• single mastectomy. Still healing no prosthesis yet. out in public people stare at my chest. How do/did you handle / deal with this?

    Asked by mom3b1g1969 on Tuesday, May 22, 2012

    single mastectomy. Still healing no prosthesis yet. out in public people stare at my chest. How do/did you handle / deal with this?

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    • susie81610's Avatar

      If your out in public you must be feeling good :) I did not have a mastectomy but with the type of cancer I have my left breast is a size DD and my right breast is barley a B so I also get looks but I just let it go. I have breast cancer but they don't call it that because it is esophagus mets that have moved to my left breast. Please don't let it bother you let them look then be done. I tell people let me know if your going to take a picture I want it sideways so my best side shows. When friends come over and want to do pictures. I hope things work out for you and you get your prosthesis soon then things will be much easier.
      BIG HUGS

      over 8 years ago
    • car092360's Avatar

      I had a bilateral mastectomy w/out reconstruction in December 2011. The first time I went out I was extremely self-conscious. The 2nd time I just held my head up and every time someone looked at me funny I ignored them and thought "F U...you have NO idea what I've been through. What I have are battle scars...and I'm winning!" Although I am not having reconstruction (personal choice), the funniest t-shirt I saw said "Yes these are fake! My real ones were killing me!" Smile : )

      over 8 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Maybe I am just not very observant or don't care, but I haven't noticed anybody staring at my chest.

      over 8 years ago
    • pinkwarrior's Avatar

      I too feel the same,it's been two years and I will have reconstruction later this month.I can tell you that I have made it a prompt for awareness. Most people ask about my scar from my port.I tell them what it'd from "I also tell them PROUDLY "it's my battle scar and I'm here today because I. Won!!! .don't let people determine your feelings.this is your chance to rebuild "YOU".come back healthier and? Stronger than before. We have been given a second chance.I am now on a challenge, a 90 day challenge with a company called visalis, it's a great product it's helping me transform my life inside and out. Check it out.I hope what I said helps in any way.may God watch over you always!! Go to your top tool bar and type HTTP://yjtrenski.bodybyvi. com

      Have a blessed day,

      over 8 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar

      actually, i feel like people stared at my chest far more before my bilateral mastectomy. i do feel ... kind of mutilated... but i also love being flat. it's a weird mixed bag.

      i feel like people pretty much don't notice my flatness... maybe you can choose your clothing 'wisely' - that is, wear things that don't draw attention to your torso?

      i hope you are able to use a foob soon!

      over 8 years ago
    • hikerchick's Avatar

      American Cancer Society (just call) and most women's health boutiques (cancer patient/survivor clothing and prosthesis supply stores) and your surgeon's office offer free "puffs" that suffice as temporary prostheses. They're just polyfill in adjustable sized fake boobs. You can usually get them in small, med, or large and adjust each one as you see fit. ACS will mail them to you for free. I had bilat mast Dec. 2010 and have always worn foobies, don't ever want reconstruction, but have never worn silicone foobies either. I just wear "recreational" foam breast forms all day. I also made some foobies I use in my mastectomy swim suit. There is a website with directions to make your own.... it's breastfree.org.... If you Google it, choose the "how to make a microbead breast form" link to see instructions.
      Also, very important, the women's health boutiques carry what anyone should need to increase the size in one bra cup to nearly match the size in the other. Or make your own.
      There are options! I spent many, many hours at my sewing machine that first 6 mo. and I'm not much of a seamstress. For me, it was therapeutic. I was literally doing everything I could to become comfortable with my new figure and to have it look most comfortable to me.
      And it's so much easier to jog with foam B cup foobies than my old D cup breasts!!!
      Also, adding stretch lace to the tops of some bras or shirts can adapt some old clothes to the new you. Very hard to find; it order it online because no stores here carry the stretch version of lace... I mean none of them.
      Good luck! It will get better!

      over 8 years ago
    • scootersmom's Avatar

      When I had my bi-lateral I went to the specialty shop and purchased the foam inserts in a size smaller than I originally was. I had to wear the compression bra anyway and as soon as the doctor allowed me to I began inserting those in the bra. I had tissue expanders inserted during the mastectomy for reconstruction but could not fill them right away due to an infection. I wore the inserts up until the time I went in for the final implants. They were not that bad except that they moved around at times. BTW-I was a 46DD before the mastectomy and supposedly I am now a 42C although I think it is more like a 42B since I still can't fill the c cup. Good luck. You can also wear larger shirts which will help hide it.

      over 8 years ago
    • mom3b1g1969's Avatar

      I appreciate your responses....but Some of you are saying that you had Bilateral mastectomies. I only had the left breast removed so I still have a D cup breast hanging on the right side. i think that's what makes it so noticeable. I am told by doc and fitter that I am still too swollen to wear a prosthesis yet. Therefore, I have a lot of emotional issues with going out in public.......especially when I see people staring at my chest. Is there anybody who has had just a single breast removed and had these issues???

      over 8 years ago
    • mspinkladybug's Avatar

      lol I am superwoman of 1 breast I wear a tight shirt I am v ery in your face about it If just 1 woman who found a lump is afraid to call and if they see me runing around happy free and with 1 breast then hopefuly they will call their dr.
      I show woman that being sexy is not about a breast i too dd for the first time in my life people looked me in the eyes NOt at my DD!
      It also shows young girls to be happy with their bodies we put to much on being perfect.
      this teache sthem to love themself as they are

      over 8 years ago
    • mom3b1g1969's Avatar

      You go mspinkladybug!!!!! I'm not trying to be perfect just don't like being stared at....but if it works for you.....have at it. I actually just got a leisure bra today and a loaner prosthesis cuz I am still too swollen to actually be fitted.

      over 8 years ago

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