• Sister Getting Needle Biopsy

    Asked by Ydnar2xer on Friday, May 3, 2013

    Sister Getting Needle Biopsy

    Since I was diagnosed the first time 10 years ago, I had feared that my sister R would eventually get breast cancer as she also has calcifications in her breasts. Today she just called to tell me they are testing her as her mammo showed a spot and her lymph nodes are "suspicious". She gets needle biopsy in about an hour, then must wait until Tues or Wed for results. I know I can comfort her, but this news really sucks. Any suggestions beyond going to appointments w/her and holding her hand? (This scares me, too.)

    10 Answers from the Community

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Sorry for your sisters outlook. I went through this with both Mom and Dad, I think it's as hard to help a loved one deal with it as it is to be the patient. All I can offer is since you have already been there you can answer the questions she has and explain what's going to happen before she goes for certain procedures. This will ease her anxiety a little bit. Being there helps too. I wish her the best, maybe it's going to be a happy outcome, think happy thoughts.

      over 7 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Hugs and prayers to both of you. Take her out to do something fun over the week-end - mani & pedi, tea, a funny movie, etc. I know how much going out and doing fun things meant to me while I was waiting the results of my biopsies, it's nice to have something fun and interesting to do.

      over 7 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      Thank you both. You don't know how much it means to me to have your support! I feel like we've been through a lot this past (almost) year!

      over 7 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      I'm with SueRae. Help her to be distracted (as much as possible) this weekend. We probably all remember that initial waiting period is among the most stressful and there is no point to worrying about all the unknowns before any facts are available. I'm sure your knowledge and empathy will be a great comfort to her, no matter how things develop.

      over 7 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      Just be there for her -- if she wants to talk, listen -- if she wants to cry, hold her -- if she wants to be angry, let her -- if she wants to pray, pray with her. When I was thrown into the "Twilight Zone" of the cancer world, I felt very alone. My family and friends were hovering just outside with love and support but I was alone because I was the one that had cancer - not them. Since then, a friend received the exact same diagnosis as me -- I have been there for her and she has found comfort in the fact that I have a real understanding of her feelings, etc. On the other hand, it is wonderful for me to have someone with whom I can share that understands! So, whatever is in your sister's future, she is blessed to have you there to totally understand, to support her and to love her. I wish you both the best!!!!

      over 7 years ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      Whatever the outcome, your sister is so fortunate to have a sister who is there for her...I shall keep you both in my prayers...good luck and God bless! PS..keep us posted and let her know about this website if and when she needs us

      over 7 years ago
    • Nonnie917's Avatar

      Ydnar2xer I am in the same boat. I am waiting for my sisters results to come in also. They were suppose to be in by Friday, but she lives in a very small town where the doctor's there could care less. They are only there because they have to serve 2 years internship in a town like that. So she has had one strong battle on her hands. They thought she had leukemia at one point and thank God that turned out negative, but she is having a time of it with those doctors. All I can do is pray for her. Her lymph nodes are involved and it has me scared. At least mine weren't involved. I know what you are going through. Hang in there and be strong for her.

      over 7 years ago
    • SandiD's Avatar

      I am sorry, I worry about my sisters too. I think you can start comforting your sister by reminding her that Breast Cancer is not the death sentence it was once thought to be! Most cancers are caught earlier these days due to good testing and most of us go on to be Survivors. Emphasize this so she gets a reality check. Beyond that distraction is a good thing. It is when we become still that our imagination goes wild. YOU are a reminder that cancer patients can survive! My favorite site is www.breastcancer.org for good info. Let your sister know that if she does have cancer, you will be with her every step of the way until she is better like you. Waiting is the worst. Good luck! She is blessed to have you.

      over 7 years ago
    • Mel's Avatar

      I am so sorry to hear that!!!... When I got done with my chemo and final reconstruction surgery. My sister called and said I found a lump and she ended up having everything identical to me. I live in Ohio she lives in Raleigh (my baby sis!) I haven't gotten to see her through all this or had she with mine the last year. So hard being away. All I do is talk on phone and email telling her how I felt or what other kinds of things my doc. or nurses told me. Hugs!

      over 7 years ago
    • janstar47's Avatar

      Your sister is indeed very blessed to have you. I pray by now her answer has been a positive one. Either way I pray for both of you to be blessed with a wonderful prognosis and ENJOY LIFE knowing you have such amazing support. My twin sister was my closest support system; came down from Raleigh several times. Now she lives 50 miles from me. Awesome. They were in the throws of selling their home and BAM, it sold and they moved to Florida. I pray she will never be touched by any form of cancer. Our mother had breast cancer at age 78. I was 65 and just finished treatment the middle of April. Woo Hoo God's Blessings upon you dear one.

      over 7 years ago

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