• So grateful for this forum

    Asked by jchelle on Tuesday, June 9, 2015

    So grateful for this forum

    My father was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer last week. They say it is in the early stage but I don't what stage exactly. The doctor who diagnosed him recommended radiation therapy but so far what I've read on here I've been leaning more towards surgery in the event that not all cancer cells are removed which then radiation therapy can be used (of course not my decision, up to my father). My father said the doctor wasn't too helpful and told him to "Google the cancer." Yes, the search engine is a powerful tool but suggesting my father do that at a very sensitive time is a bit appalling to me. At this moment his PSA is 9 and his biopsy returned 5 of 10 positive with three Gleason scores of 3+4=7 and two of 3+3=6. Involves 5%, 60%, 80%, 10% and 60% of the core (still trying to understand all this info so forgive me if I don't exactly make sense). My father would like to get a second opinion but I don't know where to start and who to look for. My brother suggested sending his biopsy

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    • BoiseB's Avatar

      Here is a helpful site for planning cancer http://www.livestrong.org/we-can-help/ That his Dr. said just "Google cancer" is a moronic statement. One of the first sites that comes up is an article that is a vaguely disguised ad for Cancer Centers of America. You need to do more research than just Google. I believe you have a California State University near you. They may offer research services to members of the community. Otherwise find out if your local library still offers research services. You and your father need a better explanation than "Go Google." My medical center has on staff some wonderful nurse practitioners and physician assistants that are willing to spend some time with the patient explaining things.
      Lastly support your father's desire to get a second opinion. Don't let anyone talk him out of it.

      over 4 years ago
    • jchelle's Avatar

      Yes of course MSESQ I am completely aware that it is his body. Like I stated the decision is up to him not me and I will support him with any decision he chooses. I am simply doing all the research I can to help him during this sensitive time but am at a loss of where to begin. All children only want what is best for their parents which means keeping them around for as long as they can. I've considered the side effects associated with each treatment.

      Thank you all for your words of encouragement and suggestions! BOISEB, I will be looking into research services within my area.

      over 4 years ago
    • kkcomm's Avatar

      Jshelle you are a great kid! So glad your dad has you there to advocate for him. My husband was 63 when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer that almost exactly the same biopsy results. Urologist explained to us that at 10 years out there was a very slightly higher risk of recurrence with radiation than with surgery. He said he would respect our decision and do the surgery if we wanTed to go that route but referred us to a radiation oncologist for a second opinion. We opted for the radiation and once we made the decision we decided we wouldn't look back and second guess ourselves no matter what. The radiation was very easy on him. He had 8 1/2 weeks of daily radiation with weekends off. The only side effect he had was some mild fatigue towards the end. His PSA remains undetectable five years out. I would get an opinion from another urologist as I don't like the google it response and also a referral to a radiation oncologist before your dad makes the decision. We also had a friend who was diagnosed at 42 just after his dad past away from prostate cancer. He obviously went the surgery route due to his age and the Gleason score of 7 but he had continent issues for 2 years after and permanent erectile issues. Make sure your dad understands these possibilities as you never know what might be the most important to him. My husband was very concerned about the having to wear incontinence but luckily it wasn't an issue. Also watch for depression in both you and your dad. Cancer is a big deal and a life changer. Many of us need help with that. I needed it when I was his caretaker and I need it now that I have cancer. He hasn't needed it for any of this. He is a wonderful positive guy!

      over 4 years ago

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