• Sister Died in 6 months

    Asked by Sibling on Sunday, November 11, 2018

    Sister Died in 6 months

    A terrible disease! Treatment did nothing but cause terrible pain and suffering. I wish she had done nothing.
    She could have had a better quality of life

    13 Answers from the Community

    13 answers
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      But we never know how chemo or other things will effect is or they may give us a bit longer on this planet. It's kind of a 50/50 chance will it work or not.
      I'm very sorry for your loss. Cancer is a terrible way to die. I lost my dad and my brother to cancer and the sickness went on and on from the treatment.

      7 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      cllinda is right, we never know. I've seen thousands of people come and go on the site, and some of those didn't last long, like her. On the other hand, I've seen several people that were here, but were doing nothing, the same goes for them, some died quickly and some are still going. We just never know. I've been through it 3 times, but if I get diagnosed again tomorrow I will take whatever is suggested to me. We are sorry for your loss and wish you healing with time.

      7 months ago
    • Sibling's Avatar
      Sibling

      Thank you. The loss is very raw. She so wanted to live. Upon diagnosis she was asymptotic. I asked the dr. At that time. What if she does nothing... Dr. Said she could be gone in 6 months... she did all that was asked of her... It is just not fair

      7 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I am very sorry for your loss. Lung cancer is often a particularly vicious disease. I had a friend who died about a month after diagnosis. He, too, tried treatment, but it had no effect. He just steadily went downhill.

      There is nothing in life that is fair. There is much in life that is sad. I hope you can rest easy on the fact that she is no longer suffering.

      Once again, i am sorry for your loss. It sucks.

      7 months ago
    • Julia468's Avatar
      Julia468

      I'm so sorry for your loss. Cancer is not fair and a different road for each person.

      7 months ago
    • alivenwell's Avatar
      alivenwell

      You have my sympathy. There HAS to be a cure for this.

      7 months ago
    • Bug's Avatar
      Bug

      I'm very sorry for the loss of your sister.

      7 months ago
    • beachbum5817's Avatar
      beachbum5817

      I am so sorry for your loss. My husband only lived 6 months from the time his symptoms started and only 4 months from the time he was diagnosed. Treatment or no treatment, it is always a gamble. It was very tough on him, but he wanted to fight. It does help me some to know that he did all that was offered to him. I hope, in time, you will find some peace with her decision. Take care.

      7 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      My dad died exactly 6 months after he was diagnosed. When i spoke with his oncologist about 4 months into the battle and learned he wasn't going to make it, i asked why in the world they kept giving him the chemo that was making him so sick. I will never forget the doctor's response, "your dad refuses to give up. He won't quit." Dad had just turned 49 when he died.

      7 months ago
    • DIlly39's Avatar
      DIlly39

      So sorry for your loss. Your sister is now in a better place & suffers no more. May she R.I.P.

      7 months ago
    • wmsavs' Avatar
      wmsavs

      Focus on al the good times you and she had together. We never know what is in front of us on the road of life. We make choices with our lives and unfortunately are very rarely given do-overs. Celebrate her life rather than focusing on what took her from you.

      7 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      Another personal experience story. Dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer maybe 15 years ago. The doctor told him that day to not worry about the PC because he would die from something else long before the PC got him. That might have been true if he would have been taking the hormone pills that he was supposed to be taking. When the cancer sort of woke up and got aggressive it went to his lungs and brain. He was gone in about 6 weeks after they found it had spread.

      My Mom was diagnosed with an inoperable lung tumor and was told that she might last 6 months with treatment or without it. She chose to not have treatments at all. She lasted 10 months. But during that 10 months we probably crammed 10 years worth of visiting, trips, eating together and just talking. It's sad that it took something so terrible to get me to do what I should have been doing all along.

      But, as most of us do, I always thought we would have plenty of time to just sit and talk. Turns out, sometimes we don't.

      7 months ago
    • Sibling's Avatar
      Sibling

      Greg... Thank you.... We too did a lot of visiting, meals, and beach time. I believe if my sister did nothing the quality of her last month's would have been far greater. I look forward to getting involved with promoting scans for early lung cancer detection. So sorry about the loss of your parents

      7 months ago

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