• Sisterhood Update

    Asked by Ydnar2xer on Monday, May 13, 2013

    Sisterhood Update

    Just an update--After her needle biopsy, my sister was indeed dx with infiltrating ductal carcinoma last week. She is stage 2B; she is still learning what her treatment will be. This has been very scary for all of us. I love her dearly and am glad I've already fought my way through lumpectomy, radiation, tamoxifen, bilateral mastectomy and chemo so I can take her hand and be by her side on her walk. In a good way, it will bring us closer than we already are, because she will experience cancer and "get it" in only the way one who has experienced it can "get it". But I will now have to be strong for her. This is strange, how we both got b/c--and our grandmothers lived to be 98 and 99, never having mammograms themselves. I hope they figure cancer out soon!

    11 Answers from the Community

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Sorry for her dx YD. I know she will be in good hands with you guiding her along the way though.

      over 3 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      Hugs to both you and your sister. Sorry she has to go through this, but I'm glad she has you to help her.

      over 3 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Hugs and healing prayers to both of you. FYI breast cancer runs in my mother's family (2 of her sisters and two of my cousins - daughters of one the sister's that had BC) none of them died to the disease. One of my aunts was diagnosed in her late 30's and lived to be 94. The other lived to be 88, her daughters who are 12 & 16 years old then I am are doing just fine thank you. So there is hope. The interesting thing is I test negative for BRCA and all other known cancer mutations. I too hope they figure this out soon,

      Best of luck to both of you.

      over 3 years ago
    • CAL's Avatar

      Although I know you will be strong for her, I also know this will bring back a lot of memories/fears that you experienced yourself. My heart goes out to both of you, as I can totally relate. I lost my older sister and brother many years ago (my brother to cancer), and my younger sister lost her husband to cancer early in their marriage leaving her a widow with 2 very young children. We have been through a lot together caring for our elderly parents in the midst of raising our families and working and so have looked forward to our children being grown and being at a point in our careers (we are both Registered nurses) to have time together relaxing. Because there was absolutely no history of BC in our families of origin, my diagnosis was a shock to us and my sister has been an incredible support for me looking up research, helping me interpret what I read, staying with me during surgery and some of my chemo to give my husband a break (sitting is hard for him as he's an organic produce farmer and is outside more than he is inside). Now my sister and I are supporting each other to continue to loose weight, eat better, reduce our stresses and I so hope to never go through this again and I don't want her to experience this. That balance between fear being a motivator and staying positive and laughing and being upbeat is a hard one to find at times so I wish you and your sister the best not only now as she goes through this but well into your old age to enjoy each others company.

      over 3 years ago
    • Topazcat's Avatar

      Good luck to you and your sister. I was diagnosed with stage IIIB lobular Inflammatory Breast Cancer on 11/19/2010. Ten days later my sister was diagnosed with Ductal breast cancer. Our mother, paternal grandmother, 2 maternal aunts, and a paternal 1st cousin have all had breast cancer. We were tested and it is not genetic. It is scary, but we are fighting together!

      over 3 years ago
    • Honeypot's Avatar

      It is very strange who gets cancer as three of my husband's 4 sisters have had it and yet
      both his parents reached a ripe old age. We have been trying to find out if they had any
      contact with something like asbestos but 2 have had lung cancer and the other colon cancer
      and none of them is young. I think when we get older, things start to go wrong like an
      old car! Honeypot

      over 3 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      She has one XXX of a warrior by her side. I'll be thinking of you both. Sending happy thoughts your way.

      over 3 years ago
    • Nonnie917's Avatar

      I am so sorry to hear about your sister. If she is anything like you, she will fight and beat this as you did. My sister has a different type, but I haven't heard about any treatment yet. Hope I hear from her soon. Good luck and stay strong for your sister.

      over 3 years ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      So sorry for your sister's diagnosis but so happy she has you by her side...take care of each other and I pray all will go as smoothly as possible...God bless you both!

      over 3 years ago
    • DianaL's Avatar

      I am so glad that she has you. So sorry that you both have had to go through this journey!
      Prayers and Hugs!

      over 3 years ago
    • Ydnar2xer's Avatar

      Thanks for all of your thoughtful, caring responses. She is doing better now that she's had a while to take this bad news in. The good news is that she's Her-2 +, Progesterone + and Estrogen +, so will have lots of treatment options. Her tumor is slow-growing, so probably chemo first to shrink it. As for attitude--what can I say? You can ALWAYS tell a Norwegian, but you can't tell her much! Uppity women UNITE!

      over 3 years ago

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