• Since your diagnosis do you find yourself being afraid of everything in life that "might" go wrong?

    Asked by Newby2Cancer on Friday, October 20, 2017

    Since your diagnosis do you find yourself being afraid of everything in life that "might" go wrong?

    ARe you afraid to take a trip, go to a concert, travel overseas, ride a motorcycle, or do some exciting things in life? Or, are you living life like it might be over tomorrow? I'm not going crazy, but I plan to live the rest of mine by doing what we want, with no fears of what might go wrong, but instead, looking forward to what might go right. How about you?

    21 Answers from the Community

    21 answers
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      Since surviving surgery and frontline chemo I have spent my days looking forward and reconnecting in part to who I was prior to my cancer diagnosis. I say connect in part because I have been changed from who I was both physically and mentally. I am not one to put off until tomorrow anymore and find myself less willing to “ settle “ or “ go along with the flow”.I have had several new experiences since ending treatment in 2014, and I plan to have more . I have made reservations for a cruise in Sept. 2018 and am mapping out a car trip visiting several states for 2019. I do not want to be that person who says, “ I wish I had.” I still get scanxiety., and I know recurrence is a distinct possibility, but I will face that if and when.

      about 1 month ago
    • geekling's Avatar
      geekling

      The better I feel, the more challenges I can meet.

      about 1 month ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Thank goodness, I am not a worrier. The day I received my diagnosis I decided to live every day to the fullest extent possible. Five years later, I am still living life as fully as possible.

      about 1 month ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      After surviving 3 times, I'm not going to sit around and worry about doing some things that I want to do. That would be like refusing to go outside the house for fear of a nutjob terrorist attack. Live Your Life....Not Your Cancer

      about 1 month ago
    • lh25's Avatar
      lh25

      I do worry, but I did before my diagnosis. In fact, I've used that to inspire myself a bit. Since I did worry, but still was blindsided with Cancer, clearly worry doesn't work. I try to balance out the "but it could happen again" with that.

      I don't let it stop me from doing what I want. On a trip to Hawaii in April, I did an ATV ride. We were the oldest in the group, and I was a little terrified before :). But I did it and had a blast!

      about 1 month ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Just the opposite, if I got thru 3 major cancers & countless minor ones, what's left to be afraid of? I'm too old to worry about any more cancer. When it's my time. I will go. There's worse things than death, believe me!
      Well, maybe I worry about our current political mess!

      about 1 month ago
    • Floridagirl6's Avatar
      Floridagirl6

      I do not worry nor am I afraid to live my life. If anything, I am more inclined to try new things.

      about 1 month ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I worry a lot. I was always afraid of traveling, I never had the desire to ride a motorcycle. Right now I live in fear of a nuclear war. My son has moved to Olympia Washington. He is making plans to move me up to Olympia next Summer. For me war seems more real than cancer. Molly I guess that what we might be worrying about the same thing.

      about 1 month ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Boise, motorcycles---- meh! Loud & dangerous!
      Try a horse.
      Washington is a gorgeous state, ocean, lot's of trees & mountains, maybe a sasquatch or two. What's to worry about there?
      Maybe by that time The Trumpet will be evicted, peace & sanity will prevail.

      about 1 month ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      I actually worry a lot less. After I faced and still facing the what if’s of cancer nothing else seems quite as scary. I worry less about what everyone thinks and have learned to enjoy the little things and the big things.

      about 1 month ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Molly what are the dangers in Washington, McCord/Fort Lewis (a prime target with in the range of Kim Jong Ugh's missiles) and Mt Rainer (a volcano ready to erupt) .
      Yes Molly the men in white coats might usher Trumpet out of the White House and to the Funny Farm.

      about 1 month ago
    • deena's Avatar
      deena

      I am a survivor of six years. I decided the reprioritize my life and refuse to live to work at my career. I will never be laying on a deathbed saying “Boy, I wish I worked more hours”. Not worth it. I want to live my life with as little fear as possible and decided to go to countries I had not considered going to before including Estonia, Lithuania, Latvia, Finland, Sweden, and Denmark. In addition, I decided to return to France for a third trip.

      30 days ago
    • deena's Avatar
      deena

      I am a survivor of six years. I decided the reprioritize my life and refuse to live to work at my career. I will never be laying on a deathbed saying “Boy, I wish I worked more hours”. Not worth it. I want to live my life with as little fear as possible and decided to go to countries I had not considered going to before including Estonia, Lithuania, Latvia, Finland, Sweden, and Denmark. In addition, I decided to return to France for a third trip.

      30 days ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      BoiseB, if you are afraid to move to Washington, consider telling your son you don't want to move there.

      30 days ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Barbara, Washington is where my son wants to live, I cannot ask him to come here to live. Besides Washington is the nearest Dr. who can remove my infected teeth.
      Deena. I for one will go to my grave deeply regretting the fact that I didn't work harder.

      29 days ago
    • Richardc's Avatar
      Richardc

      I'm now 8 years out from my last treatment. Since I only completed 80% of recommended chemo and radiation , I used to worry about the cancer recurring. However, the further out I was, the less I wondered what if. I've changed priorities and decided my career wasn't that important. We've made it a point to travel more and visit the places on our list.

      29 days ago
    • Fuxitol's Avatar
      Fuxitol

      I am still in mad / pretreatment stage. I agree with the whole live your life thing. But it's a bit annoying when it's framed like go travel the world. The uncovered bills are staggering. We will be in debt for years. Where's our retirement security / fun? Feels dismal now. Maybe they can put some happy juice into my veins on Friday.

      28 days ago
    • lh25's Avatar
      lh25

      BoiseB, there are lots of positives here as well! I'm not in Olympia, a bit north.

      My hubby and I have somewhat dark senses of humor, he's said he's glad we are here because we will likely be a target and it will all be over fast.

      28 days ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      BoiseB, sorry, I don't know the background information about your move. I think you should do whatever makes you happiest, even if you get your dental work done during a Washington visit.

      27 days ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Barbara, In a way you are responsible for my decision to move to the Seattle. You told me the title of Dr.s who treat my kind of dental problems. The threat of war is probably less likely to kill me than neglecting my teeth.

      26 days ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Gosh, I don't know if it was me. What kind of doctors treat your dental problems? I've gone to the dental school before, but right now I have lots of work needing to be done.

      I'm glad you are doing what you want and know it'll be nice for you to have your teeth fixed!

      26 days ago

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