOMINOPHEN (7.5 mg) ABOUT ONCE DAILY FOR BREAK OUT PAIN.
    CAN SOMEONE HELP?

    3 Answers from the Community

    • Nomadicme's Avatar
      Nomadicme

      That's a lot of pain meds. Can you try medical marijuana see if that helps? (And can dose down on the other meds?). As for intimacy, why not give your gf (and get yourself) a long body massage. It helps with bonding, feelings of caring, and with time away from treatment it can be conducive to other things ;). This is the time to focus on feelings, after treatment the ret will come. Celebrate life in other ways, there are many.

      over 4 years ago
    • AlizaMLS's Avatar
      AlizaMLS

      xxx19xxx,

      I'm a breast cancer patient and so sex is a different issue for a woman, however I do have experience with Oxycontin and Roxycodone re a former boyfriend. They can wreak havoc with male sex drive. I'm not sure of the dosage and he was on, but he took them for pain from severe physical injuries not cancer but you may wish to discuss with the doc prescribing your pain meds what to do regarding these issues. Morphine plus the meds you mention would definitely cramp anyone's style (I'm a Medical Librarian). The best advice I can give you is to see what your doc says when you can reach him and until then enjoy other pleasures.

      I see someone else wrote re medical marijuana. It's only truly legal in a handful of states, definitely not including NY and NJ, however in some cases Marinol (synthetic marijuana) can be prescribed (same PCPs) if your doc feels it's warranted. However that's really only given to help (more or less) to ease chemo symptoms and help people with nausea generally. I'm not certain if it would offer the same degree of pain relief (you really must be in a lot of pain if you're on all of the above). It's critical to inform your doctor (if there's more than one person prescribing pain meds) of all of the pain meds you're taking however. You really want to have all your docs on the same page.

      over 4 years ago
    • mac101467's Avatar
      mac101467

      Hi, solid question that a lot of people are afraid to ask or even answer, but on here, most people are so honest, that you can feel real comfortable asking and getting replies.
      I too went through that with my chemo treatment and it took a long time to come back, but it will come back and when it does, you will feel like your old self once again. I agree with Nomadicme regarding long body massages. My wife was so understanding with all of this that we did our best to focus intimacy differently by just holding each other and complimenting each other on how I looked or how she looked and little things like random kisses on the cheeks can really lift the spirits. If it gets to the point that it is overwhelming that you have no desire right now, feel free to speak to your oncologist and maybe he/she can offer some counciling that may be necessary (although time will fix this for sure, but I know what you mean).

      over 4 years ago

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