• So does anyone get frustrated with people telling yo 'it could be so much worse' or 'at least you are here'?

    Asked by TubThumping on Saturday, October 15, 2011

    So does anyone get frustrated with people telling yo 'it could be so much worse' or 'at least you are here'?

    When people say these things in response to my complaints over issues and side effects it makes me feel like I am forbidden to feel sorry for myself - even for a moment. It's as if I should just feel greatful to be alive. Right now I am experiencing nerve damage severe enough to rob me of the fine motor skills in my right hand, but I'm not allowed to complain. Anyone else?

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    • momsofzeck's Avatar
      momsofzeck

      :)) We all have the same chance 50 percent live or 50 percent die. No one is lucky everybody is the same... If somebody even doctor gives a chance just smile and nod your headç Noone can know the chance exept GOD!

      over 8 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar
      nancyjac

      The key for me is taking whatever anybody else says in whatever way works for me. If somebody says it could be worse, I in fact do realize that it could be worse, rather than taking it as that person saying I shouldn't complain. We have no control over what others say and are wasting our energy trying to change that. But we do have complete control over how we react or interpret what somebody else says. So focus on what you have control over and dismiss what you don't have control over.

      over 8 years ago
    • codiem's Avatar
      codiem

      I just wrote something about this on my Facebook. When I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer my Dr. told me is was the "good cancer"... as if instead of mourning the fact that I have cancer for even 5 minutes I should immediately think "oh, that's great... I'm soooo glad it wasn't XYZ cancer!!!" I've even had friends tell me that same thing! I'm like everyone here. I am, for the most part, a pretty possitive person, but I have my moments and I think I'm entitled to them... We all are! The other one that bothers me is that since I am post treatment I am cured forever. I have to wait until Oct. to find out if the radiation worked and even then it could come back one day in the future! I was diagnosed less than a year ago and already friends are asking what kind of cancer I HAD.

      over 7 years ago

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